KurtBuschFan's Rush Thread

[GeekyPenguin]

I rushed and pledged knowing I'd be transferring. It worked out fine and my sisters from my first school are some of my best friends in the world.

[pinkyphimu]

yikes. i am sorry to hear that things are so crazy for you right now!!! i hope you get it straightened out because that doesn't sound right at all! go to the parties and meet some more sisters. challenger may not be offering bids until the spring (i don't know, i am just thinking it is late in the semester and might be hard to fit you in to the current new member class or to have a second class). have fun!!

[KurtBuschFan]

I honestly don't know what they are going to do about bids this late in the semester, I know they did not make quota this semester, but that's about all I know. I should know more after this week, as I think I will go to at least the first party and go from there...

Also, I want to post my condolences to the Hendrick family during this time of loss. As you may know a Hendrick plane went down on the way to the NASCAR race today and lost 10 passenger, 4 of whom were a part of the Hendrick family, the rest were a part of the Hendrick business family.

KBF

[adpiucf]

Originally posted by KurtBuschFan
Ok I promised an update and here it is...


Due to some extinuating circumstances, I may not be back at my current school next spring. I have been told by a couple of profs that I am not going to get into my program of choice due to my political leanings. This is mainly because I am outspoken in class and have to problem speaking my mind. Because of this, I have a couple of profs who have taken a dislike to me. They have since told me that i will not be getting into my program. Therefor I have chosen to apply to a school that is nearby with the equivalant program. They also have a greek system, and one that is quite well respected. I do know however, that unless I go in as an active, I will not get into their greek system.

I guess it all boils down to this...If I go to these parties, and get a bid, unbeknownst that I am seriously considering a transfer, how bad does it look on me? Am I taking an unecessary risk? I'm sure I could try to COB at my new school, but seeing as I am a senior, I know it is unlikely that I would get a bid.

Even as a transfer Greek, it is not guaranteed the chapter of the sorority at the new school would accept your transfer of membership. Just something to think about.

I do wish you the best with school and your extracurriculars, but if you're having challenges with professors and your grades, it might be a good time to focus on straightening out your life, getting up your grades and moving past this unpleasantness with your program (whether that means transferring to a new school or learning to work with your current professors). Sorority membership is very time intensive, and from everything you've said, you have very decided feelings on certain issues and have a need to pick up your GPA. Although I don't know you personally, from everything you've posted, it would seem that pursuing sorority membership should not be high on your list of priorities-- getting into your program and taking the necessary steps to get along with your professors and do well in your classes-- so you can get good recommendations and an education to establish a CAREER-- should be the priority. Good luck with whatever you decide, but take some time to think about what's really most important. Yes, a sorority is wonderful and fun and a great way to make friends and hone leadership skills and social graces... but if your GPA is down and you're having trouble getting along with superiors (in this case, teachers), there may be other things you should be focusing on right now.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

ETA: I'm not saying you shouldn't enjoy your time in college or get involved on campus. But there are other ways of doing this that won't be as time-intensive as a sorority, that also won't conflict with any outspoken or different political views. Sorority membership does encourage diversity and promotes leadership, but also is a lot about functioning within teams and accepting a certain level of conformity. If you're having trouble working with professors, or you're regarded as outspoken and having very different views, a sorority really isn't the best place for you to feel at home, IMHO. You might be happier in Student Gov't, Young Democrats/Republicans/Libertarians, Peer Education, etc... Again this is just my opinion as a graduate and a sorority member, and based on what you have posted and I have understood. I want you to be happy with whatever you decide. If you're hellbent on sorority membership, than just do it. But I'm regarding that for right here and now, a more sensible approach would be to get involved on campus in some other activities, get a tutor, pull up those grades and have a heart-to-heart with the head of your department. Professors don't willfully make students' lives miserable, contrary with popular belief. They do have lives, and if they are so hugely unpopular because they are making coursework and student life so challenging, their semesterly student evaluations will quickly lead them down the unemployment line.

[kddani]

well said adpiucf

[astroAPhi]

I think you've been offered some excellent advice on here from both sides of the coin. I would just check it out to see what your options are and weigh it later if you decide you really do want a bid.

All I can say is good luck. What a sticky situation.

[valkyrie]

I think it's really hard for anyone to offer advice here without knowing the whole story, which it's understandable that you can't really share with us. It's one thing if you're having a hard time getting along with your professors, but it's another entirely if they're treating you like crap because they don't agree with your political views, which you should be free to express when they're relevant. I can see what adpiucf is saying, but I can't say that I agree with the idea that you should spend all of your time figuring out how to best resolve your situation in the interests of furthering your career. Everybody needs to have fun and pursue other things that interest them, whether it's directly related to your ultimate career goals or not.

Anyway, I don't see anything wrong with joining a sorority at this point if you are offered membership. You may end up transferring and there's no guarantee that you'd be able to affiliate with the chapter on your new campus, if there even is one -- but membership is for life, so even if you can't continue to be involved at the collegiate level, that's certainly not the end of the road for you. As long as you give all you can to the organization while you're there, that's all anyone can really ask of you.