UNC - Chapel Hill Recruitment Story! :-)

[megzamillion88]

I put on my favorite dress and headed over to our meeting spot to receive my schedule for the evening. However, when I got there I was disappointed to see that two of my top 3 choices had dropped me that night, including my favorite, Clydesdale. I was pretty upset at this since I had begun researching this particular chapter anticipating that I would make it back for Preference Night. However, I still had Selle Francais and once again, Westphalian had been brought back from the bottom of my list. Since I only had two rounds, I finished an hour early and planned to use that time to consult with my Rho Chi.

Selle Francais- As we lined up in alphabetical order, I saw a few members of Selle Francais walk to various areas of the front yard to place cards, flowers, desserts and champagne glasses of sparkling cider. When my name was called, I was very happy to see a girl that I had clicked with so well in a previous round. She was so sweet, and while she was talking to me, I started to feel like I might be able to fit in here. The card that I received had several messages from girls that I had spoken with throughout rush, and I really liked how personalized each one was. It made me happy to see that these girls had remembered little things about our conversations and details about me as well. The ceremony was very nice and I started to get a little teary eyed when I heard some of the stories. I made it clear that I really liked this group and the girl I was with kept telling me how much they wanted me to be there.

Westphalian- This house was so far away from Selle Francais that I practically had to run there to make it on time. I got there as they were calling girls in and had just enough time to change my shoes and get in line. (Thank goodness my last name is towards the end of the alphabet!) I was led in by a girl that I had spoken to at the first round. She showed me her scrapbook while I ate some delicious dessert. It was very cute and it seemed like these girls had fun with each other. However, I still did not feel like I belonged here. The ceremony was very nice, and I was led out after its conclusion. After leaving here, I had decided that I just couldn’t put them on my preference card. I never felt comfortable here and I didn’t think it would be a good match for me, personally.

I headed over to the very gorgeous Carolina Inn to find my Rho Chi before filling out my preference card. I had become very comfortable speaking with her throughout the whole process and felt like she could help consult me with my situation. I was torn, but not between the two chapters I had left. I just wasn’t sure if I wanted to give Selle Francais a chance or if I wanted to drop out altogether. I had eliminated the possibility of joining Westphalian because I just never felt comfortable there. Despite warnings I had read on GC and had heard from my Rho Chi, I either wanted to suicide Selle Francais or not sign a preference card at all. My Rho Chi asked me my feelings about each chapter, and she told me about how someone she knew had been in a similar situation before (rushed as a sophomore, left with only two choices, neither of which she liked that much). She said that this girl had decided to give it a try and put both houses down on her card. She ended up at her number one choice out of these two and grew to love it over the next few years. She also said that I had nothing to lose by doing this. If I ended up going through bid day and part of the new member period and I didn’t like it, I could always drop out before initiation. This started to make sense to me and she led me inside to fill out my card. She warned me that there could be a possibility that I would not get a bid if I only wrote down Selle Francais, but I understood the consequences and I just couldn’t present myself with the possibility of receiving a bid from Westphalian when I knew that my heart wasn't in it.

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Stay tuned for Bid Day!! Coming soon!

[MerryGPhiB]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

patience...patience....we ain't got no stinkin' patience.

please post soon!!

Yeah, what she said!!! Patience is overrated!

[breathesgelatin]

Wow! I love to see stories like this where women really stick it out despite thir disappointment. I am glad that you were able to handle everything so well - it sounds like such a stressful week.

[megzamillion88]

I spent the majority of the night after Preference wondering if I had made the right decision. I was sad that my favorite chapters had dropped me so early on, but I was beginning to really like the one that I wrote on my preference card. My friends “Christina” and “Sarah” had also attended preference night and were very happy with their choices. Christina had ranked Dutch Warmblood as her first choice, Quarter Horse as her second choice, and Clydesdale as her third choice. She said that these three were so different, but she would be happy at any one of them. Sarah ranked Quarter Horse as her first choice and Clydesdale as her second choice. She did not list the third party that she had attended that night. The morning of Bid Day, I started to think about the positive side of things and how I could have the chance to meet some amazing people and become actively involved at my new school. Despite my newfound optimism, I was still a little skeptical and became pretty stressed out, so Christina and I went to lunch to take my mind off the whole process.

I got back to my room at around 2pm and had about 3 hours or so to relax and get ready for Bid Day. I called my parents because they had been longing for an update and they were happy that I had decided to give it a chance. A few minutes after I had gotten off the phone with them…
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I received a call from my Rho Chi. I cringed, knowing exactly why she was calling. She asked how I was doing and then proceeded to tell me that I had not received a bid. My heart sank. Rush was finally over, but it didn’t end the way I was hoping it would. I walked over to Christina’s room with tears in my eyes and told her the news. I wasn’t as visibly upset as I thought I would be, but I still felt absolutely horrible inside. I sent off my two friends and told them to text me as soon as they found out where they would be receiving their bids. I was also interested in the Rho Chi reveal, so I gave them the names of my Rho Chis and told them to keep an eye out for me.

