Unusual sighting- etiquette of it?

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by deepimpact2

1. Just because Scandia asked for thoughts on the situation did not mean that she had to do what people said to do.

2. Do you think you are representing yourself or any organization you may belong to by ranting like this? Is the profanity really necessary? No wait. A better question is why that kind of language is even allowed on the
board.

3. I think you all are making too big of a deal about what she did. It didn't sound like she humiliated him. It sounded more like they had a conversation and she simply told him what the significance was of the letters on the hat. So what? That wouldn't be the first time that someone informed someone who wasn't from this country about what something means.

ha ha ha ha

ETA: one more Ha

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by icelandelf

ha ha ha ha

ETA: one more Ha

What my sister said. Plus one. Ha!

[Xidelt]

Originally Posted by deepimpact2

1. Just because Scandia asked for thoughts on the situation did not mean that she had to do what people said to do.

2. Do you think you are representing yourself or any organization you may belong to by ranting like this? Is the profanity really necessary? No wait. A better question is why that kind of language is even allowed on the
board.

3. I think you all are making too big of a deal about what she did. It didn't sound like she humiliated him. It sounded more like they had a conversation and she simply told him what the significance was of the letters on the hat. So what? That wouldn't be the first time that someone informed someone who wasn't from this country about what something means.

Isn't there somebody out perping your org that you need to go get all upset about?

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

You need a hobby.

WOW, KSUV got snarky! I need to play the numbers tomorrow!

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

She has one... Remember the cosplay/doll thing she does... She just needs a life.

Gross-a-roo......

Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

What a great way to snatch away the dignity of an already downtrodden person in the name of petty personal interests. This poor man was given the hat out of kindness and for all you know could be the only one he owns. Thanks to you he gets to be self conscious about wearing it. Since he was polite in what was the undoubtedly uncomfortable situation you placed him in, it's good to see that one person in this "transaction" has an understanding of etiquette. I hope you are proud of yourself.

One of my former students wore a HUGE Kappa Alpha Psi quilted jacket to a parent meeting one day. I though to myself "Self, that's something you don't see every day. A Latino Kappa in his 40s. I wonder where he went to school. Wow, and he doesn't speak English.... oh wait, he's not a Kappa. Awwww " And that's where it ended.

If I had another, better coat to give him, I would have traded him for it JUST to avoid him having embarrassing or potentially threatening situations because of it. But I didn't, so I minded my business.

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

I guess my only issue is that since you're a public librarian (and regardless of GLO clothing), if he feels uncomfortable because you pointed out he has womens clothing on he may not come back to the library out of shame and he may need the resources a public library has to offer. If he is not a person with English as a first language and different cultural attitudes, that sort of nosiness may actually hinder what you try to accomplish as a librarian. My understanding is that you're supposed to help people, even if you're not a fan of what they want to kn ow or their choice in research, and send them on their merry way with warm librarian fuzzies.

So I guess this can also extend to someone who is questioning their gender, or in the midst of changing their gender, or is transgendered, and if they are coming to a public library with alleged equal access for all, it can be a huge problem. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE judging people (especially those with Goach bags or fugly crocs), but there is a time and place and I really think it goes against librarian ethics to ask him, especially once you realized English was not his first language. Maybe you disagree with say, premarital sex, but if a patron asks you for information, you're supposed to do it without judgment or comment.

Who's the librarian police, Nancy Pearl?

I really like you.

Originally Posted by Xidelt

Isn't there somebody out perping your org that you need to go get all upset about?

FTW, with an assist:

[nittanyalum]

Ok, the last 3 pages have been worth the price of admission. Thanks, folks.

And all I can say is, WOW, if KSUViolet's even in here talking smack, that's sayin' somethin!

(and by the way, keep it up, KSUV, I love that side of you! )

Originally Posted by Senusret I

WOW, KSUV got snarky!

I thought that too. I wanted to run up and down the street and celebrate.

FTW, with an assist:

FTW INDEED.

