Did you get your first choice? - Page 6

sairose · #76 06-16-2003, 11:02 PM

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Originally posted by KillarneyRose
I loved your story, Sairose! You are such a great example of someone who joined a GLO for all the right reasons

Thanks a whole lot.

SAI is very near and dear to my heart. It took me a bit of searching to find my home, but I'm glad I waited instead of joining a sorority just to be joining one, y'know?

AlphaGamDiva · #77 06-17-2003, 08:11 PM

yes, yes i did!

it was a hard decision as i enjoyed all my pref parties and girls in different GLOs....a legacy to one group, really bonded with one girl in particular in another.....but i felt 100% like alpha gam was the place for me. made a lot of fast connections with the alpha gams and felt completely at home. so i thought about it for 5 minutes in that lil room b/4 signing my bid card with alpha gam 1st...never looked back!

aabby757 · #78 06-19-2003, 04:37 PM

That's a hard question. Especially if you have a large (i.e., many sororities) to choose from.

Do you mean you got your first choice that you listed first on your bid card after pref?

Did you get your first choice before you even went to rush orientation?

Did you get your first choice after your first exposure to all the houses?

I was so worried about getting into a popular sorority that I didn't care which one I got into. However, to answer my own questions,

1) yes
2) no but it was in my brain already
3) no

SigKapQueen · #79 06-19-2003, 10:12 PM

yes yes yes!!! i did get my first choice

the only reason why i went through recruiment was that my friend was a rho chi and she couldnt tell me what chapter she was in. i thought she was in another chapter but low and behold she was in sigma kappa. i couldnt imagine my life without sigm kappa!

Rose&WhiteGirl · #80 07-17-2003, 03:34 PM

I suited (at Purdue we call the pref round suits) Pi Phi, Chi-O, and Phi Mu. Pi Phi and Chi-O had really great parties, but my heart was with Phi Mu. I already felt at home when i left. I put them number one and i cant believe im going to be a senior this year. Its amazing how fast time flies when youre having fun

AXOKatie · #81 07-18-2003, 11:42 AM

I remember telling this story, but i'll tell it again

I went through rush because i wanted some of the all-girl bonding that i had in going to an all-female private high school...my orientation counselor was an AXO and she was SO NICE...didn't dirty-rush at all, just said that i would make a great greek and that i should come check out rush...so i did!

i went to all of the houses, got my choices down to my top 5, but when it came time to pref, it was AXO, XYZ and Gamma Phi Beta, in that order...as i was writing out my pref card, i was so torn between the three (max. number allowed to do a pref final for at my school) but i kept remembering AXO's pref night ceremony and it was the reading of our symphony that really clinched it...i knew that i had found a home with faith, hope and love of sisters...yet, i was still wary as if it might be too good to be true...

my rho chi delivered my bid that night and i opened it up and saw the AXO crest and just hit the ceiling and screamed "YES!!!!" the next day, i ran to my house and my orientation counselor just kept hugging me and saying how badly she wanted to say since the beginning of school that i would be the perfect AXO...she is now my big-big sister....looking back, i know that i would have probably made a good gamma phi because it's the house that i am closest too, second only to my own, but seeing how the XYZ sisters acted throughout the year, i know that i would have NEVER fit in there...i am so glad that fate took a hand in my selection process and i followed that voice that said "HEY! pref AXO!"

GPhiSweetiePie · #82 07-18-2003, 12:49 PM

[SIZE=1.5]My story's a little long, but hopefully it will encourage some of you rushees to stick it out.

My older sister attended college at the same campus where I go now, she graduated about 8 yrs ago now. She is a Theta, and originally my thought on my legacy status was that I probably wouldn't be in the same house she had been in. Boy, did that change once recruitment rolled around!

After the first round of parties (16 houses in a day, oh my), I believe I ranked my top 5 as DG, Theta, Chi-O, SK, and Zeta. My sister (who I gave a daily report to) was surprised Theta was so high on my list, not that there's anything wrong with it, but she and I have different personalities so she wasn't sure I'd like her house as much. Turns out at that party the girl who rushed me went to my high school and although I didn't know her very well, we were friends with a lot of the same people, and we had a wonderful conversation about it. I also had a great convo at DG, an OK one at Chi-O (I stupidly ranked them so high due to their popularity, shame on me), was impressed by the down-to-earth girls at SK, and loved the convo and the energy with the Zeta girls. By the way, G-Phi was one of my houses I ranked in the middle, I think 6th or 7th after that day.

