IU PNM Numbers

A bit of advice needed. If one is a Legacy... and likes that house.. but also likes a second house... do you play it safe and rank Legacy House #1? Especially if house is interested in her? Had no idea IU was SO competitive

[33girl]

Which one does she like best?

That's the problem... she is having a hard time picking between the two. This is all assuming she has this choice after Saturday... but what would you do? Rank the Legacy #1 regardless??

[33girl]

Don't plan for things that may not occur. They might both cut her. Who knows.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by Life is good

That's the problem... she is having a hard time picking between the two. This is all assuming she has this choice after Saturday... but what would you do? Rank the Legacy #1 regardless??

Step back, Mom. Let your daughter make her OWN choices and decisions.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by thetalady

Step back, Mom. Let your daughter make her OWN choices and decisions.

YES.

There is nothing worse than ranking a chapter first and getting it, then feeling like you didn't actually want it. Or you did it because mom/sister/whoever wanted you to, knowing you didn't really want it.

It's interesting how I came here just for some advice. You see I was in a house a long time ago and things have changed. I moved on from college life , got a job , had a family, friends... By the amount of posts some of you have... I would say you need to get off your computer and get a life. You certainly aren't here to help others.
My daughter and I are very close, she has asked me what to do... I don't know what to tell her. I can tell you she may be better off in the dorm if this is the general attitude now of sorority girls.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by Life is good

It's interesting how I came here just for some advice. You see I was in a house a long time ago and things have changed. I moved on from college life , got a job , had a family, friends... By the amount of posts some of you have... I would say you need to get off your computer and get a life. You certainly aren't here to help others.
My daughter and I are very close, she has asked me what to do... I don't know what to tell her. I can tell you she may be better off in the dorm if this is the general attitude now of sorority girls.

You got good advice and it was kindly and honestly rendered. I'm sorry that you don't like the advice. It's the same advice that I would give any alumna of my own sorority, including the ones that I work with as a chapter adviser or member of a house corporation.

She should put the one that she likes best as #1.

[Katmandu]

Originally Posted by Life is good

I can tell you she may be better off in the dorm if this is the general attitude now of sorority girls.

Perhaps that is what you should tell her.

More than a few posters here are chapter advisors, consultants, officers of alumnae chapters, long time rec writers, even regional or national officers of their respective groups. As a whole, the collective wisdom from long time posters is sound, practical and honest.

You have received good advice here but have chosen to act as a snarky asshat, posting the same question on a variety of threads, then acting out when you don't get the answers you are evidently seeking. If you don't like what you are hearing then quit asking for advice.

[tcsparky]

/lane swerve/

Originally Posted by Katmandu

You have received good advice here but have chosen to act as a snarky asshat,

I just HAD to borrow this for my signature! Priceless.....it should also go in the "Things You Shouldn't Out Loud At Work" thread.....I wonder if I can get a poster made of this???

/swerve over/

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by Life is good

It's interesting how I came here just for some advice. You see I was in a house a long time ago and things have changed. I moved on from college life , got a job , had a family, friends... By the amount of posts some of you have... I would say you need to get off your computer and get a life. You certainly aren't here to help others.
My daughter and I are very close, she has asked me what to do... I don't know what to tell her. I can tell you she may be better off in the dorm if this is the general attitude now of sorority girls.

It's interesting how we've given you advice. You see, I have been a sorority WOMAN for over 30 years, and thus know how things have changed in no small part due to my continued involvement as a member and adviser to both my sorority and NPC alumnae groups, involvement which has been noted and even, said at the risk of being immodest, recognized and awarded. I moved on from college, went to graduate school, had a family (4 children - 1 a Gamma Phi), friends . . . by the amount of posts we have, you could say that we are obviously often off our computers and living lives that include living out our sorority creeds. The amount of posts show that we are, in fact, helping others, a fact you have tacitly acknowledged by your asking for that self same help. You need only look at the many helpful stickied threads to see the effort we go to in order to help young women find their sorority homes.

I certainly hope your daughter has a better attitude than you. No, really, I do. The sins of the helicopter mothers should not be visited on the daughters, and the fact that you became snarky when not given the advice you wanted - well, let's hope she is more gracious should things not go her way. I truly hope she finds her home in a sorority.

[tinydancer]

KSUViolet is one of the kindest and most helpful people here on GC. I'm sorry that point passed you by.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by tinydancer

KSUViolet is one of the kindest and most helpful people here on GC. I'm sorry that point passed you by.

THIS.

Life is good: your use of terms like "was in a house" and "sorority girls" indicates that you have not maintained contact with your organization. Correct me if I'm mistaken. Further, we have many parents (dads come here too) who post who do NOT come across the way that you have in your short time here. You've been given help and suggestions and all you've done is take umbrage and confirm the observations of others that you are a helicopter mom. I hope that your daughter finds a home using her OWN mind. Otherwise it will likely not go well for her.

I'm going to overlook your judgemental crack about getting a life, although it's really tempting to observe that you might do well to take your own advice and get out of your daughter's life. But I won't say it, because I'm trying my best to emulate KSUViolet, although I'm not having much success - yet.

[33girl]

You acknowledged that you are assuming, and as Felix Unger so eloquently said, when we assume, we make an ass out of u and me.

Your question is not a question your daughter needs to deal with until January 18, and possibly not even then. Until then she needs to be learning as much about the sororities still on her party list as she can, meeting as many women as she can, and doing all she can to ignore rumors, gossip and tent talk.

Gaming the system might work to simply get you a bid, but it rarely works to put you in the place where you'll be truly happy. It rarely works in deferred rush at all.

[Sister Havana]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Your question is not a question your daughter needs to deal with until January 18, and possibly not even then. Until then she needs to be learning as much about the sororities still on her party list as she can, meeting as many women as she can, and doing all she can to ignore rumors, gossip and tent talk.

This is excellent advice. Her favorite sorority today might not be her favorite in the next round, and she may yet fall in love with a completely different sorority by the time it's time to decide. All you have to do is read some of the recruitment stories on here to see how often that is the case.