Ask a SF . . . Random questions

[OrangeMoon]

Why do some SFs choose not to use it? In regards to flip-flopping between orgs, if you never said anything, then no one would ever know that you changed your mind.
So, SFs, I ask you, how do you view discretion and what does it mean to you? What do you think it means to the organization?
Some SFs do not choose to use discretion because they do not know the protocol or simply do not care. Truthfully, I have never flip flopped. Discretion to me is when the “right” people need to know on a need to know basis such as if you are asked by the “right” person or having to present yourself at the “right” time. An organization is a group of people joined together to accomplish a goal or many goals.

If you were a legacy, would you tell? I am not a legacy but if I was my lips would be sealed.

If your blood sister was an AKA perp would you tell or would you let my Sorors think she was real?
Yes, I would tell. But I would have to explain to my “sister” how perping is viewed and why perping will get her anything hopefully .

Have you ever thought about perping? What made you decide against it?
No, I have never thought about perping. My decision not to perp was simple you will get found out and why fake when you have not done the work. Wearing para is a honor and privilege.

In your own words, what is the difference between a necessity and a luxury? [/b]
[b] Necessity things essential to survival. Luxury something you want and is not needed for survival.

If you have to ask what the "right" reason is for joining an organization, should you even be thinking about joining? NO

What, if any, is the advantage of doing community service in a group as opposed to doing it alone?
The advantages of doing community service in a group are to work together as a group, uphold the principles of the organization and serve your community. The advantages alone are the same except you are alone.


If you have always wanted Sorority ABC and instead go to Sorority XYZ, what makes Sorority ABC "not right" for you anymore? What are you looking for in any Sorority?

I have not had this occur. Sisterhood, diversity and giving back to the community.

Knowing what you know about your organization of choice, what would make you a "fit"? [b]My drive, organizational skills and ability to create results. [b]

Okay, let's say you were chosen for the organization that you want, but another person that you really don't like at all was also chosen. How do you handle that?

I would welcome them and just deal.

What are your favorite colors?
Purple and white

Why do SOME SFs say they want to join XYZ because of the colors?

Because they are superficial and immature.

Why do some SFs choose XYZ org ONLY because their boyfriend/manfriend is a member of DEF? What happens if you and your boy/manfriend breakup? Then what?

I am not sure why this happens just an assumption to either uphold a legacy in their family or their own reasons. You move on your bonded to that organization not to that man.

Why is it that SOME SFs have their own agenda? Why not establish SF Social and Pleasure Aid Club?

Some SFs have their own agenda because they feel this is their only outlet.(I would assume). Actually, I know of some SFs but there are some things that you just do not speak about if I see them on campus and we participate in the same activities I will talk to them about the activity or school matters but in regards to our organization the conversation never begins.


Do you (not just coco, collective you) think that Alpha Kappa Alpha should discontinue membership at the undergraduate level so that we can make sure we are taking women who KNOW what they want?

No I do not think Alpha Kappa Alpha should discontinue membership at the undergraduate level because I am undergrad and I see the results (that I know of) that these women create. Undergraduate membership from what I know prepares women for the next level and beyond.



What ARE the national programs of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.? How have they differed Through the Years?

What, in your honest opinion, is the purpose of a sorority? Now, how does it relate to the purpose of Alpha Kappa Alpha? Are they aligned? And do you believe that they HAVE to be aligned in order for you to join the organization?

My honest opinion SERVICE. From what I have read service is one of the main goals. Yes, service and the purpose of Alpha Kappa Alpha are definitely aligned. Yes, the purpose of the sorority and Alpha Kappa Alpha must be aligned this is what drives my interest.



Why is it that some SF's feel that XYZ Sorority Inc. wasn't a good fit for them in undergrad and go so far as to belittle XYZ Sorority, Inc... but will break there neck for sponsorship on the graduate level for XYZ Sorority, Inc?

Immaturity.

Why is it that some SF's are so bold as to tell me WHEN they are going to become a member of XYZ Sorority, Inc?

Immaturity and lack of respect.


If you could choose your own linesisters would you? What would be your criteria?

No I would not want to choose my own linesisters.

If you knew FOR CERTAIN that you would NEVER have the opportunity to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha, would you go ahead and seek membership elsewhere?

No I would not


What role, if any, have greek stereotypes played in your interest/selection of a sorority?

I am an educated woman.

