Could You Wait?

[Jamal5000]

Dear darling1,
Thank you for the word of encouragement.


I keep in contstant prayer about staying a virgin because I find it especially tough as a "frat boy" because a lot of my brothers are QUITE promiscuous.

In the end, I stay comfortrably abstinent because I realize that God sees that behavior as correct conduct just like the State Governments see abstaining from robbery as correct conduct. You could do what you want to do as long as you realize the penalities and consequences that you must reap. God, as well as the governments, clearly set down these principles very clearly, and it eases me to see that a standard of correctness does indeed exist in a performance-based way.

God Bless you at every juncture.

[darling1]

by seeing the larger picture and knowing what God has in store for you and LISTENING to HIM, it should not be difficult. i say that from personal experience.

Blessing to you always.

BTW: your story was one that was very encouraging for someone very close to me. i never thank you for that

[Jamal5000]

by seeing the larger picture and knowing what God has in store for you and LISTENING to HIM, it should not be difficult. i say that from personal experience.

Lol...I agree with you. If we listen to God and focus our minds on what the word tells us, staying abstinent is not difficult.

It goes back to what Paul tells us in Romans 7. When we want to do good, evil is right there with us. Our minds want to follow God's Will, but our bodies want to follow another law--the law of sin. The body and mind wage war against each other just like Iraq and the United States.

Lol. Thanks be to God through Christ who tells us how to overcome these challenges.

BTW: your story was one that was very encouraging for someone very close to me. i never thank you for that

Please tell your friend that I appreciate her finding my little testimony useful. I know that God will continue to strengthen her as her faith in him grows each moment.

[enlightenment06]

If I'm really interested in being with her in a committed relationship I would wait.

[delph998]

I guess we will all make sacrifices if we're willing to be in a commited relationship!

By the way Enlightenment06...we're clubs!!! #1 Trail Breaker

[snuggles12]

Unfortunately, I only heard one message on a James Dobson radio program about petting. This 26 year old minister gave a message about forsaking all sexual things including petting. The first time he ever kissed his wife was on their wedding day.

That was the first time I ever heard of not doing anything. Majority of the sermons I heard was not having sex but they never addressed petting.

Stay Strong!

BJ

Originally posted by Jamal5000
Unfortunately, they did not fulfill what the scripture said because in scripture the phrase "sexual immorality" refers to anything sexual (intercourse, oral, anal, petting, masturbating, etc.) because all of these activities intail personally involving the stimulation of the genitals as the primary, direct or indirect goal.

Sexual intercourse generally refers to any coming together of two people for coitus (penis into vagina) or copulation (a shared experience of a sexual nature).

The phrase "sexual immorality" or the word "fornication" translates a greek word called porneia that literally means "doing what a whore does". In other words, whatever a prosititute practices (intercourse, oral, anal, petting, masturbating, etc.) is forbidden for unmarried folks. (By the way, in the bible virgin only refers to women that are unmarried. It does not mean a man or a woman who has not had sexual intercourse. That part is somewhat implied)



That's pretty much what I hear, too because doing any of those things focuses the couple on having sex or getting themselves ready to have sex. Short kissing (not Frenching) and hand holding are probably the safest bet.

Have you heard any other opinions? I would love to hear about them.

[Diva0513]

After reading this entire thread and getting to know everyones opinion on the subject I have developed my answer.
As of right now, I don't want to wait. I'm sure I could if I wanted to but since I don't it's not an issue. I am in a monogomous relationship with the man I intend marry. I am more of a spiritual person that a religious person so that plays no part in my decision. I was raised Catholic and we had more rules than a little bit. I don't believe that rules alone makes you a better person. Thinking for yourself has to play a part in that. I have soaked in all the life lessons, mistakes, triumphs, and all that jazz. That is what I use to make my decisions. With that philosophy I allow others to do the same.

Diva

[jyhad1906]

saw this while scanning old threads

hell to the naw
i gotta hit first nite

just kidding the first woman i ever loved made me wait from Feb-oct
i was a two week man on my yard - i saw u - i wanted you - s**t two weeks or less i had u-
Until i met Adria founding member of S G Rho at my school
-- I tried like h**L to put my thang down but even though she had been liking me for the previous whole semester( as i later found out after overhearing her and her best friend having a conversation)
she was like no - no -no -no - and in case you didn't hear me -- no.
we even started to sleep in the same bed in sept. for 3-4night out the week
---- s**t but it was worth the wait she taught how to love awoman for her self.
waiting is good and important for a meaninful relationship

Jyhad
i am loved and i give love freely

[delph998]

Originally posted by jyhad1906
saw this while scanning old threads

hell to the naw
i gotta hit first nite

just kidding the first woman i ever loved made me wait from Feb-oct
i was a two week man on my yard - i saw u - i wanted you - s**t two weeks or less i had u-
Until i met Adria founding member of S G Rho at my school
-- I tried like h**L to put my thang down but even though she had been liking me for the previous whole semester( as i later found out after overhearing her and her best friend having a conversation)
she was like no - no -no -no - and in case you didn't hear me -- no.
we even started to sleep in the same bed in sept. for 3-4night out the week
---- s**t but it was worth the wait she taught how to love awoman for her self.
waiting is good and important for a meaninful relationship

Jyhad
i am loved and i give love freely

GREAT TO HEAR THAT!

[lovelyivy84]

Wow that neicy chick was disrespectful.

[desirethegreat1]

Originally posted by delph998
WHERE ARE THE MEN LIKE Y'ALL?! THEY DEFINITELY DON'T LIVE IN MINNESOTA!!! THAT'S GREAT CONTINUE TO BE THAT WAY!!! I LOVE IT!

They don't reside in Alabama either

[CrimsonTide4]

QUESTION FOR THOSE WHO ARE CELIBATE AND in a relationship


Can you PM me please? Thanks.

[dominion1906]

Originally posted by delph998
I was a little reluctant to start this thread, but my question is for the brothas out there. Let's think hypothetically for one second...

let's say there was someone that you really liked. She had the brains, body, everything. You really wanted to get with this girl. And she told you that she wanted to be in a relationship with you as well BUT she did not want to have sexual relations because she's practicing celibacy.

COULD YOU WAIT?????

The reason why I'm asking this is because a lot of my sisterfriends are beginning to abstain from sex these days. I happen to be one of those young ladies. I just wanna know how or if you could handle this situation. Can't wait to hear the replies...

I'm currently doing this right now. My girlfriend and I have agreed that we would wait until we got married before partaking in sex.

Personally I wouldn't date a girl that is quick to give it up. The relationship that I have with my girl is God centered . We pray together every morning and before we go out. We cuddle but we do not have sex. Now when we get married..... That's another topic