PNM's: Beware of Thefacebook

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by ilovemyglo
That was just the first example I saw so I used it-
Someone else in here was right, it is no worse, (albeit probably not as bad) as writing about getting drunk in a thread.

But no one on the internet knows you are over 21, no one on the internet knows that you don't basically "Live" in a bar and no one on the internet knows just whether or not you are being sarcastic.

It does reflect on your org. We have had this debate since I joined GC back in, what, 1999, or something. When you post on the internet, and you have your greek letters, you are representing your organization.

I don't care whether or not some members here really do basically live in a bar, that is their choice, but I am also not a PNM looking at sororities. There are many places you can go, particularly in the south or at any competitive rush school, where just having that listed as your location would get your brought up on membership eligibility. Is it fair? Not to me, but each chapter and each location is different. No I was not picking on you, I was using an example. If you look up my username you can probably find some of my old posts and find PLENTY of examples (note: I don't use my sig when I post anything controversial). Yours was just the first example I saw.

Actually, you used your signature when you posted this, for example:

do use your tongue on multiple parts and look me in the eyes...
do use that carnal instinct
do go deep even when I say fast

DONT stop until I am done or tell you too.
DONT keep going when I am dry unless you want a raw D$*#
DONT say something about any part of my body jiggling or bouncing, that to me equals fat, which is not sexy.
AND DONT ask me how I like your hard bone.... really can you please come up with another name for it, dogs chew on bones, guys screw with a dick!

Nothing personal, but I just thought it was interesting considering what you're saying in this thread. I mean, is that the kind of thing you want associated with your letters -- since apparently you think it's okay to judge people on that sort of thing?

Really, this whole thread is ridiculous, I think. If I were a PMN and I saw something like this, I'd run for the hills thinking sorority girls were a bunch of antiquated, snotty freaks. If I meet a woman and have fun talking to her and like her as a person, it wouldn't occur to me to get all high-and-mighty judgmental on her because of something she posted on the facebook or anywhere else. I think people need to chill.

[tunatartare]

Originally posted by valkyrie
Really, this whole thread is ridiculous, I think. If I were a PMN and I saw something like this, I'd run for the hills thinking sorority girls were a bunch of antiquated, snotty freaks. If I meet a woman and have fun talking to her and like her as a person, it wouldn't occur to me to get all high-and-mighty judgmental on her because of something she posted on the facebook or anywhere else. I think people need to chill.

THANK YOU!!!!


Oh and ilovemyglo, even if you don't use your signature for posts that you wouldn't want your letters associated with, it's really not that hard to tell what sorority I'm in when one can do a search for your previous posts and see your signature on them.

[doves95]

Originally posted by 33girl
Then this opens up another kettle of worms.

Couldn't someone who has a grudge against a sorority and a bit of computer savvy 1) hack into someone else's webshots album and 2) photoshop some of the pics to make them look "incriminating" (i.e. putting beer bottles in people's hands).

I would hope no one is psycho enough to do this, but I wonder if it is possible.

yes this is possible and yes It was done to one chapter of a friend of mineon the facebook AND an internet webshots page. the unversity stepped up its security on the site and now everyone who leaves or graduates has their email, which is how u logged on, deleted upon graduation.

Facebook, as many said, can be a gret tool espec. for promoting Panhellenic and recruitment! But like everything else you should take it with a grain of salt.....

[James]

I don't think ilovemyglo was judging ADqtPiMel in her post. I think she was just illustrating some of the psycho-ness of competitive rushes and ADqtPiMel just happened to have conveniently posted.


Certainly ilovemyglo is not someone I would group with the "Those-That-Judge-Others-Harshly-For-Obscure-Moral-Reasons."

Originally posted by valkyrie
Actually, you used your signature when you posted this, for example:

do use your tongue on multiple parts and look me in the eyes...
do use that carnal instinct
do go deep even when I say fast

DONT stop until I am done or tell you too.
DONT keep going when I am dry unless you want a raw D$*#
DONT say something about any part of my body jiggling or bouncing, that to me equals fat, which is not sexy.
AND DONT ask me how I like your hard bone.... really can you please come up with another name for it, dogs chew on bones, guys screw with a dick!

Nothing personal, but I just thought it was interesting considering what you're saying in this thread. I mean, is that the kind of thing you want associated with your letters -- since apparently you think it's okay to judge people on that sort of thing?

Really, this whole thread is ridiculous, I think. If I were a PMN and I saw something like this, I'd run for the hills thinking sorority girls were a bunch of antiquated, snotty freaks. If I meet a woman and have fun talking to her and like her as a person, it wouldn't occur to me to get all high-and-mighty judgmental on her because of something she posted on the facebook or anywhere else. I think people need to chill.

[valkyrie]

LOL I was actually going to come back and edit my post because I feel like I was being kind of mean. Guess it's too late now.