Day Two, I went back to DG, Theta, SK, Zeta, G-Phi, DZ, AXO, A-Phi, AGD, and Phi Mu. Chi-O's had released me (Lord knows why, but I know I wouldn't fit in there) and DZ was on my list instead of them, which I was OK with, and the rest of my top 10 was there. After this day, we ranked all the houses again, but we'd be going to 6 the next day. I don't remember my ranking exactly, but I know Zeta was #1 and Theta was #2, and a couple of the houses I had really liked moved down my list a little for various reasons, and a couple I hadn't liked all that much moved up a little. G-Phi was still about 6 or 7, I think.

Day Three, I went back to Zeta, Theta, Pi Phi, AOPi, SK, and G-Phi. Notice that 2 of those, Pi Phi and AOPi, were not houses that I attended on Day 2. While I did have a good time at Pi Phi on day three and ranked them higher after it, I knew I wouldn't pref there after not being there every single day. I knew from day one that I didn't want to be an AOPi, so I didn't really have a good time on day three there, not to mention feeling a little blue because I was there instead of any of the houses I had ranked higher. I was a good sport, though. After this round I realized SK was not for me, either. Again, I don't really remember my rankings, but I know that again, Zeta was #1 and Theta was #2.

Pref day. Oy. I got my list and started bawling. It was SK, AOPi, and G-Phi. I called my sister because at this point I was seriously considering dropping out of rush, I mean come on, my top 2 had released me. Her advice saved me. She said, "You know, all through rush even if you've really liked a house you've told me what reservations you have about it. Except Gamma Phi. That's the only one you haven't had anything remotely bad to say about. So I really think that's where you're supposed to be, but you have to go to the houses you don't like in order to get to the one that you do, those are the rules." She was right. I went to the other parties, knowing I didn't want to be there, and breathed a sigh of relief when I got to G-Phi. I started to really picture myself there and realized how completely genuine all the girls are, a quality that I highly value. When I ranked that day, I put G-Phi first, SK 2nd, and Zeta 3rd, because I knew I was probably going to get my first choice, but if it came down to it I'd still accept a bid from them, and I really did not want to rank AOPi.

On bid day, I opened up the card and saw the crescent moon and about fell on the floor, I was so relieved. I love my G-Phi!!

Let this be a lesson to you rushees...Stick it out, and go with your gut! The corny saying "You'll end up where you're meant to be" is very true in most cases, and where you end up is totally what you make of it.[/SIZE]

Nhfulmer · #83 07-18-2003, 12:51 PM

I rushed in 1960 at Bama. To say the least, it was extremely competitive!! I went into rush wanting to be a Delta Gamma because of one girl I knew and admired from high school. They dropped me the third day which was just as well because I really didn't like the rest of them. I had decided that I liked ADPi best and ZTA was my second choice -- those were the two whose prefs I attended. I was all ready to go ADPi until the president (who I knew from high school) took me aside and told me not to worry, I had a bid. I was smart enough to know that was "dirty rushing" and I didn't want to be a part of that. I put Zeta as my first choice and have never looked back. When my boyfriend (now my husband) picked me up at the dorm for "Squeal Night", he headed for the ADPi house and I had to tell him - "No, I'm pledging Zeta!" He couldn't believe it because at that time ADPi was the better house. Now all these years later, most of my close friends are Zetas from all over the country - I have been a Province President, chapter adviser, alumnae chapter president, etc. and received many honors from Zeta both at the local and national level. Would I have been happy as an ADPi? Probably! Would I have been as happy as I've been as a Zeta? Definitely not!

If we follow our heart, we usually end up where we belong.

MTUkitty · #84 07-27-2003, 07:56 AM

Yes, I got my first choice, and I didn't put down anything else, nor would I have accepted a bid from any other sorority. Granted, my school is pretty small, but for me, there was something different about the place I was supposed to be as opposed to the places I could've ended up. Basically, what I went on was assuming that there could and would be things I liked about everyone, but that there had to be something more than just nice girls for me to ever pledge. I really liked D Phi E b/c they were so much fun and they partied like rockstars, but at the same time, they were really down to earth and they were involved in a lot of other things too. They also never acted entirely too fake, which btw is really easy to see right through.
I could not be happier to be a D Phi E, and to be surrounded by the girls that set themselves apart from the pack.

*~Lisa~*

D-Phi-E
Michigan Technological University

IHeartAXO · #85 07-27-2003, 01:52 PM

Yes.. and No, I guess. I had a bad rush experience, but it all worked out for the best!

