Transfer Recruitment Story

[33girl]

Tulip might just be crummy rushers. Get to know the girls in normal life and your attitude may change dramatically, to the point that you're thinking "Daisy who?"

There will ALWAYS be girls in the pledge class who know sisters so they're more comfortable, and there will ALWAYS be girls in the pledge class who could walk into a room full of flaming boa constrictors and handle it with grace. Don't measure yourself against them. You don't have to be perfect or be 100% in love with your GLO 100% of the time. Just do you and get to enjoying things in your own way.

[Wynter]

Have you had coffee or dinner with any of the sisters yet? Have you tried to hang out with your pledge class?

It's REALLY hard to judge how you'll do in sorority if your interactions are limited to mandatory events.

If I were you, I'd RELAX. Girl it's perfectly okay not to fall in love at first...I didn't! It took me a while to adjust to sorority life, as it isn't easy or instantly exciting for everyone, but my sisters saw something in me so I trusted their judgment and put my energy into getting to know them.

If you think of your new sisters more as individual people who are potentially going to be your good friends and not so much the group as a whole, it may be much easier.

Trust me, once you find at least one fellow pledge class friend/ally it gets easier to start getting to know everyone else. Go with the flow.

[DubaiSis]

I think you're doing just fine. What I'm reading from all this is "I am exhausted and really don't know what to feel but I'm smart enough to not do anything stupid right now." And that is all good. On GC we get a lot of OMG this is the best thing EVER and OMG I just got pledged into the worst sorority that every existed, and not a whole lot in between. And real life is, of course, in the middle. As you continue to share your thoughts and feelings over the coming weeks (and I hope you do), hopefully some future rushees will learn that in real life there are no unicorns pooping rainbows. It is NOT instant friends and it's not all smooth as silk. But it can be very very good if you let it be.

[ALynnJ]

Our pinning ceremony got pushed back to Wednesday. But Mandy texted me to invite me Greek lunch on Tuesdays and Thursdays during activity hour (I said I'd try because I don't have Tuesday or Thursday classes so I'm not normally on campus) and my Big Turtle (hint hint) invited me to watch our homecoming partners, Kappa Sig, play dodgeball. I went and in this low key situation I felt a lot more comfortable. It was because I no longer had to try so hard to impress people. I can totally see myself as a Delta Zeta!

But (and of course, there has to be a "but"), my dad isn't game. He saw that I was upset about getting dropped by Daisy and said he wasn't going to help me pay because "this sorority thing" was putting me through unnecessary stress. My parents aren't Greek: my mom never went to college and my dad went to community college and online university so they don't realize that it's stressful, even if you have a "perfect" recruitment. My mom seems really curious about the whole thing (she even wanted to take the notepad I got in my bid bag). I talked to my Big Turtle and some of the other DZs and a few of them said that they went through similar situations with their parents. They told me that once their parents saw how happy they were, they came around.

[TiareNoire]

Oh, wow. Another Delta Zeta ending! I really hope this works out for you! Congratulations on your bid.

[AOII Angel]

I agree with your sisters. Dads don't like seeing their daughters get hurt, but recruitment is a chance to really experience real life ups and downs and to grow through the experience. If you come out stronger on the other side with a group of great friends, I think your dad will see the difference.


ETA: Congratulations to you and Delta Zeta!

[ALynnJ]

My situation has actually inspired me to become a recruitment counselor. Maybe not next year because I'm interested in learning about the sisterhood side of recruitment, but I feel like I'd be good at calming down girls who get heartbroken. I didn't talk to my recruitment counselors about my situation because I'm more of an independent, reflect-upon-my-decisions person, but I like helping others solve their problems.

[pinksequins]

ALynnJ, first, congratulations on joining Delta Zeta! DZ has a wonderful new member. From your posts I predict that you will be a very engaged and happy sister for a long time and we will hear from you often on GC. Continue to have fun, chill and find your home. I foresee many good stories that you'll have to share.