My University of Southern California recruitment :)

[mocotro]

kaeb, i've enjoyed following your recruitment story! i introduced myself to you this morning at pref i am glad that you are taking some time to think about things. i accepted a bid from SDT last year, and realized that they weren't the right house for me, but wasn't able to COB with any other house since i signed the MRABA agreement. the sigdelts are really wonderful girls and i think you will get along great with them. good luck with informal!

[kaeb]

thank you!

[SWTXBelle]

I'm not judging - just sharing my very similar experience. I think giving AXO and SDT a closer look is a good strategy.

[KSUViolet06]

For what it's worth, I don't see a pile-on here. At all.

[kaeb]

...you haven't seen my inbox (and I'm guessing 33girl hasn't either). From today alone I have some supportive messages (that I really really appreciate), and one really really toxic and hateful one.

I wouldn't quite call it a pile-on in this thread, but I have noticed some negativity directed towards me. I'm obviously way more sensitive to it right now than I would be normally. But I won't lie and say I'm not sick of extensively explaining the reasoning behind my decision every time I post anything and still being judged unkindly.

[KSUViolet06]

Jeez. Hateful PMs are no good.

Ultimately, you have made the best decision for YOU.

That's what matters.

Please do keep us posted on what happens with you.

[ladybug12]

Agree with you 110% KSUViolet!

[When Doves Cry]

My bfffff at USC used to live at the SDT house before she decided to go through recruitment (and move into her own chapter house), and she says the SDT girls are just as amazing as the other chapters, it's just no one ever gives them a chance. So, good for you, kaeb, for giving them a chance! As well as a second chance at AXO. I can't wait to see where you end up!

[violetpretty]

I am usually one of the first ones to call out a PNM on her BS of rejecting a chapter she feels is beneath her while crying about being bidless, but I do not feel that is the case here, since our OP is willing to go back to AXO during COB. She knows that AXO will be COBing, and she was upfront about her feelings with the member who preffed her, so theoretically, that member can squash any "she rejected us" concerns. Plus, her sincere interest should show when she goes to a COB event.

I agree with her decision to look at AXO and SDT during COB, since SDT did not participate in formal recruitment. If SDT was participating and cut her, and AXO was the only chapter she had left, in that case, accepting a bid to AXO probably would be the best course of action (and dropping before initiation if she still didn't feel it) because it'd either be AXO or not greek for a whole year anyway.

[mittens]

I 100 % agree with what you are doing Kaeb. If you are unsure about AXO and want to give SDT a chance and see if they are a better fit then go for it!

[txchrissy]

kaeb - good luck to you. I hope everything works out for you one way or another.

Veteran GCers - the risk she is taking, by what it seems, taking for granted that ANNA would be there when she's ready, it is different from Suiciding because... she knows this house will go through informal?
To me thats like saying,
I'm gonna suicide on my preference card because I KNOW they'll make a bid list. = I'm not going to sign a bid intention to this sorority because they'll want me in a week anyway.

I guess none of the above makes any sense. But I wish I was a lucky enough girl to have even one bid, not to mention have my choice at checking out other groups then going with the LR. It takes a confident girl to KNOW that ANNA will still want you during informal.
But Good luck PNM! I'm not in a sisterhood, I just enjoy looking at the bid day pics!

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by txchrissy

kaeb - good luck to you. I hope everything works out for you one way or another.

Veteran GCers - the risk she is taking, by what it seems, taking for granted that ANNA would be there when she's ready, it is different from Suiciding because... she knows this house will go through informal?


To me thats like saying,
I'm gonna suicide on my preference card because I KNOW they'll make a bid list. = I'm not going to sign a bid intention to this sorority because they'll want me in a week anyway.

I guess none of the above makes any sense. But I wish I was a lucky enough girl to have even one bid, not to mention have my choice at checking out other groups then going with the LR. It takes a confident girl to KNOW that ANNA will still want you during informal.
But Good luck PNM! I'm not in a sisterhood, I just enjoy looking at the bid day pics!

Re: bolding. What the OP is doing is not related to single-listing a chapter on a preference card.

Further, no, not the impression I get at all. On the contrary, the OP is expressing caution and desires more time with the members of ANNA as she wants to be certain she's doing the best for both them AND her. I don't sense any "expectation" on the OP's part. I do sense that she's in a delicate position and is aware of that, and that she's being open and is vulnerable because she knows that there are no guarantees in this process whatsoever.

Your equaling of her not signing a bid meaning that she knows that they will want her anyway is, IMO, not a valid assumption. That's not a given at all in the process. It can actually be quite the opposite. And the OP has expressed that she is aware of this possibility.

Re: your remarks making sense. I was quite confused by your interpretation and explanation. Perhaps it is because you are not in a GLO that the process is confusing to you?

To the OP: put one foot in front of the other and see where your path leads you. I for one hope that you find what you are seeking, wherever that may be.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by txchrissy

kaeb - good luck to you. I hope everything works out for you one way or another.

Veteran GCers - the risk she is taking, by what it seems, taking for granted that ANNA would be there when she's ready, it is different from Suiciding because... she knows this house will go through informal?
To me thats like saying,
I'm gonna suicide on my preference card because I KNOW they'll make a bid list. = I'm not going to sign a bid intention to this sorority because they'll want me in a week anyway.

It's not suiciding if you only have one sorority that invited you back to choose from. If you're at a school w/ guaranteed bidding and you have 2 groups that invited you back to pref and only put one on your bid card, that automatically voids your guaranteed bidding guarantee.

I don't think she's taking anything for granted at all. More like she's going to try to get to know this sorority better outside of the emotional insanity of formal rush. She knows perfectly well they could tell her to go @#$% in her hat because she dropped out of formal rush.

[Pass the Pinot]

Kaeb, I wish I could come out there and hug you. Do what is in your heart. Without sounding like your mother, I would remind you that while sorority life is fulfilling, exciting, and tons of fun, you have come to college to get an education. It's a big school full of big opportunities and based on your writing (which is great) and your logical thinking, you have a big future indeed. Be true to yourself sweet girl.

[AZTheta]

^^what 33girl said, short & sweet & concise & to the point. Back to the store to buy a red pen and work on my writing again...