TrojanWoman's Retro Recruitment

[Soliloquy]

Originally Posted by dgdramadawg

I know a girl who rushed a UGA last year who cried at two of her prefs but ended up suiciding one of those two houses! She was really touched by one of the ceremonies but that didn't mean she could see herself being a sister in that chapter.

TrojanWoman, I demand an update.

I second that motion!

[MaggieXi]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I've heard alumnae say, "Oh, you've got to get the PNM to cry. If they cry, you know they want us!" Uh, no - I cry at Hallmark commercials. I guarantee if you start singing a ballad and tearing up, I will soon be bawling too - but it doesn't mean I'm gonna die if I don't pledge your house! I cried at both my prefs!

I am exactly the same way!!! Although I didn't all out cry during my prefs, I cry at commercials and love songs all the time.

[amycat412]

good God fellow Trojan Woman, tell us how it ends! hee hee

[bluefish81]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I've heard alumnae say, "Oh, you've got to get the PNM to cry. If they cry, you know they want us!" Uh, no - I cry at Hallmark commercials. I guarantee if you start singing a ballad and tearing up, I will soon be bawling too - but it doesn't mean I'm gonna die if I don't pledge your house!

I hear ya. I'm not much of a public crier, and I didn't cry at either pref ceremony that I attended. I always thought that a roomful of too many sobbing actives could be a bit overwhelming to a PNM when I was active too.

[Ocalagirl]

Originally Posted by amycat412

good God fellow Trojan Woman, tell us how it ends! hee hee

seriously!! I keep checking and nothing...I WANT MORE!!!

[Leslie Anne]

Please, TrojanWoman, come back!!!! I'm dyin' here.

Oh and I think I would have run screaming out of the house if my preffer started rubbing my leg. Creepy!

[TrojanWoman]

Okay okay! Sorry everyone . . . work has been going a little crazy and I haven't had time to type an update. But I’m back now and ready to break the silence!

The morning of bid day, I woke up extremely nervous. Over night I had realized that I really only wanted a bid from Matt Leinart and knew that I would be very disappointed if I opened my bid card and it said something different. Megan, Kate, and I went to get some breakfast but we were unable to eat anything. We headed back to our dorm to wait for the time to meet the rho chis. We had heard that we would get a phone call if we hadn’t been matched with anyone and we wanted to be close to the phone so we could hope it wouldn’t ring! As the time drew closer to go with the rest of the rushees to get our bids, we were getting more and more excited. We had been told to dress casually, in jeans, shorts, or comfy skirt, because we would be getting a bid day shirt to change into.

All of the rushees met in the same area to go get their bids. We would all get them and then the rho chis would do their reveal and lead us back to our new homes to get the party started.

Megan went in first and came out screaming . . . she was a happy new Matt Leinart.

Kate was next and came out skipping . . . she was a proud new member of Mike Williams.

I was the last one to go. My heart was beating SO incredibly hard as I walked into the meeting room. My rho chi had a weird look on her face and she tentatively handed me my bid card. Her look made me worried and I was close to tears. I opened my bid card and it read


















. . .



















Matt Leinart!!!!!!! also known as . . . .




















































DELTA DELTA DELTA


I started jumping up and down screaming . . . I was ecstatic. I knew that I had finally found my home and I couldn’t wait to meet my new sisters. My rho chi told me that she had looked worried because the last time I had seen her I had been favoring Mike Williams, and she was concerned I would be disappointed. I happily reassured her that Tri-Delta was the perfect home for me.

I ran outside to my friends and shared the news. We gave each other huge hugs and then Kate went off to meet the new Mike Williams and Megan and I headed over to meet the new Tri-Deltas.


Just a little PS to the story. Kate was kind of annoyed with me when she came back from her bid day. It turns out that a bunch of the Mike Williams actives ran up to her when she got to the house and demanded to know what house I had joined and why I hadn’t chosen to join their house. They wanted to know “what had gone wrong” because “they were positive that I would join their house.” One girl even asked Kate if she thought there could have been a mistake with the bid matching. Needless to say, this dampened Kate’s spirits some on bid day and was very unfair to her. It also made the our friendship a little strained.

Also . . . Kate ended up dropping out of Mike Williams in her sophomore year and then leaving the school. The point of this is, if you are a PNM going through recruitment with other girls you are friends with, make sure to make your own choices because you never know what choices those friends will make and you could be left at a sorority that wasn’t really right for you.

And . . . I happily lived in Tri-Delta for three years and enjoyed every moment of being there. Right now I’m busy getting fitted for all of the bridesmaid dresses I had to order for my sisters’ weddings. I might have been a tomboy and a little worried about fitting in when I started rush, but now I really do have a group of great friends that I still rely on for a lot of things, even if we live hours apart from each other!

[violetpretty]

Yay! I'm so glad you followed your heart and went to the chapter that was right for you even though it felt like you had to choose between your friends. Can we know which sorority Mike Williams is? (Obviously you liked it so I doubt people would be offended if they knew)

[sailboatgirl]

YEAH! Great story! (I have a soft spot in my heart for Tri Delta since my childhood best friend became a Tri Delt while at OU!)

[susan314]

Originally Posted by JessSigKap

Yay! I'm so glad you followed your heart and went to the chapter that was right for you even though it felt like you had to choose between your friends. Can we know which sorority Mike Williams is? (Obviously you liked it so I doubt people would be offended if they knew)

Yes! I'd love to know.

For that matter, I'd be curious to hear who the other chapters were too - I don't recall her saying anything terribly unflattering about any of the chapters. (Not to mention it has been a little while since she rushed - not like she'd be influencing PNMs with recent impressions. )

[bluefish81]

Great story TrojanWoman!

[alphagamphi]

Yea for Tri Delta

[ClassicBeauty]

Great story! I would like to know what eventually happened to all the characters in your story!

[Leslie Anne]

What a fantastic story! Thanks for sharing it and Yay for Tri-Delt!

[susan314]

Originally Posted by TrojanWoman

They wanted to know “what had gone wrong” because “they were positive that I would join their house.” One girl even asked Kate if she thought there could have been a mistake with the bid matching.

Sadly, this reminds me of something that I witnessed on my campus.

A girl went through rush who had a very recognizeable name. (I won't say it here for the sake of her privacy, but I'll just say that her great-grandfather started a business using the family name long ago and you'd all recognize her last name b/c of it.)

She preffed my chapter and another chapter on our campus that had the reputation of being the one that all the wealthy girls joined. This other chapter really wanted her and assumed that we had no shot at her whatsoever. (Picture as though you had preffed Mike Williams and Frostee Rucker, instead of Mike Williams and Matt Leinart.)

Sooo...when she got a bid to my chapter, they automatically assumed something went wrong with bid matching. Someone from their chapter actually went so far as to contact her ( no, I'm not kidding) and tell her that they would make sure things got taken care of...she was the #1 person on their bid list, so there's no way that she should have gotten a bid to our house instead of theirs.

(I know that sounds unbelieveable, but I was on Panhel exec at the time and someone from that other chapter really did call the office to complain. )

Anyhow, when she told them that she had ranked us first, they did not react kindly. Women in her dorm from that chapter who had been buddying up to her all year (she went through spring informal rush) suddenly stopped speaking to her, etc. God forbid that a desired PNM actually choose a small chapter over a "top tier" one.


(She later told us that she ranked us first b/c she felt that we simply liked her. She felt that the other chapter was just after her for her name to boost their reputation as the "wealthy girls" sorority.)