My rush at UNT - Page 4

ASUADPi · #46 08-26-2005, 09:12 AM

Oh sweetie don't think that way.

Formal recruitment is much more complex than COB/COR. The chapters have much more "formal' rules they have to follow. Not only chapter rules but panhellenic rules. COR is much more laid back.

Buttonz · #47 08-26-2005, 09:49 AM

::hugs::

pinkyphimu · #48 08-26-2005, 10:24 AM

i am so sorry to hear that!

PenguinTrax · #49 08-26-2005, 10:42 AM

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Originally posted by myersm
Well, I had my phone off last night, and I just checked it.

I received no invitations to pref night.

Everyone, thank you for your support and thoughts throughout this process.

I guess I just wasn't cut out to be in a sorority. I really don't understand why I was so cut.. but that's life.

Again, thank you.

Exactly, you don't know why you were cut, so there's no reason to think yourself sick over it. And since there's no way of knowing why you were cut, there's no reason to think that you aren't cut out to be in a sorority.

You are miserable and disappointed now. Take a deep breath, pick yourself back up and move forward. Maybe COB is an option for you, maybe not. Either way, this one bump in the road will not define you, unless you let it. If it were me, I wouldn't let it define me.

epchick · #50 08-26-2005, 12:00 PM

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Originally posted by PenguinTrax

You are miserable and disappointed now. Take a deep breath, pick yourself back up and move forward. Maybe COB is an option for you, maybe not. Either way, this one bump in the road will not define you, unless you let it. If it were me, I wouldn't let it define me.

This is GREAT advice!! Dont let this stop you girl, if you really want to, go ahead and try COB.

copacabana · #51 08-26-2005, 12:26 PM

I'm sorry to hear that you were cut. From your posts, it sounds like you're a great person and the chapters are missing out by not having you as a member.

mmcat · #52 08-27-2005, 01:07 AM

first a sincere {{{huggle}}}
now it's time to move on. see if cob is real for you or not.
take a few real deep breathes and think about what you really want to do.
lots of stuff out there, but you need to take time now and figure what next.
if you cob, let us know so we can be happy for you. if not, know you have a lot of respect for how well you have handled things.

myersm · #53 08-27-2005, 01:15 AM

As suggested, this moment will not define me, but help to mold me into a better person. I am active in other things on campus, and I do work hard on my grades, so I know that there is other organizations that I can join. The great benefits of sorority life drew me into this process and it has been a great experience for me.

After getting through the day, I am less upset than this morning after just listening the message. I decided to go ahead and show up on campus (because I went ahead and went to work, which is on campus also) to talk to my rho gamma. Instead, I talked to one of the exec member who I happen to know from another organization. My rho gamma spoke to her about my experience and what I shared to her the day before. Well, the exec member sat down with me and was so passionate about explaining that what I went through was a mistake and that my situation is rough. I really loved that she took the time to explain snap bidding and the outcomes from some of the chapters, partically the ones she knows I ranked high at first, and my chances of recieving a bid then.

I'm anxiously waiting for those decisions, but at the same time I am not going to be upset if I do not receive any because I knowt that it depends on what happens tomorow with the girls that do recieve a bid. I do belive, like many, that everything happens for a reason. Maybe it is just not my time or path to be in a sorority, and that is okay. I am still giving it my best, and have an open mind about the entire process. I know that there are many things that go on that PNMs have no clue about and the invitation process is a very difficult one for both chapters and PNMs. I also have a new found resepect for sororities. I never knew the passion and dedication that so many have, and today caught myself defending every single one of them when one of my co-workers, who didn't know I am/was rushing, was saying complete negative and inappropriate sterotypes. I've truely enjoyed the experience and feel that is helping me overcome rejection in a more postive aspect. I was devestated, but I have been able to look past being cut and see the other side of everything.

So, snap bidding, as I understand happens tomorrow. If I receive any bids I will be open-minded about the chapter and reflect the good things about the chapter to make a diecision.. however, I do have one or two that I would prefer, of course. Anyway, if that doesn't work out then I will try COB or spring rush.

I'd like to thank everyone for their sympathy and comments for my experience. I am very grateful that their are women here that have supported everything that I have done and been an open ear to "talk" to.

PS.. sorry this is so long of a post.

mmcat · #54 08-27-2005, 01:37 AM

sweetie, you have lots of ears if you need them....
you are still showing your class. i'm proud of you.
see what happens.

pinkyphimu · #55 08-27-2005, 01:45 AM

myersm,
your post was wonderful! what a great attitude to have!!! i wish you the best in whatever happens.

oldrusheenowmom · #56 08-27-2005, 01:09 PM

Your posts show what a classy young lady you are-- best of luck in all your endeavors-- with your great attitudes, I am sure that great things (Greek or not) are ahead!!!

AchtungBaby80 · #57 08-27-2005, 06:25 PM

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Originally posted by pinkyphimu
myersm,
your post was wonderful! what a great attitude to have!!! i wish you the best in whatever happens.

Exactly.

ADPiAkron · #58 08-28-2005, 10:19 AM

Good Luck today!! I know everything will work out the way it is supposed to!!

texas*princess · #59 08-28-2005, 10:38 AM

myersm - I genuinely applaud you for being so open-minded during recruitment and for remaining positive throughout the process.

If snap bidding doesn't happen for you, and you really want to be a part of greek life, don't give up

There will still be opportunities for that down the road whether you think about COR or re-rushing next fall. And like you said the school has many different organizations!

tinydancer · #60 08-28-2005, 09:10 PM

I am so sorry. I think your attitude is admirable. I've heard that UNT often has COR so you might talk to the Greek Advisor and see about getting on the list for that.