rejections starting to hurt again...what should I do? - Page 4

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #46 03-23-2006, 12:34 PM

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Originally posted by amanda6035
I very much agree with this. I get EXTREMELY irritated with people who "waste" their time. In 2 1/2 years I have only missed 1 chapter meeting, and it was because I flew out of town to see my long distance military boyfriend before he went out to sea for a long period of time. I only take 12/13 hours worth of classes, but I work 25 hours, AND I'm involved in 2 other organizations on campus (one being student government, the other a professional IT organization). People who can't (or rather, don't) manage their time effectively get on my nerves - especially when they come into chapter whining and complaining about how busy they are. Guess what, we're all busy, so if you're looking for sympathy, you're barking up the wrong tree.

Meow!

Kevin · #47 03-23-2006, 12:39 PM

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Originally posted by macallan25
I joined a very good fraternity on my campus, took 18 hours, worked at a golf course, had a 3.6 gpa....and never missed a meeting, party, etc. during my pledge year. Your post is borderline idiotic.

Not necessarily. Obviously, your employer worked with your schedule. At one time, I had one full time job and two part time jobs while being the L.C. (#2 guy) for my chapter while we were putting together the final application for our charter.

Right now, I'm in law school, I work full time (don't tell the A.B.A.), volunteer on weekends for the Department of Human Services, and am planning a wedding.

I agree that time management can be done. The thing is that you have to have the different things on your schedule be compatible. If I my job told me I had to be at work to prepare discovery or trial exhibits and that I had to miss one of my classes, something would have to give.

All I'm saying (and others) is that while in college, we're preparing for our future careers. In most cases, the job we're in is doing nothing to accomplish that end. As college students, we must think in terms of our long term best interests. I'm of the opinion that jobs in college are fairly interchangable and if one isn't willing to work with your schedule, you can find another which will. It sounded like the original poster's job was being unreasonable (although, upon further examination, she just needs to learn to make the word "no" a reflex when being asked to take on additional responsibilities at work).

pinkiebell1001 · #48 03-23-2006, 12:43 PM

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
Meow!

LOL- that was my exact thought when i read her post

chio84 · #49 03-23-2006, 12:53 PM

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Originally posted by amanda6035
I very much agree with this. I get EXTREMELY irritated with people who "waste" their time. In 2 1/2 years I have only missed 1 chapter meeting, and it was because I flew out of town to see my long distance military boyfriend before he went out to sea for a long period of time. I only take 12/13 hours worth of classes, but I work 25 hours, AND I'm involved in 2 other organizations on campus (one being student government, the other a professional IT organization). People who can't (or rather, don't) manage their time effectively get on my nerves - especially when they come into chapter whining and complaining about how busy they are. Guess what, we're all busy, so if you're looking for sympathy, you're barking up the wrong tree.

maybe i can understand you getting annoyed when these kinds of people complain, but does it really affect you at all if someone wants to waste time? i like wasting time. chill out and stop judging people.

"the time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time." - bertrand russell

valkyrie · #50 03-23-2006, 01:00 PM

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
Meow!

LOL. I had a very busy drinking schedule when I was in college, but I never complained about it.

adpiucf · #51 03-23-2006, 01:02 PM

Different strokes for different folks. Some of us can't imagine not working our way through school, others have more flexibility because they don't have to work. How we choose to spend our time is our own business, whether we work or don't work. No one is wrong. Just different circumstances.

And it is up to each individual and their financial situation and time management skills to determine what's best for them. Not our job to judge.

/Eagerly anticipating an update from the OP

KSigkid · #52 03-23-2006, 01:05 PM

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Originally posted by adpiucf
Different strokes for different folks. Some of us can't imagine not working our way through school, others have more flexibility because they don't have to work. How we choose to spend our time is our own business, whether we work or don't work. No one is wrong. Just different circumstances.

And it is up to each individual and their financial situation and time management skills to determine what's best for them. Not our job to judge.

/Eagerly anticipating an update from the OP

Exactly - and telling others how it "should" be in that situation doesn't work, because every situation is different.

I_Love_Penguins · #53 03-23-2006, 01:14 PM

I'm so confused by some of these abbreviations. OP? GDI? Clarify please.

I don't feel my job had been inflexible. Like I said, when I went in to get my schedule, they ASKED me to work...they didn't say I had to. I said yes when I could've easily said no, but I said yes partly because I need whatever money I can get, and partly because I knew that they needed staff to cover shifts and were scrambling to do so in the hour or two they had before day shift left and night shift took over. I don't see how my willingness to work is my job being inflexible, but that's OK. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I didn't think people would get so worked up.

AlphaFrog · #54 03-23-2006, 01:23 PM

OP - Original Poster - in this case, you
GDI- God Damned Independant (non-greek)
GLO - Greek Letter Org (you didn't ask about it, but I threw it in for free anyway)

rhochi2002 · #55 03-23-2006, 01:33 PM

I guess I get what the OP is saying.
She orginally asked to work on tuesdays so that was her planned day to work anyways. Also there are times, that you just can not say no to the extra income, especially since the meeting was just an interest meeting. While I would never have missed a rush event when I was a PNM if I could help it. I did skip a interest meeting.

adpiucf · #56 03-23-2006, 01:35 PM

I_Love_Penguins, Adding onto the acronym chain, I have shortened your name to ILP!

SmartBlondeGPhB · #57 03-23-2006, 03:28 PM

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Originally posted by chio84
maybe i can understand you getting annoyed when these kinds of people complain, but does it really affect you at all if someone wants to waste time? i like wasting time. chill out and stop judging people.

"the time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time." - bertrand russell

If it's also wasting MY time, yes it does affect me.

It's also rude.

AChiOhSnap · #58 03-23-2006, 05:14 PM

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Originally posted by I_Love_Penguins
KDDani, that's what I thought too. But I was told today that some of the sororities here will be taking 2nd pledge classes. The pledging period would be 2 and a half weeks instead of 4-6 weeks. I'm not sure why they are doing this now as I don't know if they've done it in the past. Oh well. I am just glad to be getting another chance no matter how I have to do it.

I'm so excited for you! Good luck with this new chance... maybe you want to continue posting updates back in your original rush thread? It seems as though this thread was deleted for awhile and just recently brought back (I posted my response to your initial post back in February) and so obviously things are very different for you now. I think people are getting confused by the title of the thread vs. the content of the discussion and that's the only reason I suggest that you start posting back in recruitment stories.

I can't WAIT to hear updates! <3

UKDaisy · #59 03-23-2006, 05:31 PM

hey ILP I pm'd you!

KillarneyRose · #60 03-24-2006, 06:23 AM

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Originally posted by amanda6035
I very much agree with this. I get EXTREMELY irritated with people who "waste" their time. In 2 1/2 years I have only missed 1 chapter meeting, and it was because I flew out of town to see my long distance military boyfriend before he went out to sea for a long period of time.

If someone had wanted to be a hardass about it, they could have given you flack for going to visit your boyfriend before he went underway instead of going to that meeting.

It was a waste of time. Sure, maybe you had the chance to give him a little pre-deployment nookie but at the end of the day, it's not like you were able to stuff him into your suitcase to keep him from going, right? It was just nuts of you to ruin your perfect record within your sisterhood over a boy. What a waste of time.