Student fights code of conduct to keep pink hair

[shinerbock]

I didn't say all greek systems eliminate things like dyed hair and earrings, but that is a function of some, and I wish it was a function of most. Not all though, because I still need people to laugh at.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

This is exactly the kind of conversation I was trying to avoid.

My point is exactly as Valkyrie posted - vocational schools are specifically intended for 'job preparation' while non-vocational schools should not be saddled with such expectations, as they exist to educate students, not to get them jobs. To argue otherwise is to a.) bastardize education, which should be a more 'pure' exercise and b.) place too much burden on teachers/administrators.

So the kids at your vo-tech didn't have to take English or math or anything? I'm not trying to argue, I'm just curious.

[AGDee]

School dress codes in general have been in the media a lot here since the Detroit Public schools is implementing a "uniform" beginning this school year.

I think that some of the rules for student dress codes make sense and others are just a control thing. The ones that have some real basis for them (like no halters, no mid drift showing, shorts/skirts having to be a certain length, no wallet chains) make sense and are OK. The ones that are simply control (no jeans, shirts must be tucked in with a belt, etc) are just ridiculous. I'm glad my kids go to a district where the rules make sense, or else I'd be right there fighting the school board. My kids would follow the rules, even though I'd be fighting those rules in the appropriate manner.

There are right ways and wrong ways to protest or fight things that are unfair. Cutting off your nose to spite your face by sitting in ISS day after day isn't the best way to protest. It only hurts her in the long run.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by 33girl

So the kids at your vo-tech didn't have to take English or math or anything? I'm not trying to argue, I'm just curious.

They did, but not on the same 'cycle' as everyone else - for instance, the algebra->geometry->trig->beyond cycle was converted into one unit for "practical math" . . . etc.

Also this is a massive derailing, PM me w/ any other questions.

[squirrely girl]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

IF some kid wore a T-shirt that offended PinkHairedGirl I bet her mother would be the first one complaining.


Parenting people!

wow - have you met this family? just wondering since you seem to have insight that i don't.

if she's willing to suffer the consequences for what she believes in/or wishes to wear - then i would say that poor parenting isn't the issue. unless you're saying that any person who can't just shut up and mindlessly follow stupid rules had crap for parenting...

[macallan25]

Frankly, I think the fact that her parents are willing to let her screw up her education over a dumbass hair rule is a direct reflection on their parenting skills.

[squirrely girl]

there are other things involved with an "education" than just one semester of high school grades - at least it gives her an interesting topic for an admissions essay

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by squirrely girl

there are other things involved with an "education" than just one semester of high school grades - at least it gives her an interesting topic for an admissions essay

Seriously. I would be hella impressed with someone willing to take a stand for what she believes in like this -- much more so than I'd be impressed by kid who got good grades but never did anything interesting. Those are 10 for $1.

[macallan25]

I wouldn't. I can think of countless numbers of people who have made good grades and did really interesting things......things that didn't include boycotting school because they couldn't shittily color their hair pink.

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by squirrely girl

there are other things involved with an "education" than just one semester of high school grades - at least it gives her an interesting topic for an admissions essay

If she refuses to comply with the rules she isn't going to be going to school anywhere...not just for a semester. I don't know of any schools in the Dallas Fort Worth area that don't have dress codes and codes of conduct.....and she sure as hell wouldn't get away with it at a private school (or any that I know of in that area.)

[greekalum]

I bet she could at Trinity Valley, to name one.

[squirrely girl]

okay to all of the above arguements - but for crying out loud - ITS PINK HAIR! get over it!

[Drolefille]

I guess I'd feel different if I went to a school that allowed pink hair. But I didn't. It's not "mindlessly following rules" it's learning what battles to fight. Is crappily dyed pink hair worth a semester of F's? I mean sure an interesting admissions essay, but perhaps her choices of schools will shrink due to the grades.

In the grand scheme of things, pink hair is NOT such a big deal. While on one hand that could mean that the school shouldn't care so much, the parent should also be teaching the kid to pick her battles.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

I guess I'd feel different if I went to a school that allowed pink hair. But I didn't. It's not "mindlessly following rules" it's learning what battles to fight. Is crappily dyed pink hair worth a semester of F's? I mean sure an interesting admissions essay, but perhaps her choices of schools will shrink due to the grades.

In the grand scheme of things, pink hair is NOT such a big deal. While on one hand that could mean that the school shouldn't care so much, the parent should also be teaching the kid to pick her battles.

This sounds like a battle worth fighting though. You have to stand up for yourself, and learn to do that when you're young, otherwise people will walk all over you.


Besides, pink hair on girls is sexy.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

This sounds like a battle worth fighting though. You have to stand up for yourself, and learn to do that when you're young, otherwise people will walk all over you.


Besides, pink hair on girls is sexy.

If it was a personal, racial, something serious at ALL, insult- I'd say, hell yeah stand up. But it's a stupid fight, IMO.


She's going to learn that you have to accept the consequences. Those in favor of civil disobedience EXPECTED to go to jail for it. Just as she should expect to fail those classes...