If you knew FOR CERTAIN that in order to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha you would HAVE TO spend an extra year in undergrad would you submit an application and stay in school that extra year or continue your studies/graduate on time and hope to be invited to a graduate chapter? Why or Why not?

If I knew for certain considering the circumstances yes because I would like to minor in two other areas of business so that extra year would give allow me to do the work of the organization and further my studies.

If your mother, for whatever reasons, forbade you to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha would you do it anyway (assume that her opinion CANNOT be changed)? Why or Why not?

Actually my mother has a very negative view of sororities however my interest till continues.



Do you all know SF that there is a difference between an interest and a prospective?
Interest a woman who is interesting in a particular sorority. Prospective someone who has submitted a letter of intent.(I’m not really sure)


If your mother is a member of XYZ, then how come she is unable to get all the stuff you need to do your research if she's still alive--or just because she's a "silver star" does she think you ought to skate into her sorority?

I cannot answer that considering my mother is not a member of a sorority and her own personal views.



How come the explicit written down on paper parts of the intake process seem extremely unclear to you all, especially after all the information has been presented at Rush?

I have never gone to Rush but if it is written on paper I would take it at face value and abide to the rules.




How come the application process so scary to you all? Are you all afraid of being rejected? And why?
Personally, the application process is not scary however, if my “on-point” may not be someone else “on-point” so I would strive to be the best of the best, deal with it and move on.




How come some of you all demand to be questioned with a harsh tone and expect us to be "gracious" afterward? We have feelings too and we work hard... Just asking...

This is actually the first time I have actually questioned. I was not aware that it was demanding or taken in a harsh tone. My apologies if the questions were taken that way. Also, I would not expect anyone to be “gracious” when questioning about my interest because it is membership that you have worked hard for and you only want to make sure that certain information remains guarded.

Why if your school's chapter of XYZ is no longer on campus (suspended/expelled/never existed), why do you think you can harass the Graduate Advisor of another school in the same city? Why ask if you can "cross-"pledge""? IF you researched the organization, you would KNOW if it is possible to do. Then, you would know that "pledging" is not a recognized activity. Also, why not check with the school you attend for information? Or, check with the other university to determine what it's guidelines are regarding this matter?
Well, personally I have never harassed or contacted the Graduate Advisor. Oh now as for those words…never used them. In concern to school or other universities I will not say they wouldn’t know but, I would check the website for the organization in regards to guidelines.


Why do SFs still use the term pledge? That term is negative and should not be used in regards to a positive organization.
Maybe they do not know the context in which that term is taken in regards to the organization.

Why do AKA SFs ignore the anti-hazing policy? Total disregard for protocol.
Do you know what the AKA anti-hazing policy includes? (if so, don't post...only reflect and digest the info and make it applicable to your lives)
Yes and digesting.

Are you currently involved in other organizations? If so how many? Is your interest in AKA genuine or is it just another organization to add to your resume? Yes, a professional organization, community organization and cultural organization. My interest are genuine and I would not add it to my resume.

Do you think you can remain a committed member to those you are already involved in and maintain membership in AKA if you are chosen? Do you have the funds to support all? Do you have the time to support all?
Yes, and yes I will maintain membership if chosen. Yes, I have the funds and time to support all and if not I and HE will make a way. Balance

What are you actively doing to obtain membership in Alpha Kappa Alpha?
Attending public events, talking to members when appropriate and supporting activities with time, effort and financial/item contribution.


If you are a grad level interest, do you find that attending grad events are expensive? If so, how do you expect to pay dues?
I am not a grad level interest but soon that will be an option.

For any contacts made with members, is it genuine (considering these will be the people you may be working with) or is it just a means to an end (I've got letters)? Yes, my contact is genuine.
Have you done a self-assessment to determine are you really up to par? Do you find that your peers (those who are interest like yourself) are up to par?
Yes, I have done a self-assessment which has driven me personally and educationally to achieve “par” status. I have never really done an assessment of my peers however, I have found them to be very versatile in many aspects.

If an AKA chapter on your campus holds programs and community service events and you don't attend, how do you expect to show interest? How do you expect the members to even notice you and decided whether you'd make a good member by organizing and participating in those events that you couldn't attend?
Simple you show up, introduce yourself when appropriate and participate.

If you do attend programs and community service events, do you make yourself known to members? Do members only know a face without a name?
Yes I attend program and community service events making my face and name known when appropriate.

Why do some SFs who may be aware of the Ave.'s policy about membership and intake questions attempt to go to other areas of the board and expect questions to be answered? Immaturity and immaturity.


