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GPhiBLtColonel · #76 10-02-2002, 11:46 PM

....................did you go????

WhiteDaisy128 · #77 10-02-2002, 11:48 PM

Leilanimoon, I am so proud that you are seeing things through!! What a motivated woman you are to explore all of your options and make the best of a situation that wasn't ideal...but who knows...maybe it really was ideal! Best of luck to you in finding your home!! Whether it is a Greek one or not!

sugar and spice · #78 10-03-2002, 12:26 AM

I'm so glad you're not just giving up, even after the whole big mess with snap bids -- I hope you find your home.

gphiangel624 · #79 10-03-2002, 01:32 AM

I'm really glad you're looking at all your options! I've met a lot of girls from the chapter at UCSB and they are a wonderful group of women! I hope you enjoy yourself at their Open house, even if you're not interested in the sisterhood! But of course, I'm going to give my shameless plug...

leilanimoon · #80 10-03-2002, 04:28 PM

I couldnt go to last night's open house with GPhiB, but I may be able to tonight. None of the other houses have posted anything yet in the newspaper. I had to do a huge favor for a friend of mine and drive her to the hospital. (She's ok now). I promise to keep updating! I DID meet a girl from AKA yesterday while walking home. She just approached me and struck up a conversation. She was very friendly and gave me her number to call her whenever. I asked around and found out she was the president(?!?!) of AKA.
So now this adds something interesting to the mix. I'm a minority, but I've been raised in a diverse city, so going NPC seemed like a natural thing to do, but, then, there's awesome NPHC orgs on campus, too. I know their process is totally different, and it never really occured to me to actively consider it. All my friends, of all nationalities, have gone NPC, so I'm so used to the way it is structured, and from this board and all their conversations, I've totally been in that mindset. But I suppose I'll see as time progresses. I still have my favorites within the NPC, so it all comes down to which group of girls finds something in me which they can see adding something beneficial to their organization and which ones I feel at home with. Do you all recommend that I call this girl and meet some of her sisters, as well? I'm pretty sure that with NPHC, correct me if I'm wrong, but you just go for the one organization you really want, and go from there. It's funny, because that is kind of how I have felt about the houses I like within the NPC, that I wouldnt be being true to myself by just "joining" a house that picks me, and "eventually" feeling at home, because although it is supposed to be mutual selection, you guys remember I ended up with prefs from the two I wanted least? And then add in the factors of, perhaps they really liked me, but they cut all juniors, or some sort of factor like that?!? The houses that still stick out to me are the houses where there was no script, where I didn't have to try hard to keep the convo flowing, where we really had common interests, and I could tell they weren't bluffing because their experiences were similar yet at the same time unique from my own.

Right now my brain is all mush and I'm gonna give everything time to sort itself out in my mind. I hate being in such a time of indecision, because I'm usually such an all-or-nothing kind of girl. I'm very passionate towards things I truly care about, or I can be indifferent if need be. My friends' attitude now is like, Well, if they didn't want you, then screw them, you don't need to go greek. But in the back of my mind I'm still like, well, what if there were some random factor holding me back through formal rush? What if I look back and regret the fact that I didn't go after what I want? When I set my mind on something, I go for broke but hope that I'll know when to say when. I organized and financed my own trip as well as my friends' trip to Europe because it was my dream and I wanted to see it realized. That's the way I go about things I really want. This is something I've wanted for so long that I feel in a state of suspension. Like suspended opportunity..like it's all lingering juuuust out of my reach..which road do I take, etc....Suggestions?

Sorry if my rambling all appears too dramatic, but it's truly how I'm feeling right now.

breathesgelatin · #81 10-03-2002, 05:01 PM

what an awesome attitude you have! definately look into COB at GPhiB/other chapters, or if you don't find a home there, AKA. i definately recommend contacting AKA's president, if you felt a bond there! it never hurts to meet other people--whether they're greek or not, or whether you're interested in their chapter or not. i don't know much about NPHC recruitment. there's talk of getting AKA on our campus, but so far there are no NPHC orgs. good luck with whatever you decide!

KappaKittyCat · #82 10-03-2002, 05:02 PM

Leilanimoon,

I understand completely about going for the one group you want. I know that our schools are completely different, but I wanted to register my opinion of COB. When I was a freshman I knew that Formal Recruitment wasn't for me. I didn't even want to be Greek. I was too closed-minded. But once I realized that I did want to be Greek here, I knew that I wouldn't go anywhere else. I wanted to be a Kappa and nothing but a Kappa, so I rushed them full-out and didn't even waste my time with organizations that I knew I wouldn't fit with. That's the beauty of COBs. And if I recall correctly, you did like Gamma Phi, right? Of course, my decision was made after a full year of being on campus and knowing well members of all three groups, so your perspective is different. But I just wanted to encourage you not to give up on NPC and COBs yet.

KKC

maggieaxid · #83 10-03-2002, 05:08 PM

I think you should look into finding more info about AKA. Like, go to their board on this forum, go to their website, and call the woman you met. I think you should open your arms to them, just as they have opened the door for you. It can't hurt to see what they have to say. The AKA's at my school were the most down-to-earth, intelligent, outgoing, philanthropic and fun women. I have nothing to say but wonderful things for AKA and they have my utmost respect.

PS things happen for a reason.

DRau · #84 10-03-2002, 05:32 PM

Alpha Kappa Alpha and the other NPHC sorority Delta Sigma Theta at UCSB are both strong chapters that do AMAZING things. AKA won Chapter Excellence for an NPHC group at Greek Awards last year, and DST got Community Service, Campus Involvement & Outstanding New Member Program.

If you are interested in those types of orgs., You should go talk to Stephan in the OSL (he was an Alpha Phi Alpha) because he has lots of information to share. If you PM me I'll give you his phone number and email address.

Also, the newly re-vamped Greek website will be up soon, and I will send you the link when it is approved. There are 37 Greek orgs. at UCSB - spanning every interest you can imagine. There IS a home out there waiting for you

Delia