How do you feel when people who are not in your Frat/Sor. wear your letters?

Originally posted by aephi alum
That's interesting. I would assume that if you were selling your car to another Mason, you wouldn't need to do this?

I'm also assuming it would be ok for me to drive my husband's car if he has a Masonic emblem on it? I'm hardly going to be mistaken for a Mason

both my dad and grandd ad has doen that too when they gotten rid of cars and had to remove the masonic stuff from it.

[polarpi]

Originally posted by kayla0deegee
ok what about people who have turned in their letters but still wear letter shirts...are they allowed to wear shirts as long as they are not formal letters, like date parties, philathropy, and etc...??

Are you talking about an ex-member of the sorority who's canceled her membership? We've had women from my chapter decide to cancel their membership, and they had to give back everything - letter shirts, philanthropy, badge, etc.!

[mommag2]

I don't have a problem with Greek Week shirts or with Crush party shirts or Philantropy shirts that are either bought or given out when you are a date or partcipating in that event, you pay for it when you register for the event. But I do have a problem with non-memebers,inavtices,girlfriends,sweethearts and just random people wearing letters. It burns me up. I worked hard for those letters and fro someone else to just randomly wear them, I can't handle it. I won't even let my daughter wear my active jacket or my sweatshirt, eventhough it's never been a problem with my sorority. I've been in line at fast food restaurants and seen girls wearing a Sig Chi , Sig Ep or a DTD LETTERED shirt and can hear them just talking so much bad stuff about the brothers and the org as a whole. IT MAKES ME SOOOO MAD. I hate it.

To me, if your not in the org don't wear the letters.

[AGDLynn]

Here's a suggested for unwanted, outgrown, etc. GLO clothes, trinkets, etc....ask a collegiate chapter if they want them.

[IheartAGDandAPD]

I only like to see initiated sisters wearing our letters, though our sweetheart is allowed to wear our letters and that is fine too! but if I saw any other male wearing them i would probably be upset. I am also the sweetheart of Alpha Phi Delta on my campus, and wear their letters with pride. All of those guys know me and treat me as if I was their little sister. On our campus fraternity men sometimes lavalier a girl if their is plans to marry them, and then they are permitted to wear thier letters. And sweethearts on our campus work a little differently than they do on most I've discovered. I always get asked which brother I'm dating when I say I'm a sweetheart, but on our campus if you are sweetheart you are not allowed to be dating one of the brothers because as sweetheart you are supposed to love all the brothers the same. So basically when voted sweetheart that is the fraternity's way of saying you are like their favorite girl on campus.....So that is why it is a HUGE honor for me to be able to the wear the Alpha Phi Delta Letters!

[OrigamiTulip]

Originally posted by MysticCat81
So here's a twist on the question --

A few weeks ago, Ms. MysticCat (a Kappa) sat down to supper wearing a Sigma Chi Derby Days tee-shirt that she has had for over 20 years. (She wears it a lot as a work-around-the-house type shirt.) I expressed some amazement that the shirt was still wearable and admiration that she could still fit in it, noting that I have a few Phi Mu Alpha jerseys (with block stiched letters) in my closet that I certainly can't fit into but wouldn't think of getting rid of.

Quickly, MysticCat Jr. -- a tall 6-year old -- shot his hand up and said he wanted them. (He loves wearing my old shirts). I told him sorry, but I couldn't let him wear these shirts.

"Really? Is that a rule?," Ms. MysticCat asked? I told her that I wasn't sure if it were a rule per se or an unofficial policy or just common practice, but that it would certainly be unusual to let a non-Sinfonian wear the letters. But we both agreed that certainly no one would confuse a 6-year old boy with a fraternity member, and the coolness of wearing the letters might plant a seed with him.

So what would y'all do?

Have "legacy" stiched onto them and let your son wear them

[MysticCat]

Originally posted by BetaRose
Have "legacy" stiched onto them and let your son wear them

I didn't think of that; great idea.

Actually, what I ended up doing was to give him some of my old tee-shirts and also show him the two jerseys. I told what they were, when I got them, why they were special, and that I couldn't give them to him because he is not a member of the Fraternity, but that I would let him wear them for now. His answer was "maybe when I'm in college I will join that club (as he calls it), and then you can give them to me." Mission accomplished!

Then he asked me about the colors ("are these the colors for the club?") and we talked about the funny letters -- he thought the word "Alpha" was much funnier than the "Phi."

[CarolinaDG]

Originally posted by preciousjeni
Why would you WANT to wear paraphernalia if you've turned in your letters????

preciousjeni

We had a girl who quit a couple of years ago, basically because she got dragged into it by one of her friends who wanted to quit. She ended up regretting it, and still carried the bag around, just to carry stuff in, not for the impact of the letters. I felt so bad for her ( I mean, she really did NOT want to quit... just got caught up with the wrong girl) that I didn't say anything. I know when our chapter closed, I didn't want to wear my letters at all, but you don't realize how difficult it is until you try not to... I mean, even after only 2 years, I had so many event t-shirts it was insane. I don't think I have a GOOD point with this, but trying to play a little devil's advocate here.