If you had an opportunity to attend a "closed" meeting (ie. Boule, Regional Conference) COMPLETELY undetected; would you go? No



If all membership requirements were TOTALLY waived and ANYONE could be member, would you still want to be an Alpha Kappa Alpha woman? No




If the fees associated with membership were $10,000, would you still pursue. How about $25,000? Yes, if was finances were in order.



If you KNEW FOR A FACT that another woman being considered for membership was a Liar, would you say anything? And why or why not .........How about a Thief?.......................How about a "homewrecker"...........................
I honestly have to say YES because I would not want a negative element (KNOWN FOR A FACT with evidence) in or around.

Why do some SF use screen/logon names that could suggest that they are members?
Immaturity, failure to read the POW and lack of respect.


Are you saying that if you are not granted membership into Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc, that you would pursue membership in ANOTHER sorority?
NO

If so, do you want to become a member of a CERTAIN sorority or ANY sorority? CERTAIN
If you are members of other organizations, what offices have you held? Have you served as a/an committee chair(s)?

VP, Membership committee, and President.


What resources/connections do you have that would be beneficial to the local chapter, if pursuing Graduate Membership?

My relationship with the educational institution I attend and possibly with a particular company later once footing is established.
If a memberfriend invited you to a function and you have a scheduling conflict, what would you do?

I would attend the function if I could reschedule the event. Or, if rescheduling was not an option for the other event explain why I would not attend and would be happy to attend the next function if she extends and invitation.

Would you think it was fair of the memberfriend to refrain from extending future invitations? Yes

[abaici]

Soror abaici returns to thread to read more interesting responses

Originally posted by wannabeina
You have misinterpreted my responses. I never said I "would join anybody's Sorority if an invitation was unable to be extended ". Ignorance.... Excuses... Clarification.... hmmmm
You seem to be the one asking for clarification.

**a'la The Color Purple** Time to Go!!!

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by wannabeina
You have misinterpreted my responses. I never said I "would join anybody's Sorority if an invitation was unable to be extended ". Ignorance.... Excuses... Clarification.... hmmmm
You seem to be the one asking for clarification.

Well, good luck on YOUR interview and letters of recommendation... I wonder who will write you one now and why?

You have disrespected my Soror Abaici by failing to answer her direct questions and have given inappropriately responses to me with anger... That is hazing against my Sorority and that is why an invitation for membership may fail to be extended to you...

My next question:

How come SF's FAIL to realize that the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. are constantly crossreferencing with other NPHC sororities as well as NPC sororities about certain interests?

[SKEEphistAKAte]

Originally posted by wannabeina
You have misinterpreted my responses. I never said I "would join anybody's Sorority if an invitation was unable to be extended ". Ignorance.... Excuses... Clarification.... hmmmm
You seem to be the one asking for clarification.

*praying aloud* "...Please lawd don't let me get crunk in this piece."

[btb87]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
*praying aloud* "...Please lawd don't let me get crunk in this piece."

*rubbing Soror's shoulders as she spars in the corner*

Okay Soror, let's repeat what we've heard Rev. Mase say:

Breathe
Stretch
Shake
Let it go

Soror abaici, you're too much (Color Purple reference)!

[abaici]

Originally posted by btb87
*rubbing Soror's shoulders as she spars in the corner*

Okay Soror, let's repeat what we've heard Rev. Mase say:

Breathe
Stretch
Shake
Let it go

Soror abaici, you're too much (Color Purple reference)!

LAWD, NOOOOOOOOOOO!!! Not Rev. TalkTooSlow?!?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
*praying aloud* "...Please lawd don't let me get crunk in this piece."

Awwwwwwww, SAW-RAH BIG SISTAH SKEE phist AKA te!!!

You know we have to skraiten up this line of i.v.i.e.s. wrauygh-ittt to be sssssssooooooo, tight!!!



When you grow up, if you grow up, can you be just like ME???













NO!!!!

[abaici]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Awwwwwwww, SAW-RAH BIG SISTAH SKEE phist AKA te!!!

You know we have to skraiten up this line of i.v.i.e.s. wrauygh-ittt to be sssssssooooooo, tight!!!



When you grow up, if you grow up, can you be just like ME???

LOL!!!!!!











NO!!!!

[Paradise359]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Awwwwwwww, SAW-RAH BIG SISTAH SKEE phist AKA te!!!

You know we have to skraiten up this line of i.v.i.e.s. wrauygh-ittt to be sssssssooooooo, tight!!!