Unfortunately, they didn’t mention names during the Rho Chi reveal, so my friends were unable to identify mine. Christina ended up at her third choice, Clydesdale, but was very happy to be there. Sarah got her first choice, Quarter Horse, and was also happy with it.

I won’t lie, it was very difficult to see so many girls walking around in their bid day shirts yesterday. It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough for any of these organizations. It’s hard to answer the question, “So where did you end up?” without bringing back those negative feelings. I just hope I can find my niche at this school. It’s so disheartening to know that I had failed even though I had spent so much time and energy preparing for this week.

A little bird also told me that the only reason I had been cut by a particular organization was because I was a transfer student, and they didn’t know how to weigh my GPA against those of current students (although it was VERY high). Other than that, they loved my personality and enjoyed talking to me. I’m almost positive that this question was brought up at most of the chapters, and that it played a significant role (along with the fact that I’m a sophomore) in the selection process. It’s just very unfortunate that this was such a big factor.

I have since emailed the Greek Life Office about COB opportunities in the hope that I too will find a home.

Well, since I know you’re all dying to know where my friends ended up, I will reveal those two code names… Clydesdale is Phi Mu and Quarter Horse is Alpha Chi Omega.



(I just noticed that I made a major mistake when posting part of my story… I posted my Day One story while the Bid Day Festivities were going on, clearly giving away the fact that I was sitting in my room instead of at the ceremony… oops! Did anyone catch that?)

[MerryGPhiB]

Megzamillion- I am sorry that you didn't match however, keeps your eyes and ears open there may be COB opportunities that are unexpected. Keep in contact with your Rho Chis and the Panhellenic office. Also, become involved on campus. You have alot to offer any chapter--

btw I love how you wrote your entries, i felt as if I were there with you.

Best wishes for a bright future

M

[FSUZeta]

meg, i am sorry that things did not work out for you.

[IHPiPrez]

Megza -

I'm so sorry things didn't work out for you and I hope you will have opportunities for COB in the future.

In the meantime, explore other avenues to get involved. Next time you walk to class, check out the Pit and see what organizations are "Pit Sitting" hoping to find great volunteers. There are so many of them at Chapel Hill that could use your enthusiasm and determination!

All 3 of my daughters have attended (or attend) UNC. None of them joined a sorority and yet all found their "homes" on the campus. I have no doubt that you will too.

Best of luck to you and enjoy all that Chapel Hill has to offer.

[YouTee]

Originally Posted by megzamillion88

(I just noticed that I made a major mistake when posting part of my story… I posted my Day One story while the Bid Day Festivities were going on, clearly giving away the fact that I was sitting in my room instead of at the ceremony… oops! Did anyone catch that?)

I noticed. At first my heart fell, but I realized that if you were together enough to keep writing, that you are a strong young woman and will be just fine. I just want to tell you to keep your chin up. UNC has SO many great opportunities for involvement. I encourage you to seek them out NOW. At my alma mater, there was a coed service fraternity that many people found to be just as fun as regular Greek organizations. Join an intramural sport. Go back and research the various clubs.

Only about 10-12% of students at UNC are Greek. Look around you and see how many of them are having the time of their lives! You are fantastic and will have a great experience here. You have a right to feel sad and disappointed, but don't let that shake your sense of self and your belief in your own special qualities.

Good luck with COB if that is an option. Please follow up here or by PM and let us know how you are doing.

[Jill1228]

Sorry it didn't work out, hon! Keep your chin up

[AXi1257]

I"m bummed for you too. Thank you for sharing your story though. I really enjoyed reading it. I definitely think you should see what UNC has to offer for activities, etc. You'll find your place!

[texas*princess]

I'm so sorry to hear it didn't work out for you, but I'm glad you gave it a shot and stuck it out until the end even though you weren't sure about the 2 groups that invited you to pref.

Good luck with school & keep your ears open for COR opportunities that might spring up.

[Scandia]

Megzamillion- I am so sorry that Recruitment did not work out for you. Your code names were nifty- I had not seen anyone give the organizations names of horses yet. If there is COB, definitely check it out.

[ThetaDancer]

I am sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you. Best of luck to you during your time at UNC.

I also want you to know that I enjoyed reading your posts. You're a terrific writer!

[KSUViolet06]

I truly commend you for sticking it out through the entire process.

If there are COB opportunities, I would defintely check them out.

Best of luck to you and I hope you enjoy your time at UNC.

[megzamillion88]

Well, I have some good news to share with ya'll... I received a call this afternoon from the recruitment chair of a sorority asking me if I would be interested in joining because they just had a spot open up and had gotten my name from the Greek Life Office. So, thanks to COB, I accepted and attended my first new member meeting tonight. I am now a new member of.....





















































PHI MU!!!!!

(also known as Clydesdale in my story)

I was so happy to hear this news and immediately told my friends down the hall who were equally (if not more) excited This all happened so suddenly, but I am extremely grateful that I now have a happy ending to my story.

Thanks to everyone for your support throughout this whole process. I really appreciate the advice and encouragement you have given me!