Soliloquy's Fall 2007 recruitment

[Soliloquy]

Today went pretty well.

Alexisonfire: My first party of the day! Thankfully, I didn't have to wait too long for it. I was picked up by a well-known girl on campus and we sat down to make our craft. I picked an object that was associated with my name and colored it the best I could considering I was more focused on making conversation! I felt like it went pretty smoothly. I expressed interest in holding an office and re-iterated my campus involvement. I also mentioned that I already had volunteer experience with their philanthropy and enjoyed doing it. Another girl joined us shortly after and all three of us had a pretty good convo. While I left the house still liking it, I didn't really know how to read the girls who talked to me. I was unsure if they liked me enough to invite me back. However, if they did, I would be really really happy!

We went to lunch and I resumed my parties with..

Damone: The girl that picked me up was super nice. We had an awesome conversation about everything from campus involvement, future aspirations, and of course my special situations. Another girl joined us, Damone VP, and I got along with her just as well! They both seemed impressed by my drive. I completely neglected the craft because I was enjoying myself so much! I really enjoyed my time here and hoped that they would ask me back.

311: A girl that I sort of knew greeted me and she was awesome. She gave me a great deal of info about their philanthropy and asked me about my views on it. Their philanthropy is something I am interested in as well and she knew that I had already worked with another organization to create a rally for it. She had to go set up for a short presentation and her replacement was the 311 president! I have to admit, that even though I am so comfy at this house I suddenly got really nervous!!!! I barely remember the convo and I think I babbled on about the weather. haha! When my original girl came back, I thought to myself "man, I hope I didn't just mess things up for me here!!" We talked about a few more things and it was time to leave.

Copeland: Final party!! I was so tired from the heat and was a bit lethargic during the entire thing. I felt so bad because my attention span kept weening! I wasn't doing it on purpose, but I couldn't help it. I had a pretty good convo with the girl. It seemed a bit forced and she was a little too enthusiastic about me. I had never met her before, so I didn't know if it was an act or what. Another girl joined in and it was more of the same 'ol. She's actually the little sis of a good friend of mine, who stopped by to give me a hug and say hello! I had a pretty good time, but really didn't know what to think. Especially after they both gave me hugs and seemed so stoked about me.

We had to wait foreevvverrrrr for our results tonight. The gamma chi's had a meeting with panhellenic and reported back to us that we would be experiencing heavy cuts. There are a great deal of girls going through recruitment and the sororities had to work hard to figure out who to release. They also reminded us that if we were cut from a house we have friends in, that it was not a reflection on us or our friends- just simply that there were too many girls and not enough spots. They also said that many girls would only have 2 parties to go to, so not to feel bad if we didn't have a full schedule of 3.

So... I finally get my invites and they areee.....

311
Alexisonfire
Copeland

What?! No Damone?! I was shocked into tears! I couldn't believe I got cut from a house that I had come to dearly like in the past two days, especially after the conversations I had today. I felt like I did everything right!! I knew so many girls and felt so welcomed. However, things happen for a reason and maybe I just wouldn't have been a great fit. Telling myself that still doesn't take away the sting

I have to keep reminding myself that I'm very lucky to have a full schedule with 2 of my favorites on that list. I am also more then willing to give Copeland another shot. However, I think at this point I would really like to pref at 311 and Alexisonfire. I do know that if I get cut from 311 tomorrow night I will be a devestated mess. I hope that won't happen and I will do whatever I can tomorrow to make sure it doesn't!!!!

Back to ABC university at 8 am again tomorrow. It's gonna be another super long day! I'm looking forward to the skits!!!

[Leslie Anne]

Sorry to hear about your being cut from Damone, Soliloquy. Cuts are tough to take. You still have 2 chapters you love though (and a full schedule) so keep your head up!

Looking forward to hearing about Skit Day! Have fun and, as always, keep an open mind.

[KSUViolet06]

Cuts are tough, but you have three and that's awesome. I would hope that you get every group you'd like for your next rounds, but I also hope that you will continue even if 311 chooses not to invite you back. You'd still have 2 chapters left!

I did a rush thread for a friend of mine, and she was dropped from her top choice right before Preference. She was devastated, but at the advice of her Rho Chi, she went to her pref parties and ended up really liking one of them and eventually getting a bid rrom them.

[AOII Angel]

Yeah...what they said!

[FSUZeta]

good luck sol!! hope you get the invitations you are hoping for.

[Soliloquy]

I thought today went great, but it didn't.

I can't bear to describe the details without crying, but I was cut from 311 and Alexisonfire. The cuts don't make any sense. I was rushed again by the president at 311 today, only to get cut. My eyes welled up when I saw that the only pref I was invited to tomorrow was Copeland. A sorority that I am very very unsure about. I don't know if I can handle going to prefs tomorrow seeing all the girls lining up outside of 311 and Alexisonfire. I thought I did well at both and left feeling so confident!

However, I am going to suck it up and go. I want to see what Copeland has to say and if they can convince me that this is where I need to be. Fate has a funny way of telling you your purpose, and maybe mine is to help Copeland rebuild. I'll try my best to keep an open mind during the party. I did have fun there today and liked the girls who rushed me today much moreso then previous days. I enjoyed their skit and found myself genuinely laughing. Their chant has also been stuck in my head all day long. Seriously. I can't get it out. I also know a lot of girls who may be in my pledge class that I adore... I won't settle, but I will give them a fair chance. I won't take a bid away from a girl that desperately wants Copeland just because I want to be greek, but if they suddenly work their way into my heart tomorrow- I will accept their bid.