During the first days of rush, I met a lot of great girls and had a great time at most of the houses. The next day, when most girls go back to 5 houses, I only went to 3. I was CRUSHED. AXO was one of them and I hadn't really bonded with the girls I had talked to during the first round, but I was more than willing to give them a second try! I was also going back to my number one choice and was really excited that while the other houses dropped me, they must've liked something about me.

I had an AMAZING time at AXO- the girl who toured me was so awesome and so much fun and I TOTALLY bonded with her. I walked out thinking "Wow! That was SO MUCH BETTER than I had imagined!" I was happy they were one of my options now.

I was trying so hard to impress the other house and I was super nervous and ended up being someone I'm not. I still feel that if I had gone that house, I would've been fake every single day. I felt like I constantly had to impress them, you know?

AXO was home. I loved the girls I had met since the first round and it really touched me that they REMEMBERED me. The girl who ended up being my big sis was the reason I joined. I was a little scared during my first year and never really got involved or anything. But, during rush last year I just blossomed and now I'm on our Exec Board and on the Rush Committee and I'm having the time of my life. I couldn't imagine myself ANYWHERE else. They say you should pick a house that you would feel comfortable walking downstairs for breakfast in your pajamas... SO true!

So, while AXO wasn't my number one choice after the first round, they definitely were for Pref. I really am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I was cut from the other houses because AXO was where I belonged and I just hadn't seen it before.

Buttonz · #86 07-29-2003, 12:48 PM

At first, my heart was set on a local on campus...who I got a bid from. 6 weeks into pledging (a min. of 8 weeks) I realized that I would never be able to call msot of them my sisters. I was coming home the last 2 weeks or so misralbe and in tears. I dropped them but I still wanted to be part of greek life. Then I looked at the NPCs during informal rush. At first I thought I was going to go ABC, but after spending time with them as a group I realized that they to were not for me (and I didn't get abid from them which I'm now happy about) Thats what I met SDT and right away I felt at home. The first sister that I talked to and met I felt an instant connection with and it just went that way with every sister I met. I signed my bid card after meeting her, the pres, my pledge sis and pledge mom....and they all made me feel right at home! I love my sisters and wouldn't trade tehm for anything. I jsut wish I met them from the start. (P.S. ABC is our rivals....but I am friendly with two of the girls that got in during the spring....one of them otld me I'm better off where I am)

Not a Mezzo · #87 07-29-2003, 02:14 PM

I rushed as a sophomore, and did a lot of homework the summer before. I checked out the national websites of the 5 NPC sororities we have on campus, checked out individual chapter webpages...didn't check out GC, only because I didn't know about it. But man, what an asset it would've been!

My first choice going into the actual week of recruitment was ADPi. I had envisioned myself as a member of each of the sororities in turn all summer, but ADPi was on the top of my list at that time.

After the first day of parties, though, it was Phi Mu all the way. Not that the ADPi chapter on my campus isn't awesome--a lot of friends in my Rho Chi group went ADPi and have had a great experience--it just wasn't the right fit for me.

On the second day, I met an awesome girl at Sigma Sigma Sigma, which made me really like both them AND Phi Mu. It's kinda funny, actually, because those are the two groups that I just KNEW going into recruitment that I wouldn't like. Of course, that's where I ended up preffing...and while I would truly have loved to be a Sigma (their chapter is so strong right now, with some awesome girls!), I knew all along that Phi Mu was for me. I'm now a bridesmaid in two weddings (my big's and my Rho Chi's!) and wouldn't trade it for the world.

Dolphingirl14 · #88 07-29-2003, 02:32 PM

I definitely got my first choice. I had met a lot of girls in AZD before I decided to go through the fall informal rush and I knew that was the only place I wanted to go. I am very glad I got my bid and I love it where I am today!

AngeBabe · #89 07-29-2003, 03:17 PM

Hey y'all ...

I got my first choice ... which was Alpha Xi Delta! I didn't really know which one I wanted until the last night then I knew for sure it was AXiD ... I actually was picking between two, one being AXiD and AGD ... but I love Alpha Xi Delta and I wouldn't change it for a thing!

Angie

AllisonDG · #90 07-29-2003, 03:43 PM

From the first night of rush, I liked both DG and AOPi. I preffed both and ended up putting AOPi #1 and DG #2. Although I was a little upset getting my second choice, I am happy now and I know that I would have been happy with either. I am a DG girl and proud of it!