How To Be A Gentleman - Page 5

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #61 08-19-2003, 03:07 PM

Matt, I can't tell you how pleased I am you posted that.

Excellent work.

Billy, if some random guy came up to me and started in with the honor-defiling, I'd expect you to do something about it. THAT SAID, you do not necessarily need to break out the gunplay to both make me feel appreciated and solve the problem appropriately.

Once I was at a party with a guy I was seeing and one of his pledges started in with things he shouldn't have been saying. The guy told the pledge to cool it, took me over to a group of girls and said he'd be right back.

He told me later what he'd said to the pledge, and I was glad I wasn't around. He handled the situation well, made it clear what the problem was and what he expected to happen in the future, and did it all without throwing a punch.

What a turn on. Too bad he still had a thing for his ex-girlfriend.

AOII_LB93 · #62 08-19-2003, 05:03 PM

The street side thing is also mainly because back in the day when there were no toilets in the houses and apartments of Europe, the men would walk on the street side so that their lady friends would not be splashed with the contents of chamber pots. Gross, but true.

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The street side thing is a very old custom from the days before streets were paved. Men walked on the street side so ladies did not get splashed with mud or dust as the horses went by!

My hubby does all of the things that you guys mentioned on a regular basis, but we have 2 bones on contention on gentlemenly behavior:

he likes for me to wait to get out of the car so he can come around and unlock the door; I find it unnecessary to wait. He also typically rushes ahead of me when we are leaving places like resturants, etc. He says he is leading the way and making sure he can open the door for me, I say he should let me go first, then I should let him come around me to open the door! Ahh....the things we discuss!

valkyrie · #63 08-19-2003, 05:38 PM

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Originally posted by MattUMASSD
would you want a guy to defend you in general against a mugger or somone that wanted to do harm against you?

I would hope that anybody I was with, male or female, would help in such a situation. My point is that I would also be defending myself rather than sitting there passively, depending on a man to rescue me.

DeltAlum · #64 08-19-2003, 05:59 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
I am probably the only woman on GC who does not like most of these things that are considered "gentlemanly" or whatever you'd call it.

Valkyrie,

(Heavy sigh!)

I guess it's over between us.

Tom Earp · #65 08-19-2003, 06:20 PM

HMMMM, there were no chamber pots along the side of the road!

The idea of a Lady walking inside of a Gentleman was to keep the Carriages from splashing the water from the street and gutter from her.

Leading a Lady by the Back was to guide her through a crowd, the same way you lead a lady to dance.

Da, opening a door or pulling out a chair is basic!

If it is a Shit Kickin Place Belt loop on point!

If some DUDE acts like an Asswhole to your lady, politly ask him not to and kick him in the balls!

Now, for The Ladies on this:

If you smoke and ask a guy to light your cigarett, guide his hand to the to the end of a cigarett!

Guy, if a match, light yours first so
that the Sulpher is already gone!

Girls first on a lighter, second on a match!

Girls, if the Dude is Good, do what you do to him! Show your appreciation!

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AKA_Monet · #66 08-19-2003, 08:28 PM

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Originally posted by MattUMASSD
would you want a guy to defend you in general against a mugger or somone that wanted to do harm against you?

Sweetheart, the fact you'd do it if your woman was in danger would be fine in my book...

The idea is that it doesn't prove you are da MAN if you were able to do it and then did it...

Then you might get yourself set up if the chicky is tryin' to play you...

So, how would you really know?

DeltAlum · #67 08-19-2003, 08:57 PM

I forgot about the match vs. lighter thing! (maybe because neither of us ever smoked) That was HUGE when I was in college. Probably why we had to carry matches or a lighter when we were pledges. (Yeah, I know, that's hazing)

But I'll feel guilty. The shame. How can I ever open my pledge manual again?

Assuming I could find it.

valkyrie · #68 08-19-2003, 09:19 PM

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Originally posted by DeltAlum
Valkyrie,

(Heavy sigh!)

I guess it's over between us.

But DeltAlum, I still love you! *sniff*

DeltAlum · #69 08-19-2003, 10:37 PM

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But DeltAlum, I still love you! *sniff*

I know (taking a deep breath),I feel the same way, but we'll just have to be strong. I just can't help doing those gentlemanly things.

And the closest I've ever lived to the South is Baltimore.

rainbowbrightCS · #70 08-19-2003, 10:43 PM

I think men who are gentleman are very very sexy. Best way to turn me on is to treat me like a lady

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #71 08-20-2003, 12:05 AM

I think DeltAlumn is secretly a southerner.

I'm sorry, but that's what I believe.

MeLikey · #72 08-20-2003, 02:55 AM

I think gentlemen should close the window if a girl is cold... this could be in his room/apartment or car. It's even better if a guy asks you if you're cold and would like the window closed.

It's nice if guys offer to give up their beds for you if you're staying the night. I'm talking about if you're crashing with a friend for the night. I think it's gentleman-like to offer-- just shows that you care... but I'd never ever deprive a guy of his bed if I'm the guest. I'll take the floor over a guy giving up his bed just because that's who I am... but it's always nice if they ask. However, once when I was staying at my friend's and sleeping on her floor, a guy who was more of an acquaintance than good friend-- only hung out with him a few times, offered for me to sleep in his water bed... he was like you are not sleeping on the floor! So I did take him up on the offer because he was so persistent... and how could I pass up the water bed! His roommate wasn't there, so he slept in his bed.

Before I had the remote for the locks, I would always physically unlock the passenger's door before my own. I once did that for a guy I was seeing and he was all impressed. I was like, no you're not special, I do it for everyone.

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I always stand when a lady arrives at the table or is leaving the table. It gets such cool kid points for me from the ladies in the know and they are impressed. UNFORTUNATELY, there are even ladies, er, females who dont even know what I am doing. Anyway I do it as a sign of respect.

That reminds me of the movie Kate & Leopold!

Optimist Prime · #73 08-20-2003, 01:22 PM

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
Billy, if some random guy came up to me and started in with the honor-defiling, I'd expect you to do something about it. THAT SAID, you do not necessarily need to break out the gunplay to both make me feel appreciated and solve the problem appropriately.

Dueling, of course, is the last resort.

I thought that was obvious. Guess not.

DeltAlum · #74 08-20-2003, 03:42 PM

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
I think DeltAlumn is secretly a southerner.

I'm sorry, but that's what I believe.

Well, I went to college in Southern Ohio -- and they do talk funny there.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #75 08-21-2003, 04:41 PM

There ya go, then.