Should I rush? - Page 4

icicle22 · #46 12-06-2006, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by tinkerbellnell

My parents arent really that supportive. They think that its dangerous, because they believe the things that are shown in movies. But, they can trust that if I was in a situation where there could be physical harm that I wouldnt just go along with it. Its dissapointing to me that they think so badly about an organization that Im looking to join myself with for life, but hopefully with time as I go through rush and then hopefully new membering (keep your fingers crossed) they will understand.

I would most likely discuss it gradually with your parents if I were you...just as I will as well.

DeltaBetaBaby · #47 12-07-2006, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by icicle22

I would most likely discuss it gradually with your parents if I were you...just as I will as well.

Please don't be the person who rushes first and then tells your parents that you just pledged. It doesn't sound like this is your plan, but remember that it takes a spot away from someone else.

AGDLynn · #48 12-07-2006, 10:58 PM

Some chapters may have a delayed payment plan to ease the "pain" of joining although they may have rule that when you pledge, all outstanding monies have to be paid before you "walk down the aisle" or whatever at Initiation..once you are initiated, it may be easier to be approved for a promissory note or whatever.

Yes, GPA is very important. Most chapters have specific rules about studying. For example, let's say that a group has a rule that those below a 3.0 have to do some proctored hours each week..the farther away you are from the 3.0, the more you have to be proctored.

Yes, it's cool to see some famous person and be able to say "that's my sister or brother"..even though you'll never actually meet them. Of course, it's also neat to find out that the person living across the street is your sister or brother".

And it's fun when you "meet" on GC and then actually meet them in real person.

icicle22 · #49 12-16-2006, 12:03 PM

An update.
Well, I've just seen my fall semester grades and they are below par...except for one class, luckily enough. So I think I'm going to rush next year, because by then, I might have better grades by then.

OhSoSmoothKalyn · #50 12-16-2006, 01:13 PM

Well, fortunately I had a mother and father who were both greek and were encouraging me to rush since, oh about 5th grade lol... I was told about the high ideals of scholarship to the Greek Community, the involvement, etc... I was rushed by my own parents lol!!

But... I had an Aunt who was against me joining anything... she basicially said that greek organizations focus on drinking and partying... and that certainly isn't true... people, like my aunt, who aren't greek, will generalize and make assumptions...

I definitely encourage you to go through recruitment! It's a great way to meet people and a wonderful way to get involved on campus... if your parents are still adamant on you not joining a greek organization, check and see if there is a parent's guide to Greek Life in your Student Life office... I know at my school there are plenty! This helps parents get an insight to what Greek Life promotes and eases them a little bit...

I agree with Delta Beta Baby, don't be the girl who pledges and then has to drop because she didn't tell her parents... that only makes things worse for the sorority and you

I'm sure you won't, but it's better to tell them upfront than to lie to them... it happened to a girl in my pledge class when I pledged in Fall 2005... not pretty...

Best of Luck to you!
-Kalyn

OhSoSmoothKalyn · #51 12-16-2006, 01:16 PM

Yes, get those grades up! And you will also have more time to talk to your parents about greek life... again, please check in your student life office for a parent's guide... I work in the student life office and we gave out a BUNCH for the girls this fall.

icicle22 · #52 12-21-2006, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by OhSoSmoothKalyn

Yes, get those grades up! And you will also have more time to talk to your parents about greek life... again, please check in your student life office for a parent's guide... I work in the student life office and we gave out a BUNCH for the girls this fall.

Thanks...I'll definitely look into it.

