They're having a blast ! - Page 5

justamom · #1 10-20-2001, 11:26 AM

ThetaLove-According to my daughter, you do indeed have wonderful girls in your sorority. They impressed her right from the start. She said there is a lot of friendship between your two chapters.
Juniorgrrl said in the end, everyone ended up with quota. I believe one achieved it through snap bids, but I could be wrong so I don't want to say. By now, everyone seems to be into the swing of things so all's well that ends well! Next rush, you KNOW there will be tons of girls with questions who will need your help. Southern Rush is a different animal. Congrats for finding a home you love as well!

mmcat-HI! My sweetie is so happy. Now that the sororities have dropped their "rush" faces, some comical situations have occurred. Yes, some of those stereotypes seem to be valid in isolated cases. She is over at the house constantly and can't wait for the chance to move in. The mixers are fun, but she really likes the independent guys better(so far).
Acacia is one of her favorite fraternities (but they still have some others to mix with), she has found a few to be dull or full of themselves. These are generally the Fresh. and Soph. guys though.
I told her there are two times when fraternity guys CAN be unbearable, first when they pledge-they buy into reputations of their own organization, perception of Greek Life and sororities. Next is when they are newly initiated-Dang do they think they're "hot stuff" for a while. I guess that's the end result of a good pledge program though.
She is able to balance a Greek life with having independent contacts. THIS WAS IMPERATIVE. She also has close friends in KKG, Phi Mu, Theta, KD and ZTA. The bottom line-and I'm sure it's the same for ThetaLove and just about everyone else, she couldn't imagine herself anywhere else.
I do get a bit concerned about the party atmosphere, but that's part of learning too. Grades are really good so far but it's a long road and she's just at the begining. Thanks so much for asking.

TigerGirl52 · #2 10-21-2001, 01:22 AM

Hey justamom!!!!! I'm so glad your daughter is adjusting to everything at LSU. I'm so glad she's happy with her sorority too!!!! If she ever needs anything...let me know. I'm more than willing to look out for a fellow Tiger!!!!!!

Allison

mmcat · #3 10-21-2001, 09:36 AM

i'm delighted it's going so well for her.
things generally turn out as they were meant to be.
keep us posted.
mmcat

carnation · #4 06-25-2002, 07:55 PM

I'm bumping this up because it was a realistic depiction of the rushes at many large Southern (and other) schools. It also shows how everything can turn out OK--justamom's daughter is sublimely happy in DG a year later!!

carnation · #5 07-04-2003, 09:09 PM

bumping this for the same reason I did a year ago!

mmcat · #6 07-05-2003, 12:27 AM

it's just as real and important today as it was then...
congrats to jam and her daughter.
and best of luck to those getting ready to rush.
you can learn a bunch reading this thread.

justamom · #7 07-05-2003, 09:23 AM

Holy Cow! What a shock to see this thead again.

Just a simple addition-
Because of one of her sisters, she got a job out of state. She met some girls from Scotland, England and Australia.

She is going to move to England next July, work and go to school. They will work in Liverpool then go to London, where the girl has a flat, and attend school. Her family has invited our family for Christms 2004. Of course a lot of things could change, but I know how she is and the probability of this actually coming to fruition is in the high 90%. It is her dream.

I said to her, "...and just think, all this because you pledged DG!"

She thought it was pretty funny too!

KillarneyRose · #8 07-05-2003, 06:11 PM

I love this thread because there's a happy ending and I hate this thread because it still embarasses me to no end! But... I remember when I started reading Justamom's narrative I thought how lucky Li'l DG is to have such a fantastic mom, how lucky Justamom is to have such an awesome daughter and how much I wish Justamom lived in my neighborhood so we could hang out

JAM, you always have and always will ROCK!!

justamom · #9 07-06-2003, 04:31 PM

I wish Justamom lived in my neighborhood so we could hang out
We'd probably laugh ourselves to death!!!

mmcat · #10 07-07-2003, 08:35 AM

sounds like a wonderful idea...
how's your son's recruitment doing?

justamom · #11 07-07-2003, 01:35 PM

Gee-he has been to a couple of parties been invited to others, but our town is out of the loop, so he would have to go to another town to attend and there's just a lot of distraction going on here. His sister and a couple of upper class soro girls he knew from HS have been talking to him about the different fraternities.
I KNOW what the national policies are, but that doesn't mean hazing doesn't go on. All of his close friends are pretty set against any fraternity that is going to beat-punch-brand-tattoo-make them walk around in a costume filled with vomit...the stories go on and on. SO, at this point it goes from who hazes the least to the most and of 16 (or so) it comes down to one and a posible 2 others. There is a 4th, but THEIR pledges' choice was a brand or tattoo. The crazy thing is, most of these guys don't have older brothers in a fraternity, so they haven't been raised to hear about the positive aspects. I have retained some great advice from some of the guys on GC. I am printng it out around the first of Aug. so he can digest it. If I try to vocally tell him, he'll think I'm running his life/lecturing him-when he reads it, he thinks it over, and becomes more open when we talk.
I just think he may say to hell with it all and pledge a group SOLELY on the hazing issue and if the brotherod isn't there...walk away.

How could I blame him? I don't care WHAT your letters are! HUBBY says-you have to think you NEED to join pretty bad to allow people to beat you up. He has more confidence (ego???) than that.

Moxie · #12 07-07-2003, 05:44 PM

JAM - my boyfriend is thinking about going through rush again. he's been invited to some rush parties and a few guys he's still good friends with who are going to be entering as freshman want him to rush with them. i'm nervous about it, but want him to be happy, too - whatever they decide, i hope your son and my boyfriend end up happy! plus, what people have said is true - you can still befriend and party with the greeks and have a lot of fun as an independent =)

i'm also kind of wary for him because two weeks ago two of our close friends got ARRESTED in new orleans and spent a night in jail after attending a rush party. i don't know exactly what went on, because these fellows don't remember, but i am quite sure this group is one of the ones that participate in forms of hazing...

justamom · #13 07-07-2003, 05:48 PM

Maybe we should talk!

butterfly2001nc · #14 07-07-2003, 07:56 PM

i love this thread! being new, this is the first time i read this! it' was soo sweet!

Munchkin03 · #15 07-08-2003, 12:35 AM

JAM, would your son consider remaining independent?