Your best remedy.......

[AlphaFrog]

As DolphinChica said, move on, and let him SEE that you've moved on.

[Infamous12]

Ditto to what AF said!

* Working out. That way when you do show him that you've moved on, you look darn tasty doing so.

* Shopping. It's my anti-drug.

* Yoga. I swear, yoga was one of the things that got me through the worse breakup of my life. (He got her pregnant for pete's sakes!) Something about that Namaste and yadda yadda had me release that negative energy!

[nittanyalum]

NO DRIVE-BYS!!!

I got totally busted by an ex-boyfriend doing this one time and I can still see that smug look on his face as I tried to slump behind the steering wheel and sped off down the street... :shudder:

[ThetaDancer]

Thank you for the tips so far! I'm having a really hard time this afternoon because a) its brand new and b) it's slow at work so I'm very bored and have no distractions...I just keep over-analyzing everything

[SthrnZeta]

I like to play "Got to Be Real" and dance in my bathroom, Sex and the City style. That ALWAYS puts me in a good mood Definitely take care of yourself (eat well, work out, etc) as that will make you feel physically well and translate to your brain and heart as well (the metaphorical brain and heart I mean). DON'T listen to sappy music. DON'T look at pictures of him. DO hang out with friends. And remember, that the old saying is true - it just takes time.

I'm going to a concert tonight where I will most likely see my ex boyfriend and maybe even his little doctor girlfriend. BUT, I am with the best guy in the world now and have never been happier in a relationship and I thoroughly plan to show that happiness off tonight, whether or not he's there. Success is the best revenge!

[SirHornyToad]

I'd just say go out and have a lot of fun, and sleep around.

Honestly you're probably better off without them.

[texas*princess]

A clean break is the best way to go. No texting, calling, drive-bys and don't stalk his facebook/myspace page because that will only drive you crazy. Don't answer his calls if he's an idiot enough to try to "be friends" at this point. In fact, I'd delete his number from your cell phone alltogether. Unless you have the number committed to memory, this will help prevent drunk calls/texting after a night out with your girls.

Spend lots of time with your friends... they are there to help you & they love you!

KEEP BUSY... at all costs. Don't give yourself time to sit alone and possibly think about him. Go out, have fun... if you normally sit at home on a Wednesday night, call up one of your friends and meet up for dinner/drinks. Just do stuff to get you out of your house and out of your comfort zone... make new friends & expand your circle... this will also give you more people to go out and do stuff with.

Ditto to working out. Working out just makes you feel better and more energized no matter what the circumstances are.

Like many other people have also said -- shopping! It doesn't even have to be a multi-thousand dollar spree... a great new mascara or outfit or a new pair of shoes always make me feel lovely!

I'd also suggest a book --

- He's Just Not that Into You - Greg Behrendt Liz Tuccillo (reinforces the fact that you shouldn't have to deal with a guy because he's a jerk and he probably doesn't deserve you anyway. I think the Greg guy wrote a book about breaking up but I can't remember the title and I've never read that one. To be honest, after I broke up with a guy I had been seeing for a super long time this book made me wake up and stop making excuses for the guy who was treating me like crap and it made me happy I didn't have to deal with his nonsense anymore )

And I'm not sure what it is you are over-analyzing, but chances are, you are wasting your time and energy trying to analyze stuff. Not to be mean, but most (for the guys, please note I didn't write "all") guys aren't that smart and they don't try to code stuff. I am totally guilty of trying to overanalyze things too ('cause hey, I am a girl!) but in the past I've found it's a waste of energy to analyze every little move he makes or word he says.

Get rid of all of the stuff he's given you. For me, it felt great to finally cleanse my apartment of anything that was remotely linked to him. One Christmas about 3 years ago when I was in college my ex gave me a 32" JVC TV. I've had it since then, and I just recently gave it away to a sorority sister of mine and got a shiny new 40" flat panel HDTV. It was the most awesome feeling ever because he kept popping in and out of my life. For me, this was a sign to the world that I was completely done with his BS and free from all the garbage that had any ex-sentimental value to it.

If he was one of those jerks who wouldn't let you do things, GO OUT AND DO THEM. I wanted my own dog while I was in college but never got one because I was in the sorority house. After graduating and getting my first big-kid job, he kept telling me 'I don't know if we could be together if you got a dog because I'm allergic to dogs.' Then about a month into my first big-kid job, all the $*(# hit the fan with him and we broke up. The next day, I got the doggie of my dreams and I wouldn't have it any other way. I'd take my doggie over him any day.

[SirHornyToad]

texas*princess,

I agree with you 100%

You gotta delete them from your life completely, zero contact, and have fun.

[SigKapAngel767]

SthrnZeta said it! SUCCESS IS THE BEST REVENGE!
My Mom always told me that...and trust me, even in my young life, I have even come to see how this is true!

[KSUViolet06]

I totally agree with making a clean break.

Don't take his phone calls, answer his texts, hang out, etc. Cutting someone out entirely for a while, sends a clear message that you are hurt and that whetever he's done (if he did something to cause the break up) is not acceptable.

If you keep talking to him, hanging out with him, or sleeping with him, he most likely will assume that you are not hurt, that you'll "get over it" and take him back in a few days.

[nikki1920]

KICKBOXING helps.

[DaemonSeid]

and of course the next beau that u get has to be a significant improvement over the one that broke ur heart....

< old classic

> New Hotness

[tld221]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

and of course the next beau that u get has to be a significant improvement over the one that broke ur heart....

< old classic

> New Hotness

:: turns on "let me upgrade you" ::

my ex (well, "the ex") has been trying do the friends thing for years! and not that i hate him, cause we split on good terms, but really i dont want to be your friend. and then he got married... i really didnt wanna be his friend. i cut him off cold turkey. and while i havent been working out or anything, i got my sexyback in the form of older and mature (from cute 18 year old co-ed to sexy 20something lady).

which was awesome when i ran into him at the supermarket with his new wife. yeah, old dude really aged.... i didnt. and while i wasnt introduced as ex-gf or anything, she wasnt anything to write home about. added bonus, being told i "looked good." twice. in front of wifey. check.mate. ::tips king over::

mustve been an interesting ride home.

[teena]

Originally Posted by tld221

:: turns on "let me upgrade you" ::

my ex (well, "the ex") has been trying do the friends thing for years! and not that i hate him, cause we split on good terms, but really i dont want to be your friend. and then he got married... i really didnt wanna be his friend. i cut him off cold turkey. and while i havent been working out or anything, i got my sexyback in the form of older and mature (from cute 18 year old co-ed to sexy 20something lady).

which was awesome when i ran into him at the supermarket with his new wife. yeah, old dude really aged.... i didnt. and while i wasnt introduced as ex-gf or anything, she wasnt anything to write home about. added bonus, being told i "looked good." twice. in front of wifey. check.mate. ::tips king over::

mustve been an interesting ride home.