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by deepimpact2

1. Just because Scandia asked for thoughts on the situation did not mean that she had to do what people said to do.

2. Do you think you are representing yourself or any organization you may belong to by ranting like this? Is the profanity really necessary? No wait. A better question is why that kind of language is even allowed on the
board.

3. I think you all are making too big of a deal about what she did. It didn't sound like she humiliated him. It sounded more like they had a conversation and she simply told him what the significance was of the letters on the hat. So what? That wouldn't be the first time that someone informed someone who wasn't from this country about what something means.

This is coming from someone who thinks it is ok to remove items of clothing off people who wear their letters (not necessarily by you, but advocating the action of others who do). I am so hurt. *lollers*

I don't recall giving you a hard time about your choice of how YOU represent your group. So, I am not sure why you chose to give me a hard time. If that is how you choose to interact with me, then so be it.

But, I think it says a lot that you don't think what she did was bad.

Oh, and I would tell you that the swearing issue has been raised before. My response is that if John didn't like the word FUCK -- he would have banned it along with some of the words on here that are banned. Since he is well aware of my swearing, I would say it is not an issue for you to worry about. If it offends you, feel free to put me on ignore. I have no plans to fucking stop swearing. And, I am quite confident that at some point in time, at least one of my founders probably swore or said something slightly dirty...

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

And all I can say is, WOW, if KSUViolet's even in here talking smack, that's sayin' somethin!

(and by the way, keep it up, KSUV, I love that side of you! )

Originally Posted by OTW

I thought that too. I wanted to run up and down the street and celebrate.

It always starts with one snarky comment. 18 months later, she'll be the female version of me and everyone will wonder what went wrong.

Welcome to the dark side, KSUV.

[deepimpact2]

Originally Posted by Xidelt

Isn't there somebody out perping your org that you need to go get all upset about?

I bet it took all of your brain cells to come up with that "witty" remark. lol

[DrPhil]

I don't think I would've said anything to him. However, I have given polite and even jokingly serious advice to people who unknowingly, or knowingly, wore an organization's letters. I'd rather I neutrally say something than for them to run across a lunatic member.

This is not one of those instances. Similarly, years ago, we were doing service at a food bank and a homeless man saw our lettered tshirts and took off his jacket to show us that he had on our symbols. We stopped and stared at him because it took us off guard. But when he got in line for his pancakes and sausages, we didn't say anything to him. Not knowing this man's education level or story (since there are homeless people with degrees and who are members of sororities and fraternities), we assumed that he knows where he got the shirt from and knows that the shirt probably belonged to something he 1) may know nothing about and 2) obviously isn't a member of. No point in going any further.

We have been laughing at that story for 10 years.

I do think that some people are overreacting to Scandia. And she's silly for giving you all an update. LOL.

[deepimpact2]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

But, I think it says a lot that you don't think what she did was bad.

I think it says a lot that you can't get your point across without using profanity.

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by deepimpact2

I think it says a lot that you can't get your point across without using profanity.

Oh, I COULD. But, it wouldn't entertain me as much...

Is this where we are at now? You can't think of anything else to do but insult people... Huh.

[Xidelt]

Originally Posted by deepimpact2

I bet it took all of your brain cells to come up with that "witty" remark. lol

for those that are supposedly stupid and low-iq, such as myself, allow me to interpret this high-brow comeback:

you thtoopid!

[deepimpact2]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Is this where we are at now? You can't think of anything else to do but insult people... Huh.

Odd that you are saying that to me with all the nastiness that is going on around here. My comments are not nearly as insulting as other comments have been.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

What a great way to snatch away the dignity of an already downtrodden person in the name of petty personal interests. This poor man was given the hat out of kindness and for all you know could be the only one he owns. Thanks to you he gets to be self conscious about wearing it. Since he was polite in what was the undoubtedly uncomfortable situation you placed him in, it's good to see that one person in this "transaction" has an understanding of etiquette. I hope you are proud of yourself.

Good grief. Cue the violins.

L-O-L