Is Greek right for my dd?

[lovespink88]

Just going to answer the question in the title:

She should go through recruitment and find out for herself.

How can there be 4 pages of posts???????

Also, I've said it before and I'll say it again...Greatfulgramma has the cutest username/best signature here.

[GratefulGramma]

I will forever be grateful (and greatful, too, of course) that I didn't find GC until after my one-in-ten-bazillion granddaughter was firmly established in her sorority. I would have worried her batty with my obsession(s) on what she might need to be doing!

[IrishLake]

I'm glad this one didn't get deleted yet.

The OP should realize something. I think your daughter sounds amazing and wonderful. However, she is not going to be special or perceived that way by everyone else in college, professors included. She is a special snowflake to YOU. On a college campus, she is just another snowflake. College will become a humbling experience for her.

For what it's worth, my best friend in Theta was a Biology/Pre-Med major, played Varsity soccer, and served first as a VP and then later President of our chapter, in addition to clubs and other activities. She excelled at time management and today is a successful researcher who balances a demanding full time job with 3 children at home. It's done by a LOT of sorority women.

[summer_gphib]

Originally Posted by IrishLake

I'm glad this one didn't get deleted yet.

The OP should realize something. I think your daughter sounds amazing and wonderful. However, she is not going to be special or perceived that way by everyone else in college, professors included. She is a special snowflake to YOU. On a college campus, she is just another snowflake. College will become a humbling experience for her.

For what it's worth, my best friend in Theta was a Biology/Pre-Med major, played Varsity soccer, and served first as a VP and then later President of our chapter, in addition to clubs and other activities. She excelled at time management and today is a successful researcher who balances a demanding full time job with 3 children at home. It's done by a LOT of sorority women.

This is a perfect example of what you learn in college and especially in a sorority. You learn how to balance a busy schedule and to prioritize.

[gee_ess]

I echo all of the great advice that has been given on here. I also believe this mom is going through some very typical angst for a mom who is sending a daughter away to school - especially far away.

Skipping ahead to recruitment at an SEC school: you and your daughter really, really need to get your ducks in a row for this! Read, read, read on GC - google the recruitment threads, do a search for specific schools - because, and don't kid yourself about this, SEC recruitment will require as much prep as anything she has done to date.

[pinapple]

Just to set the record straight 10 hours later...lol...I was not saying sorority life was not for the crafty and arty. I was using painting letters as a task that most have done, some better than others, but done in love and sisterhood. And if that is perceived as "silly tasks" then maybe it isn't right for OP's daughter. Of course the OP's daughter can volunteer for whatever her hearts desires, but when your heart is firmly planted in your sisterhood no task that promotes that sisterhood is ever looked at as silly.

[JLCo]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

I echo all of the great advice that has been given on here. I also believe this mom is going through some very typical angst for a mom who is sending a daughter away to school - especially far away.

Skipping ahead to recruitment at an SEC school: you and your daughter really, really need to get your ducks in a row for this! Read, read, read on GC - google the recruitment threads, do a search for specific schools - because, and don't kid yourself about this, SEC recruitment will require as much prep as anything she has done to date.

That is pretty much what I thought from the little that I have seen on this site today. I am not sure she is really interested enough to do all that work that is required for the SEC school sororities. Networking would be especially challenging because of the distance we are from these schools. So it looks like perhaps she can seek out other activities such as those offered through the honors programs/ dorms, dance team, and or performance related activities associated with a dance minor. Although I think she might just do a little research and then try to wing it at rush time. If she is not willing to put alot into it I think it is safe to say she probably would not be overly disappointed if she didn't get in. However it is good to have this info and it will, I am sure, help narrow down the college choices.

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by JLCo

That is pretty much what I thought from the little that I have seen on this site today. I am not sure she is really interested enough to do all that work that is required for the SEC school sororities. Networking would be especially challenging because of the distance we are from these schools. So it looks like perhaps she can seek out other activities such as those offered through the honors programs/ dorms, dance team, and or performance related activities associated with a dance minor. Although I think she might just do a little research and then try to wing it at rush time. If she is not willing to put alot into it I think it is safe to say she probably would not be overly disappointed if she didn't get in. However it is good to have this info and it will, I am sure, help narrow down the college choices.

