Are single women

[Lindz928]

Originally posted by adpiucf
Oh been there, done that. Twice. Now I'm only a 1000 or so miles... Maybe 1500...

I think Boston or London would be a good move for me!

Hmm... I'm wanting to move to London right now... Let me know if you decide to move there. LOL.

[HBADPi]

Hey you guys should come out with me at the end of Feb...I'm going to London for work!!

[Lindz928]

Originally posted by HBADPi
Hey you guys should come out with me at the end of Feb...I'm going to London for work!!

Aww, sounds like fun. I get to be in Lubbock at the end of Fed.

But hey, if you know of any job opportunities over there, let me know!!!

[Rudey]

Originally posted by Lindz928
Aww, sounds like fun. I get to be in Lubbock at the end of Fed.

But hey, if you know of any job opportunities over there, let me know!!!

http://www.mountbatten.org/

Just in case you ever decide "Hey, why not?"

-Rudey
--My friend did it and liked it.

[Lindz928]

Originally posted by Rudey
http://www.mountbatten.org/

Just in case you ever decide "Hey, why not?"

-Rudey
--My friend did it and liked it.

Ok, IM me sometime about this... Cause it looks pretty awesome!

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally posted by James
Made to feel like they have less social validity or something without a man in their life?

And does that pressure increase more as they get older?

Why?

ETA: I kind of mean this question as a contrast to men. I don't think we get as much social pressure to be in a relationship. I am not talking about parental pressure as much because I am sure the GraNDCHILd influence is strong for both genders.

I've never gotten any pressure.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by James
Isn't it your duty to your mother and mother-in-law to produce some grandkids for them? I mean think about how they have suffered for you. And you know how kids can be the joy of their twilight years.

Don't be selfish . .

OHHHH the irony...

My MIL does not like me and does not want any offspring produced from her son into me... She is EVOL...

My Mom cannot handle 2 brats in one sitting, much less be chasing them with her arthritis...

Either way, since for myself, I will not be getting any fertility drug treatments, I guess I will be assed out with having kids...

[AKA_Monet]

Now, women can get married at any age they want depending on who they marry...

Most young men (<25 years old) ain't got a pot to piss in. And when's the last time that love bought you clothes... And really, you wannabe living in your mother in law's house?

Men economically start to make something around 25 years old... That's when guys are serious. Unless you are talking Military dudes. And if you want those guys, you have to deal with issues like "war" and them getting shipped off and chit. If you can handle it, great. Many young women cannot, especially if they have young children. It's truly hard. And I just read in the newspaper that they have this class in the Army about how to get married--it's called F.A.C.E., I think?

Now women don't start to make anything economically until they are nearing 27ish... And that's when most women get married...

The thing is, the prime fertility times for women are at least a year after the first menstruation (rough estimate with proper nutrition and prenatal care), to about 35ish (depending on the woman).

As a woman gets older, there is this issue of anovulation. And that is why many older women are unable to have children and need to have fertility treatments.

Does that mean you pop off and marry after you get a Bachelor's degree?

I would take time to know everything about myself before I'd commit to a guy for life. That's why it took me so long...

But not everyone is like me and whatever works for folks. Well, ain't much I can say about that...

[LeslieAGD]

Yes, I do think some women still get criticized for being single. However, I think that now if men are single for too long, people start to wonder if they are gay.

A friend of mine didn't have a lot of girlfriends growing up (really bad family issues, not a time to be bringing home a GF). When he got older, he was very focused on school and then work, and none of his relationships panned out. His family always teased him that if he didn't have a GF by the time we was thirty, they'd assume he was gay.

[wrigley]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
And I just read in the newspaper that they have this class in the Army about how to get married--it's called F.A.C.E., I think?

I read about that. Apparently there's a large enough portion of the military who can't pick decent spouses so your tax dollars are being spent so they can learn how to pick a proper mate. Wouldn't it be cheaper if they just watched reruns of Oprah, Dr. Phil , and Cheaters?

[annice22]

I'm single and I don't feel any pressure to settle down and find a guy. I also think a woman can have a life without a guy (e.g. house, travel, etc). I don't feel funny going to events alone (e.g. formals, weddings, etc). I would rather go alone that go with a crappy date and have so much fun.

I love being single. I don't have to factor anyone in on any decision's that I make or will make. If I want to go out and party with the girls don't have to worry if someone's calling while out. I can relocate to anywhere I want to?