Wish me luck, I really need it guys...

[xoheatherxo]

congrats on getting invited back to copeland, even if youre upset about not getting invited back to the other two. definetely go to pref tomorrow with an open mind. if you feel like copeland could be your home then totally go for it!! try to get a good nights sleep and enjoy tomorrow!! cant wait to hear what you decide!!

[Leslie Anne]

I'm wishing you luck, Soliloquy! It's great that you're keeping an open mind about Copeland. You never know.....

[FSUZeta]

you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by attending the pref. party at copeland. please see what is it all about. the better informed you are, the more assured of your decision you will be.

[Forgetmenotivy]

Soliloquy, I am a chapter advisor from a chapter like you are describing Copeland. Plus I was in your shoes 30 years ago this fall as my chapter was also struggling when I joined and I had been rushed hard by Kappa Delta during the prior spring but they were at total and couldn’t take anyone until formal recruitment. When I opened my pref invites it only showed Alpha Phi. I was devastated but mainly surprised. I didn't know what to do. I didn’t know what I had done. Back then we didn’t have Rho Chis to talk to. I had and still do have so many friends in Kappa Delta. I don’t hold any ill feeling towards Kappa Delta. It is a great organization.

I too, sucked it up and went to pref. I gave Alpha Phi a chance. That was the best decision I ever made. I will never forget my KDee friends coming up to me on Bid Day saying how proud of me they were that I had joined Alpha Phi. They said it would be KDee’s loss and Aphi’s triumphant. I have been involved in Alpha Phi ever since. It was the best thing that could have happened to me at the time but I couldn’t see it at the time. When I went to Pref I listened to the woman that was preffing me. Alpha Phi truly wanted me and saw their future involving me.

If you take away all the letters, decorations, symbols, and accessories all groups are the same. They all have parties and socialize; they all have sisterhood and care for each other; they all do community service and philanthropy; they all have their successes and failures. Sorority Life is what YOU make it! I have proven that! I would not trade Alpha Phi for all the gold in the world now but I know it is hard to see at the time. Go where you are wanted and can have a great experience. I have had women in my 10 years as chapter advisor that pledge Alpha Phi, that thought at the time they were taking their second or third choice but if you ask them today they realize they really got their first and only choice for them. I have also seen women go where they thought they should be and didn’t find the treasure they saw during recruitment. Give Copeland a chance and I bet you will find what you were looking for. Don’t ever look back!!

[Soliloquy]

Well I took the advice of those who posted here, along with the advice of my mom, my gamma chi, and my best friend. I went to my single pref party this morning.

I was upset driving there thinking about how unfair it was. I moped during the our group meeting. I pouted and shuffled my way to the lane. I was sad standing in line; looking longingly at the Alexisonfire and 311 houses. Then suddenly the Copeland doors opened and I heard the soft singing. I felt my heart skip a beat and a smile rise out of nowhere. A smile? I haven't smiled in 12 hours! I was greeted by the girl who rushed me (we'll call her "Marilyn") the first day, the one from my homestate. My name was announced and I was led further into the house. I looked around and noticed how beautiful all the actives looked. My heart swelled with pride. Pride? I smiled, now I'm proud?! What's going on here?!

The president gave a short wonderful speech and we sat for a few minutes with the ladies who pref'd us. "Marilyn" said how excited she was that I chose to come back. She also said that all 6 girls who rushed me the past few days were fighting over who got to pref me today. I felt adored. Marilyn pulled the hometown card and ended up "winning me," as she put it. I was glad she was the one to do it.

The ceremony was gorgeous. I have to admit that I cried. Especially when the girls dedicated this entire recruitment, and a song, to the girl was killed in a car-wreck earlier this year (as I mentioned in my thread).

Marilyn walked me out and started to cry as she said, "I really hope I get to see you at bid-night." She gave me a big hug and I walked out of the door. I couldn't believe that time had passed so quickly. I couldn't believe that not once during their ceremony did I think of 311 or Alexisonfire. I went to sign my pref card and was certain that God knew where I belonged the entire time; and that my dear friend who died, was definitely watching over me.


We will get our bids around 6:00 tonight. I can sincerely say that I hope it says Copeland on it. If it does, you better believe I will be the sprinting to the lane to join my new sisters!

[AlphaXi_Husky]

That is so wonderful Soliloquy! It's great to hear you had such a good pref party at Copeland and you feel like you really belong there. Try not to let nerves get the best of you today as you wait for 6pm!

[MerryGPhiB]

Soliloquy, as I sat here reading this morning about your getting only the one house back ,my heart dropped. And then I thought, it CAN be the the right house for you. You spoke about the other women around the room who could be in your pledge class- the women in my pledge class are women who are still some of my dearest friends today. ( 32 years after bid day!)

As I read further the note from the Alpha Phi, my heart was touched and it is a message I would love every PNM to hear. Thank you so much for sharing your story and I hope others reading this thread will get a chance to read it. You truly touched my heart, thank you.

S, I must say you have such a wonderful outlook and mature attitude, Copeland will be a lucky VERY lucky group to get such an outstanding woman.

Please keep us posted!

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by Soliloquy

We will get our bids around 6:00 tonight. I can sincerely say that I hope it says Copeland on it. If it does, you better believe I will be the sprinting to the lane to join my new sisters!

What a great story. Can't wait to hear the results. Best of luck to you tonight.

[icelandelf]

Good luck Soliliquy. That is quite a journey you have taken this last week and I hope that it works out. I think Copeland would be blessed from gaining you as a sister. Looking forward to reading what happens next!