[starang21]

Originally posted by valkyrie
Really, this whole thread is ridiculous, I think. If I were a PMN and I saw something like this, I'd run for the hills thinking sorority girls were a bunch of antiquated, snotty freaks. If I meet a woman and have fun talking to her and like her as a person, it wouldn't occur to me to get all high-and-mighty judgmental on her because of something she posted on the facebook or anywhere else. I think people need to chill.

lol, good shit

[whittleschmeg]

Really, this whole thread is ridiculous, I think. If I were a PMN and I saw something like this, I'd run for the hills thinking sorority girls were a bunch of antiquated, snotty freaks. If I meet a woman and have fun talking to her and like her as a person, it wouldn't occur to me to get all high-and-mighty judgmental on her because of something she posted on the facebook or anywhere else. I think people need to chill.

Thank God someone said it.


I am wasted in my facebook picture with a girl from a different GLO pretending to dump beer on me and I am covered head to toe in mud. At an event known as Springfest at my university held for 20 years by a fraternity. If by looking at this picture you are going to assume i am dumb drunk girl then I probably won't want to be your friend anyway. I know it sounds mean but why do I want to be friends with someone who is going to assume that. But one could also say why associate yourself with me if I protray my self like that.... o well its stupid.

[FSUZeta]

this thread was begun to aid pnms. i don't think it is stupid.

whittleschmeg, it sounds like you had fun at springfest at your school--nothing wrong with that. but did you ever think that a pnm might look at your facebook picture and think that you are being hazed? they might not know that the other girl in the picture is in another glo. it might scare aomeone off who would be a perfect match for your chapter. every new student enrolling in your college may not know everything there is to know about springfest, and may not associate your photo with that event.

as someone said earlier, everyone should practice discretion. college administrators, advisors and national officers of our sororities can access ones information and sanctions could be handed out.

[AnonAlumna]

Originally posted by FSUZeta
as someone said earlier, everyone should practice discretion. college administrators, advisors and national officers of our sororities can access ones information and sanctions could be handed out.

I think this is the point! This is exactly why I've taken on a new name. I know that our national offices monitor THIS site. I want to be able to speak freely without having to worry about anyone shaking a finger at me or my GLO.

To add to valkyrie, yes this is ridiculous. But, we have pages of threads about cutting and being cut for stupid reasons. (clothing, HS rep, sneezing) I guess I reason it this way: As far as the pics, is it something you'd frame and use as a prop during recruitment? For PNM's, would you turn it in with your rush app? Just to reiterate what several of our GC sages have preached: err on the side of caution, and discretion is the key!

[PinkSigma3]

I rushed last year before facebook, but I am a younger student. I can pretty much guaruntee that if I had gone on to facebook and seen one of the girls I really liked doing a beer bong on facebook or something crazy, I would think "hey she likes to go have fun and not just study and do community service" I wouldnt cut a sorority for that and neither would any of the girls I KNOW that went thru formal. It's just dumb to 1) judge someone based on ONE picture & 2) judge a whole sorority on one person

[33girl]

Originally posted by FSUZeta
this thread was begun by a pnm. i don't think it is stupid.

Actually no, she pledged and was initiated quite a while ago.

[AUDeltaGam]

Originally posted by honeychile
<---- does not pretend that she knows much about facebook.com, other than what she's read on GreekChat.

Is your facebook info deleted by your senior year, or upon graduation? If it isn't, please consider that employers could possibly use any information, too.

As someone who interviews applicants, I think I'd be more upset with poor spelling & grammar, or one of the silly photos that has been described - but I could be wrong. It certainly wouldn't be the first time!

It's not deleted when you graduate. Instead of showing that you are a student, it shows that you are an alum.

As far as potential employers, you can only view the profiles of people that are at your school, unless you are friends with them. The only way a potential employer could look you up was if they knew somebody that went to school with you that had a facebook profile.

Does that clear things up?

[emily2228]

Although my sorority isn't affiliated with a national sorority yet,(Hopefully this fall though..yay!!!) we have a facebook account. We have been recruiting freshman (class of '09) to join. Out of the 115 girls registered for the class of '09 we have gotten about 35 possible interested girls, which we are very excited about considering there are no sororities at my school!!!

So far facebook has been great in that area, but who knows what will happen in the future...I can see how it could cause problems though.

-Emily

[FSUZeta]

thank you 33 for spotting my typo. i knew you would see it and point it out. i have corrected my mistake.

[whittleschmeg]

whittleschmeg, it sounds like you had fun at springfest at your school--nothing wrong with that. but did you ever think that a pnm might look at your facebook picture and think that you are being hazed? they might not know that the other girl in the picture is in another glo. it might scare aomeone off who would be a perfect match for your chapter. every new student enrolling in your college may not know everything there is to know about springfest, and may not associate your photo with that event.

as someone said earlier, everyone should practice discretion. college administrators, advisors and national officers of our sororities can access ones information and sanctions could be handed out.

Its funny because I saw nothing wrong with my facebook picture before i read this thread...and now though I don't feel I was doing anything wrong in the picture I can see where people who didn't know me could look at that picture and get the wrong idea...Discretion is key and I whole heartedly agree