Polygamy Activism Rises

[AOII_LB93]

Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
It's OK. She can hit up D&R and tell us about her hookups!

Thanks for possibly the rudest post about me ever. Oh I'm so hurt by some anonymous faceless person on the web! I appreciate it. Now why don't you run along to D&R so you can continue to complain about other people some more, because I'm not going to even bother with you anymore. Welcome to ignore!

ETA: On second though, I really don't appreciate your personal attacks or implying that I would say things of that nature at all on a public forum.

[Rudey]

I'm gonna be honest. I have no idea what you're all fighting about. Stop being catty and love one another.

-Rudey

Originally posted by mu_agd
Has anyone watched that new show on HBO?

i have!!! it's not bad actually. the funniest part is when all the wives are jealous ... or desperate for a car.

[33girl]

There is an article about polyamory in the March issue of Eve (it's a British magazine). Reese Witherspoon is on the cover and she looks really cute.

-33
--No Rudith, I don't want to make out with her

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Originally posted by 33girl
There is an article about polyamory in the March issue of Eve (it's a British magazine). Reese Witherspoon is on the cover and she looks really cute.

-33
--No Rudith, I don't want to make out with her

Reese always looks really cute.

[KSig RC]

Originally posted by 33girl
There is an article about polyamory in the March issue of Eve (it's a British magazine). Reese Witherspoon is on the cover and she looks really cute.

-33
--No Rudith, I don't want to make out with her

She is very attractive, but in profile, it appears you could serve soup out of her face.

[Optimist Prime]

Originally posted by 33girl
There is an article about polyamory in the March issue of Eve (it's a British magazine). Reese Witherspoon is on the cover and she looks really cute.

-33
--No Rudith, I don't want to make out with her

What is polyamory? I think I can figure it out based on the word parts, but I couldn't find it in the dictionary to see how close I was. Having mulitple partners but not marrying them maybe? Being "in love" but more than a couple??

[AlphaFrog]

Originally posted by Optimist Prime
What is polyamory? I think I can figure it out based on the word parts, but I couldn't find it in the dictionary to see how close I was. Having mulitple partners but not marrying them maybe? Being "in love" but more than a couple??

Search a little higher in the thread, someone defined it exactly...but yeah, sorta what you said.

[Tom Earp]

Why worry about having more than one? Had enough trouble with just the one!!!!!

[DSTCHAOS]

Bringing this thread back in light of the renewed debate over polygamy in the news.

In light of the compound that was discovered (I know there's a thread on that already), Larry King Live did a show on polygamy this evening.

This 38 year old woman who is a polygamist says she was raised in a polygamy environment. She is not a member of the LDS church but considers herself a Mormon and therefore practices traditional polygamy in that sense.

She says it is her right as a 38 year old woman to live her life as she chooses. She also says that she and her family are happy but even if they weren't, it's still their right.

She has 8 kids and her husband has like 4 other wives with kids. She says that the other women are her best friends and she's also thrilled to have babysitters if she needs them.

In response, another guest said "I wouldn't want my bestfriends to be sleeping with my husband. If you want a babysitter, hire one."

There are a lot of defense leagues stepping up to defend polygamy.

Do you all have a differing opinion of polygamy when it involves consenting adults and NOT girls who are married off when they hit puberty? Do consenting adults have the right whereas, of course, it is illegal for various reasons for children to be married off? Or should it be deemed illegal and immoral regardless?

[AGDee]

I'm of a "live and let live" type of mentality for the most part, if it's not harming children or anybody else. To that end, I don't care if homosexuals marry or if someone has multiple spouses. It's not for me, but I could see both financial and practical advantages to it for some people. There could be some difficult issues, like a man who wants to include 3 wives and 18 kids on his health insurance through his employer, but that could be solved by putting limits on how many extra dependents you can cover without paying the full price. At one time, extended families lived together or in very close proximity and helped each other a lot more. These days, we're more spread out. This could be a way of creating an extended family. I don't think I would be interested in that lifestyle. However, you wouldn't feel guilty about saying "Not tonight honey, I have a headache"...

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by AGDee

There could be some difficult issues, like a man who wants to include 3 wives and 18 kids on his health insurance through his employer, but that could be solved by putting limits on how many extra dependents you can cover without paying the full price.

Well, here's one reason why it can't be just "live and let live." There will be a need for laws to address such concerns. And of course many of our laws began as a legislation of morality so there's also that issue.

It was reported that members of that leader's compound were living in poverty. Huge families packed in trailers. Women being malnourished because they were giving their children their last.

It was also reported that the men were forced to work in construction companies owned by members. If they received paychecks, almost all of the paychecks went to the church. This resulted in like 24 million dollars a year--cash that was carried over state lines to be distributed across the members.

Meanwhile, the compound members are taking up tax payers' dollars because they are getting social welfare. Only one of the marriages is recognized legally so the other wives apply for social welfare as single mothers. Welfare expenditures going to support polygamy. Food stamps and the resulting food being distributed among members. Flooding the system and taking tax payer money.

Plus, it's the same kind of "why do you do this if you can't afford this" that a lot of people tell social welfare recipients who they deem shouldn't be eligible for benefits (although the average welfare recipient isn't intentionally frauding the system or having babies like they grow on a trees just to collect a check).

Even if the consenting adults want this, the children didn't ask for it and are in jeopardy.

Originally Posted by AGDee

However, you wouldn't feel guilty about saying "Not tonight honey, I have a headache"...

LOL.

You would, though. The wives get a designated night and nothing better interfere. You'd be going against your faith and your assigned master of your domain (your husband).

[AGDee]

Well, you posed a general polygamy question, not a "freaky cult like male dominant compound" question. I'm totally against the type of situation they had there because I'm not convinced that those folks aren't brain washed! I could see it being more like the large extended families who all live together and everybody contributes. Multiple husbands could have multiple wives all together so there would be more incomes, not less. Those are the types of advantages that I was thinking of. The situation in the news truly does sound more like a cult than anything else. I had read one article where they said the head of this sect was teaching that he was a prophet. Not so different than David Koresh...

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Well, you posed a general polygamy question, not a "freaky cult like male dominant compound" question. I'm totally against the type of situation they had there because I'm not convinced that those folks aren't brain washed! I could see it being more like the large extended families who all live together and everybody contributes. Multiple husbands could have multiple wives all together so there would be more incomes, not less. Those are the types of advantages that I was thinking of. The situation in the news truly does sound more like a cult than anything else. I had read one article where they said the head of this sect was teaching that he was a prophet. Not so different than David Koresh...

Oh yeah. I apologize. I forget there's a difference. In my mind, and many people's minds, I guess there never will really be.

Everytime I see polygamy discussed, it is always under the guise of these sects. I saw Big Love once and have seen accounts of one family where they weren't part of a sect. They seemed happy and that they had certain advantages. I don't know enough about it to fully know the potential pros and cons. I understand what you mean about advantages, though.

As you said, not my cup of tea but I can't wrap my mind around it actually becoming widely accepted and legal.

[PhiGam]

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