I think people put too much pressure on dating. I always thought dating was suppose to be fun, something you do to get to know different guys and maybe see what type of guys you like.

I know that I'm independent and I love it. I don't really care what anyone thinks.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by wrigley
I read about that. Apparently there's a large enough portion of the military who can't pick decent spouses so your tax dollars are being spent so they can learn how to pick a proper mate. Wouldn't it be cheaper if they just watched reruns of Oprah, Dr. Phil , and Cheaters?

From what I understand and read, the military wants bonafide professional marriage counselors to discuss the pressures of holding a family together while serving, especially in times of war. What we are asking of our armed forces is to basically shutdown our emotions so that they can do their jobs effectively and not have to worry about what people think when they come home--until they have a firm grip of what happened to them... Post traumatic stress disorder does that to a person... Most family, especially young families, are unable or thought to not have the "life experience skills" to deal with that kind of "reality"... At least that is what I read.

So since Oprah, Dr. Phil and cheaters are not based on too much reality, nor are many reality TV shows, then no, I don't think many of our military personnel can learn anything from watching these shows.

Basically, how do you explain to your significant other that you cannot be with them on any holiday because you have to write the death letter of one of your combat soldiers to his/her family about an IED? Can you imaging the thoughts running through that person's mind?

And although there are the enlisted's and officer's spouse's clubs and I think they do the best they can do--because it is my understanding that many military families are borderline homeless, the need for family support is not there... In fact our government is reducing that "entitlement expense".

But if you ask me, and what do I know about the military, I think that the armed forces is really trying to stop folks from joining as "families", etc. It wrecks too much havoc on the training kinna thing... Remember when the Marines wanted to not enlist guys who were married and the ruckus it caused--like in 1998ish?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by annice22
I'm single and I don't feel any pressure to settle down and find a guy. I also think a woman can have a life without a guy (e.g. house, travel, etc). I don't feel funny going to events alone (e.g. formals, weddings, etc). I would rather go alone that go with a crappy date and have so much fun.

If you are still 22, your family probably still sees you as a youngin' wait till you get a tad bit older, then the pressures on... Or better yet, when your mom's friend's daughter's get married... That's when it started for me...

However, they just stated on my news station that women outpace men for the first time in purchasing homes... So maybe times are changing...

Originally posted by annice22
I think people put too much pressure on dating. I always thought dating was suppose to be fun, something you do to get to know different guys and maybe see what type of guys you like.

I know that I'm independent and I love it. I don't really care what anyone thinks.

Some folks say that there is a difference between "dating" and "courting". Most folks who "date" are just having fun. But folks who "court" are lookin' to get married, etc. And "dating" for fun eventually leads to "courting" or maybe just getting "played"... Either way, it depends on what folks are looking for.

I hope you can keep that independent spirit up. It's nice know that some things have advance...

[PiKA2001]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
From what I understand and read, the military wants bonafide professional marriage counselors to discuss the pressures of holding a family together while serving, especially in times of war. What we are asking of our armed forces is to basically shutdown our emotions so that they can do their jobs effectively and not have to worry about what people think when they come home--until they have a firm grip of what happened to them... Post traumatic stress disorder does that to a person... Most family, especially young families, are unable or thought to not have the "life experience skills" to deal with that kind of "reality"... At least that is what I read.

A lot of people in the military get married very young, which is a main factor of why the divorce rate is so high in the armed forces. So why do these servicemen get married so young? MONEY! You get an additional pay raise once you get married, and even more raises after each birth of a child. War and deployments also don't help much either, I dont know if anybody saw "Jarhead" but there is a scene where there is a bulletin board where guys posted pictures of their sig others that had cheated on them or flat out left them while they were called away. Another factor is the constant moving around that active duty military personnel deal with. If some guy is stationed in Tx and has been dating a local girl for about a year and hears that he is transferring to Ky, he may want her to come along with him.

ETA: There was this one 19yr old kid in my tech school in Tx who was not only seperated from his wife, but was waiting for the divorce to go through so he could get engaged to his current GF. WTF?

[adpiucf]

Originally posted by Lindz928
Hmm... I'm wanting to move to London right now... Let me know if you decide to move there. LOL.

Let's go visit! I'm game! We can fly out of Houston!