The rant about your ex thread

[winneythepooh7]

OK I haven't read this whole thread but I have to rant about my ex. I recently made nice with him for many reasons, one of them being that it is easier to be "friends" then enemies. Anyways, long story short, he called me tonight to just shoot the shit. I realized (again) how happy I am we are broken up when within a minute of the conversation he began telling me how I should be living my life and how I shouldn't work for the agency I do and I should work at a hospital and not to trust my new boyfriend because it's only been a couple of months and I should live in a certain place and blah de blah de blah de blah. Oh the best is when he tried to tell me what my job is and what Social Workers do in hospitals, and why "Hospital Social Workers" are the ones who make the most difference in the world because they make they most money (????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!). (By the way he is a law student so he has no clue what I do in comparison). Actually no, that's not the best, the best of the best was when he began evaluating my friend's long-term relationship with HER boyfriend. I am so glad God invented break-ups because they help you realize how far you have come since certain people now matter how much they suck when you are going through them.

[James]

Maybe this is true, but its even easier to just not talk to the person

Originally posted by winneythepooh7
OK I haven't read this whole thread but I have to rant about my ex. I recently made nice with him for many reasons, one of them being that it is easier to be "friends" then enemies. .

[winneythepooh7]

Originally posted by James
Maybe this is true, but its even easier to just not talk to the person

You're right James. But believe it or not NYC is a really small place when it comes to running into people you really do not want to see. So better it be on civil terms then a totally uncomfortable, uncivil situation. A main reason I decided to "speak to him on occasion" is because he happens to live in the neighborhood that my friends and I like to hang out in, as well as my new boy, who also frequents that area. If I am on speaking terms with an ex it is just easier. How many of you understand what I am saying?

[James]

I understand what you are saying, I just wouldn't have time for an ex that just wanted to call me and chat about useless stuff. Or worse, deride me.

That is beyond what I deem "polite civility."

Or amiable courtesy.

Originally posted by winneythepooh7
You're right James. But believe it or not NYC is a really small place when it comes to running into people you really do not want to see. So better it be on civil terms then a totally uncomfortable, uncivil situation. A main reason I decided to "speak to him on occasion" is because he happens to live in the neighborhood that my friends and I like to hang out in, as well as my new boy, who also frequents that area. If I am on speaking terms with an ex it is just easier. How many of you understand what I am saying?

[winneythepooh7]

Yeah. That is one of the many reasons though why he is my ex and I can rant about him Two more days till the weekend oh yay!!!!!

[Lindz928]

I guess I only kind of understand what you're saying. For me it has been much easier to just cut off all communication with my ex, even when we lived in the same small town (WAY small compared to NYC). But, that may have been because it was a very painful breakup and before we stopped speaking, all he ever did was try to make me feel like a bad person for doing things that hurt him in the past. It is also much easier not to have to see or hear or think about him and his new girlfriend, which he enjoyed rubbing in my face every time I talked to him.

I can't believe I ever considered marrying this man.