Do you want kids?

[AznSAE]

Originally posted by UKTriDelt
I want a whole herd! Hoping for 3 boys and 2 girls when that day finally comes. I dream of being a Southern housewife! The only problem is finding a man that wants that many kids..

are you wanting my babies?

[33girl]

Originally posted by RedRoseSAI
I think this is part of my stuff. To this day, I'm still not 100% convinced that my own mother was happy with her decision. I think there was a lot of stuff she wanted to do before having children. I don't want to be that unhappy.

My mom didn't have me till she was 38 and one of the best things about that was I never felt that she was giving up things - career wise or social wise - she wanted to do to stay home with me (she quit her job when I was born). She had already been doing all that for a long time. She was ready to primarily be mom. That doesn't mean she didn't have other interests - she definitely did - but it wasn't like some people who feel tied down and like their lives are done. Then again, I think a lot of people bring that on themselves by letting their child rule the household, but that's another thread.

Plus, everyone ALWAYS thinks/thought my parents were younger than they are, because most people in their age group have been grandparents for 10-20 years at this point.

Whether or not I want kids changes about every 5 minutes, but one of the things I know is that if I do decide to be a parent I want to adopt at least one older child. (I would not adopt a baby - everyone wants babies.)

[citydogisu]

thread title: "Do you want kids?"

my response: Depends, why are you selling them?

[Wine&SilverBlue]

Wow.. I feel like a lot of people in this thread either dont want kids at all, or want 3-5 of them!

I'd probably be OK with not having kids (if I could have cats -- they are my babies!) but truthfully I'd probably want to have 1-2 kids MAX. I used to want just one but my mom and my bf seem to think that being an only child would be a horrendous thing (both are the middle child of 3) and think that it's cruel to have a child without giving it a sibling. I guess I can see that (I have a younger sis) but 2 would be my MAX.

I feel like fewer kids are easier to handle, easier to support financially and easier to care for and give your attention to without it absolutely consuming every aspect of your life. I can't ever imagine having 4-5 kids!

It might be strange but I feel like being pregnant would be fun (if it was planned and I was quite a bit older) but I am scared to death of giving birth. I'd be a lot more excited about the prospect of having kids if men gave birth

[Rudey]

I'll have to talk to my baby Hillary Duff and see if she's OK with raising 3.

-Rudey

[aephi alum]

Originally posted by Wine&SilverBlue
I'd probably be OK with not having kids (if I could have cats -- they are my babies!) but truthfully I'd probably want to have 1-2 kids MAX. I used to want just one but my mom and my bf seem to think that being an only child would be a horrendous thing (both are the middle child of 3) and think that it's cruel to have a child without giving it a sibling. I guess I can see that (I have a younger sis) but 2 would be my MAX.

I'm an only child and I turned out ok. It's not horrendous growing up without a sibling. The one big down-side is that whenever anything in the house got broken, my parents knew exactly who to blame... I couldn't point to a sibling and say "s/he did it"

It might be strange but I feel like being pregnant would be fun (if it was planned and I was quite a bit older) but I am scared to death of giving birth. I'd be a lot more excited about the prospect of having kids if men gave birth

Haha, if men gave birth DH and I would probably be parents already!

[Rudey]

Originally posted by aephi alum
I'm an only child and I turned out ok.

You sure?

-Rudey
--If you're reaaaaally, reaaaaaaally sure then I'll let it go.

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by Wine&SilverBlue
I used to want just one but my mom and my bf seem to think that being an only child would be a horrendous thing (both are the middle child of 3) and think that it's cruel to have a child without giving it a sibling. I guess I can see that (I have a younger sis) but 2 would be my MAX.

I don't think it's bad to be an only child at all. I am, and I never wished I had siblings.

[Lil' Hannah]

Originally posted by valkyrie
I don't think it's bad to be an only child at all. I am, and I never wished I had siblings.

But you are also a self admitted selfish brat

[EEKappa]

Originally posted by valkyrie
I don't think it's bad to be an only child at all. I am, and I never wished I had siblings.

I agree with you! Though I did want a little sister for about six months in third grade. My best friend had one, and she was more fun to dress up than Barbies.

Though I have always wanted children, I have never wanted more than one.

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by Lil' Hannah
But you are also a self admitted selfish brat

Yeah, but so?

[Peaches-n-Cream]

I want to have children. I want to start as soon as I get married.

[AlphaFrog]

It doesn't bother me that people don't want kids...

But there was a girl that I worked with for a little while that announced that "Kids are NASTY" very loudly for the entire room at work...kids can be many things, but I don't think I would ever use the word nasty...especially with 5 mothers, 1 father and a pregant woman in the room...

[Lil' Hannah]

Originally posted by valkyrie
Yeah, but so?

Well I'm just saying, why would you want siblings when all of the attention of your parents is focused on you?

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by Lil' Hannah
Well I'm just saying, why would you want siblings when all of the attention of your parents is focused on you?

INDEED. And all of the gifts at Christmas were FOR ME, well, except the rawhide chew we always wrapped for the dog, but I didn't mind sharing attention with the dog because he was really cool.