GreekGirl06 · #53 01-07-2007, 06:49 PM

I would do it. The way I look at the entire rush process, even if you don't get a bid. You will make lots of friends with other people that you meet through the whole process for instance, I've been at my university for four years and I'm still interested in going Greek as a result. I now have over 200 friends that are Greek, and I still haven't received the bid into a house. It's about the people you meet even if you don't get accepted into the Greek community. They know that I will be rushing every semester and I'm not worried whether or not they think I'm crazy for going through rush. Hopefully one day, I will get in is n. In my head. It's only a matter of time before the bid is extended,

BabyPiNK_FL · #54 01-07-2007, 07:03 PM

I rushed and didn't tell my parents (they didn't want me to join anything) but a) I was 20-21 at the time of pledging b) I didn't expect them to (directly) pay for it, c) I was living on campus (normally I commute) at the time so it was easy to hide and d) i didn't expect them to pay for it (directly). If you, yourself, and you can fund it and you're over 18 then when you are ready to rush, then go ahead, but since you're concerned about grades, save up your spare finaid or pocket change, etc. so that way you don't have to worry about what anyone think when the time comes.

p.s. my mom found out after initiation when I came home to stay over the break (the dorms were empty

) by then I didn't care and she didn't get mad because there wasn't anything she could do, but she doesn't like it and calls it "my cult" and i wear "cult shirts" and sing "cult songs" so be prepared for some kind of backlash!

hope i helped!

Ocalagirl · #55 01-07-2007, 09:56 PM

Well coming from a pretty much non-greek family, they weren't against it, but were not totally for it. I tried to explain to them why I was going for it, but they had seen my aunt join a GLO, grades drop, and she dropped out of college and they thought this was how it was going to be like. And because I didn't receive a bid, my mom is even now more against it than ever. She doesn't understand why I would want to go through the humiliation and work of going through recruitment again when I pretty much have a slim chance of getting in. I am going through again because I want to know the bonds of sisterhood in some shape or form...I encourage everyone I know to go greek (if they know they would be willing to do it). I hope your parents understand and you are able to go through with it.
Good luck, Ocalagirl

violetpretty · #56 01-08-2007, 02:35 AM

It depends how low your grades are and how competitive your school's greek community is. If you are below the panhellenic required GPA, wait until you get your grades up. If you are just at the minimum for many of the chapters, then go ahead and sign up. You have nothing to lose. Worst case scenario is that you will have met a bunch of new people and have extra motivation to imporve your grades for the fall.

Have you talked with your parents yet?

icicle22 · #57 01-08-2007, 01:00 PM

Not yet, technically...I will most likely be rushing next fall, so I'm focusing on studies first. But yeah, I plan to talk to them in the coming months.

FSUblondeAST07 · #58 01-10-2007, 08:28 PM

When my lil lil pledged she did not tell her parents that she was doing it because they were against it. It was hard for her to keep it a secret, she even had to take down sorority decorations in her room before her parents came up to visit. Bottom line, her parents found out after the dues checked cleared and it really wasn't that big of a deal in the end. I think they were more hurt that she didn't tell them, rather than being upset that she decided to persue membership in the sorority.

Follow your heart in making the decision whether to persue membership in a sorority, but either way you need to be honest with your parents. You only live life once, so I say persue your dreams because you don't want to look back at your college experience with "I wish I would of done...."

icicle22 · #59 01-17-2007, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUblondeAST07

When my lil lil pledged she did not tell her parents that she was doing it because they were against it. It was hard for her to keep it a secret, she even had to take down sorority decorations in her room before her parents came up to visit. Bottom line, her parents found out after the dues checked cleared and it really wasn't that big of a deal in the end. I think they were more hurt that she didn't tell them, rather than being upset that she decided to persue membership in the sorority.

Follow your heart in making the decision whether to persue membership in a sorority, but either way you need to be honest with your parents. You only live life once, so I say persue your dreams because you don't want to look back at your college experience with "I wish I would of done...."

That's true. I really wouldn't want to remember my college experience and think about what I should have done...that really wouldn't make me too proud of it.

icicle22 · #60 03-18-2007, 08:14 PM

I've decided on a course of action recently.
I am going to register for rush for next fall after the semester is over technically because by then my grades will be posted, and of course, my grades are really going to be the judging factor in whether or not I'm going to sign up for recruitment.
After that, if my grades are in good standing and I do sign up for rush, then I will approach the matter with my parents and tell them that I want to go through rush next fall and that it will be a great way to meet people. Isn't that what rush is all about, anyway?
Then afterwards, I can explain to them why I want to join a sorority.
It's probably not the best idea, but it's what I came up with.
What do you think?