When you grow up, if you grow up, can you be just like ME???














NO!!!!

Can't. Breathe! LOL!

[Paradise359]

Originally posted by wannabeina
You have misinterpreted my responses. I never said I "would join anybody's Sorority if an invitation was unable to be extended ". Ignorance.... Excuses... Clarification.... hmmmm
You seem to be the one asking for clarification.

Well, Thank You for playing. We have wonderful consolation prizes if you'll just follow AKA_Monet out that door....

[SKEEphistAKAte]

LOL, You all are too much. I love my Sorors! AKA Monet you are a trip...Big Sistah SKEE?...so many people would drop (that is if they were lucky enough to figure out when/where the real Rush was )

Anyhow, I just wanted to say that stuff like this reminds me of the frustration that I felt as a serious interest. There were always a few idiots (for lack of a better term) who seemed to ruin the lines of communication between members and interests. This could have been a very productive, enlightening thread (i.e. I could've learned some names and institutions ), but we have wannabe's demonstrating that common sense is in no way common.

Tip to SF's: If you really wannabeina sorority, exercise HUMILITY.

*Going to add an entry to the book I'm writing entitled "Common Sense for Dummies"---------------->

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
LOL, You all are too much. I love my Sorors! AKA Monet you are a trip...Big Sistah SKEE?...so many people would drop (that is if they were lucky enough to figure out when/where the real Rush was )

Anyhow, I just wanted to say that stuff like this reminds me of the frustration that I felt as a serious interest. There were always a few idiots (for lack of a better term) who seemed to ruin the lines of communication between members and interests. This could have been a very productive, enlightening thread (i.e. I could've learned some names and institutions ), but we have wannabe's demonstrating that common sense is in no way common.

Tip to SF's: If you really wannabeina sorority, exercise HUMILITY.

*Going to add an entry to the book I'm writing entitled "Common Sense for Dummies"---------------->

Big Sistah SKEE,

me sliVee wannabeina:

A) boot...

K) on thin ice...

A) and S-K-A-T-E across the way...

Here's my letter! Whaddya t'ink?

Ol' Skool Dayz in the quad: Dayum she put it on pink paper with green ink!!! Better alert the TASK FORCE...

[wannabeina]

What did you expect from this forum? Ya'll say "There are no responses" then you say "These responses are rhetoric" now you want me to go away when I try to answer the questions honestly. There is no pleasing this group.

Just for clarification.
If I went to rush and was not extended membership, then I would try again.
If I was barred from membership, then NO I would not go to another sorority.
If I was looking to join a sorority and your sorority was not available to me in any capacity (I'm not talking about being barred from membership) and would never be available to me if I lived on the hilltop of an isolated mountain with only 1 thousand people, then I would review my choices available to me even if it was a local sorority.

If you ask what's the difference between not available(hilltop) and not available(barring membership), then I would say this:
If I applied to this sorority and showed my interest, why would I want to go somewhere else? On the other hand, if the sorority was never available to me, what's wrong with lookiing elsewhere?

[wannabeina]

Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte

Anyhow, I just wanted to say that stuff like this reminds me of the frustration that I felt as a serious interest. There were always a few idiots (for lack of a better term) who seemed to ruin the lines of communication between members and interests. This could have been a very productive, enlightening thread (i.e. I could've learned some names and institutions ), but we have wannabe's demonstrating that common sense is in no way common.

Tip to SF's: If you really wannabeina sorority, exercise HUMILITY.

*Going to add an entry to the book I'm writing entitled "Common Sense for Dummies"---------------->

Why can't I just be me? I am not trying to disrespect anyone, but I will not be disrespected either. If you want SisterFriends to answer your question, maybe attacking us about our responses is not a good idea. If the answer wasn't satisfactory then why not say so in a constructive manner. I thought this forum was a good idea too. I never planned on giving out any type of personal information, but I would have been happy to answer questions in a non hostile environment.

[2DISCRETE4U]

Originally posted by abaici
If a memberfriend invited you to a function and you have a scheduling conflict, what would you do?

Would you think it was fair of the memberfriend to refrain from extending future invitations?

*If I wasn't able to reschedule for the event invited to, then I would let that person know what I previously had to do and that I appreciate the invitation.

*Whether or not she felt the need to refrain from inviting me to another event is at her discretion. But I would hope that a scheduling conflict wouldn't make her feel as though she had to avoid extending me an invitation in the future.