I Don't Date Outside of My Race... - Page 7

OhioCentaur · #91 03-01-2006, 12:39 PM

Killin 'em softly... with her song.... telling his whole life... thru her words... killin 'em softly... with her sssssssssooooooooooooonnnnnggggggooonnngongongong

Un yea doooooooo do do dooooooooo

ONE TIME!

preciousjeni · #92 03-02-2006, 04:08 PM

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Originally posted by Boom_Quack13
I wish a non-black woman would come to me asking about how to straighten out her Black man. Just like I don't give out soul food recipes and hair advice for their kids, I sure as heck ain't about to advise them on how to get that man together. If he is such a headache or she can't handle him, she should have left him where he was.

This post has been bothering me for a minute. So, I've decided to say something.

On straightening out a man: I have no use for advice on this as my man is respectful. How condenscending to suggest that a man be treated as a child who needs to be "straightened out." I left that type of man alone and in my past.

On soul food recipes: I am southern. I already know about southern soul food. But, it doesn't matter since my man is a vegetarian and health nut.

On hair advice: As if all non-black women were so ignorant...Ok - I've heard horror stories about babies getting their hair yanked out with fine-toothed combs and getting their scalps burned by inexperienced hairdressing mothers, but not everyone is this way. I, for one, will be keeping my daughter's/daughters' (if I am so blessed) hair natural until she is 16 - at which time we will discuss other options that she may prefer aesthetically. My son/sons will maintain a low-cut style. I will insure that ALL of my children are as neat and comfortable as possible.

Hair care is not a mystery if you have half a brain.

ETA: There ARE options for biracial children. For example: http://www.curls.biz/index.htm

AKA2D '91 · #93 03-02-2006, 05:02 PM

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Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
LOL - For real though, Matthew is fine.

I removed him from my list. He was on Barbara Walters' special last night. He has not worn DEODORANT in YEARS.

Honeykiss1974 · #94 03-02-2006, 05:07 PM

Preciousjeni, I'm not trying to be funny, but you do realize that everything on that "biracial" kids hairsite IS nothing more than black products repackaged to fill a niche? Blacks have hair textures of all kinds (bone straight to kinky) including those that some people have labeled "biracial kids hair". Taking care of it can not be found in a certain line of products but in knowing INDIVIDUALLY your hair and its needs. Shoot, I've been using a Denman brush for YEARS and they are pubbing it on that site like its something special. lol

Having been in Boom_Quack's shoes, I can agree with her. After a while, that kind of stiff gets tiring - I mean seriously. I want to ask some folks - "did you not stop to educate yourself before entering into this union about some of the things you may need to do or learn?" Because there is more to a relationship than just love.

Now, I may sound like a hypocrite because the person I'm dating right now is white.

(lol) But thank you lord, I don't have to educate him on stuff like. He knew going into the situation what is going on. He grew up in the south so he knows what greens and chitterlings are. He knows why some sistahs where a scarf on their head at night and difference between a relaxed and a natural. I'd die a slow death if I knew he was soliciting advice from strangers in Wal-mart about how to deal with black ______ (hair, food, etc.).

Honeykiss1974 · #95 03-02-2006, 05:07 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
I removed him from my list. He was on Barbara Walters' special last night. He has not worn DEODORANT in YEARS.

NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

preciousjeni · #96 03-02-2006, 05:24 PM

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Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
Preciousjeni, I'm not trying to be funny, but you do realize that everything on that "biracial" kids hairsite IS nothing more than black products repackaged to fill a niche?

No, I do understand. However, the company was founded by a biracial woman and the site provides information for mothers who really have no clue. The issue is treated with sensitivity and tips are given freely - with no conditions. That was my point.

I, personally, already know how to take care of hair.

ETA: I've used various products on my hair, especially when I had braids. I learned the hard way about hair breakage! My experience with taking care of children has long since widened my horizons. I know there is thick hair, thin hair; straighter hair, curlier hair; and I'm also aware of differing textures across the board. All hair is made of the same stuff - it just acts different. And, the curlier hair is, the more dry it tends to be. All of this is true for women worldwide, regardless of ethnicity.

preciousjeni · #97 03-02-2006, 05:27 PM

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Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
Having been in Boom_Quack's shoes, I can agree with her. After a while, that kind of stiff gets tiring - I mean seriously. I want to ask some folks - "did you not stop to educate yourself before entering into this union about some of the things you may need to do or learn?" Because there is more to a relationship than just love.

Oops - I meant to respond to this too! I DID stop to educate myself. But, Boom_Quack didn't account for people like me.

Oh - and I appreciate your comments - you demonstrate an understanding of what I'm talking about.

mulattogyrl · #98 03-02-2006, 05:40 PM

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Originally posted by preciousjeni
ETA: There ARE options for biracial children. For example: http://www.curls.biz/index.htm

Oh wow, I'm a biracial grown-up, but thanks for the website!

teena · #99 03-02-2006, 05:42 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
I removed him from my list. He was on Barbara Walters' special last night. He has not worn DEODORANT in YEARS.

That is hearbreaking!

OhioCentaur · #**100** 03-02-2006, 05:42 PM

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Originally posted by mulattogyrl
Oh wow, I'm a biracial grown-up, but thanks for the website!

A sexy one at that

OhioCentaur · #**101** 03-02-2006, 05:43 PM

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Originally posted by teena
That is hearbreaking!

the removing from the list or the not wearing deodorant for years?

preciousjeni · #**102** 03-02-2006, 05:45 PM

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Originally posted by mulattogyrl
Oh wow, I'm a biracial grown-up, but thanks for the website!

No problem! I prefer to support companies that "get it" whatever the product or service may be. This company recognizes that curly hair, regardless of ethnicity, must be treated with extra care. As Honeykiss said, these products are certainly available elsewhere, so it's a matter of supporting the people I most identify with.