Pointless. It doesn't matter who you are, you're not getting a bid without preparing. That means securing recs beforehand. You do not "wing" rush at an SEC school.

[ElvisLover]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

Pointless. It doesn't matter who you are, you're not getting a bid without preparing. That means securing recs beforehand. You do not "wing" rush at an SEC school.

THIS!!

[carnation]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

You do not "wing" rush at an SEC school

Now THAT would be a fabulous signature line!

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by JLCo

That is pretty much what I thought from the little that I have seen on this site today. I am not sure she is really interested enough to do all that work that is required for the SEC school sororities. Networking would be especially challenging because of the distance we are from these schools. So it looks like perhaps she can seek out other activities such as those offered through the honors programs/ dorms, dance team, and or performance related activities associated with a dance minor. Although I think she might just do a little research and then try to wing it at rush time. If she is not willing to put alot into it I think it is safe to say she probably would not be overly disappointed if she didn't get in. However it is good to have this info and it will, I am sure, help narrow down the college choices.

As it's been stated already.... you canNOT "wing it" at an SEC recruitment. She will be dropped after first round, it does not matter how unique and wonderful she is. There are girls who already have recs for every chapter for recruitment this fall! Some of these ladies have everything your daughter has AND they've been preparing for rush the last three years!

You must secure recs from sorority members before recruitment. This does NOT mean you must get a rec from an alumnae from that specific chapter. So if you know an alumnae from ABC sorority who went to Midwest State U, she can indeed write your daughter a rec for the ABC Chapter at University of SEC. Recs are a MUST to even be seriously considered at any chapter at all SEC schools.

[SigKapSweetie]

Originally Posted by IrishLake

As it's been stated already.... you canNOT "wing it" at an SEC recruitment. She will be dropped after first round, it does not matter how unique and wonderful she is. There are girls who already have recs for every chapter for recruitment this fall! Some of these ladies have everything your daughter has AND they've been preparing for rush the last three years!

I know that this is an unpopular statement, since we (rightfully) stress the importance of preparation for recruitment, but it's not 100% impossible to succeed in SEC recruitment without preparation. I went through at an SEC school, had only one rec which was to a chapter that dropped me round 1, and still had full party schedules and got my first choice sorority. It's not the smart way to do recruitment - why handicap yourself from the beginning for any reason other than ignorance of the system? - but I don't want SEC PNMs to decide "it's not even worth it to try since I decided to rush last minute." You are not guaranteed to fail without advance preparation, but it will be a good deal harder to succeed.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by JLCo

That is pretty much what I thought from the little that I have seen on this site today. I am not sure she is really interested enough to do all that work that is required for the SEC school sororities. Networking would be especially challenging because of the distance we are from these schools. So it looks like perhaps she can seek out other activities such as those offered through the honors programs/ dorms, dance team, and or performance related activities associated with a dance minor. Although I think she might just do a little research and then try to wing it at rush time. If she is not willing to put alot into it I think it is safe to say she probably would not be overly disappointed if she didn't get in. However it is good to have this info and it will, I am sure, help narrow down the college choices.

So you think that your gifted, brilliant daughter, who you've said will be spending a lot of time learning and doing RESEARCH as part of her major, someone who dances competitively and likely has to practice for hours and hours, is going into something as complex as SEC sorority recruitment with just "a little research" and then "try to wing it"??

That just doesn't add up.

[Sciencewoman]

I think it's fine to include Greek Life as part of the college application criteria, but when my daughter was looking at colleges, my husband did say he didn't want her to select or eliminate based on whether her legacy chapters were on campus.

[MaryPoppins]

SEC schools are where Miss America contestants are red shirted. Even the reigning Miss America, via New York, is really from Alabama. At Ole Miss, Tea Party is liberal. I'm now a Yellow Dog Independent,keep that strictly to myself, but I rushed in the SEC over thirty years ago.