Amount of Time before He proposed? - Page 4

Tippiechick · #46 03-13-2005, 12:46 AM

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Originally posted by carnation
Let's see...we met in June, were engaged the next January, and married in December.

That's funny. We'd known each other most of our lives.

But, we started dating in July, were engaged that next February, and married that December.

kateshort · #47 03-13-2005, 11:38 AM

Officially BF/GF: January 1992

Lavaliered by him: October 1992

Pinned by him: January 1993

I proposed: January 1996

Married: July 1998

I went straight from undergrad to grad, and graduated in 1997; otherwise we probably would've gotten married sooner.

SquirrelGirl · #48 03-13-2005, 02:31 PM

The guy I am with right now is my best friend and has been for a long time. We always had that "if we're not married by the time we're 40" backup plan with each other, and then one day he realized he was in love with me....about three weeks later (I still didn't know about him) I realized I was in love with him. Two weeks later, we both actually did something about it.

Although we haven't been dating that long we talk about marriage stuff all the time. Houses, kids, rings, jobs, even his proposal ideas (he has connections with the Falcons and thought about proposing during halftime with my parents in the stands).

In fact, just last night he told me that two years from TODAY he sees himself going through a "treeing" - something his fraternity does when a brother lavalieres someone or getting engaged. We talked about lavaliering and he told me that he'd probably just skip straight to the ring. So I guess we will see what happens two years from now....lol.

Honestly, we'd probably be engaged within six months if situations were a little different or if the timing was better. I dated one of his brothers, so it gets kind of complicated there. There are a lot of people who still don't know that we are together). Plus we are both still in college (he just got into nursing school) and I want to wait until I graduate to get married (possible date - September 27, 2008).

I guess we'll see where we are two years from now!

gpb1874 · #49 03-17-2005, 07:49 PM

took me 10 years to get engaged and we are getting married this april.

all i keep hearing is "it's about damn time" what, like 10 years is long or something

bcdphie · #50 03-17-2005, 08:07 PM

I have one of the longest periods between 1st date and proposal: 6 years and 29 days.

We had our 1st date August 1st, 1998 and got engaged August 30th, 2004. We will be married August 12th, 2005.

My parents, on the other hand, were engaged after 2 months. They were engaged for two years - they will be celebrating their 35th Wedding anniversary this June.

Peaches-n-Cream · #51 03-18-2005, 01:51 AM

We met almost 3 years and 10 months before he gave me a ring. We didn't date that entire time though. We have not set a date yet.

chideltjen · #52 03-18-2005, 02:52 AM

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Originally posted by bcdphie
We will be married August 12th, 2005.

OMG that's my birthday!

No. I'm not engaged yet. I've only been with my guy for 4 months. So I guess I'm kind of out of place in this thread. But I just wanted to "drive-by post" and point that out.

Continue...

Rio_Kohitsuji · #53 03-27-2005, 05:06 PM

Met: September 16, 2001

Official BF & GF : September 20, 2001

Pinned: July 6, 2002

Proposed: March 20, 2005

Married: Have no idea!!

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #54 03-27-2005, 10:22 PM

congratulations

litlbear1072 · #55 03-28-2005, 12:48 PM

Thank God I'm not alone out here in the perpetual girlfriend scene! My boyfriend and I met late July 2001 and did the long distance thing for 3 years when I moved to be closer to him and my family. However, if we get to 4 years and he still has made no move toward a proposal then I'm kickin' him to the curb!

KappaKittyCat · #56 03-29-2005, 12:52 PM

Thirteen months and three days.

texas*princess · #57 04-01-2005, 12:17 PM

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Originally posted by litlbear1072
Thank God I'm not alone out here in the perpetual girlfriend scene!

Trust me, you are not alone in the perpetual girlfriend scene!

erniegurl00 · #58 04-01-2005, 12:30 PM

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Originally posted by litlbear1072
Thank God I'm not alone out here in the perpetual girlfriend scene! My boyfriend and I met late July 2001 and did the long distance thing for 3 years when I moved to be closer to him and my family. However, if we get to 4 years and he still has made no move toward a proposal then I'm kickin' him to the curb!

My bf and I just hit our 4 year mark, and we're not engaged yet. I feel like I'm the perpetual gf, but I know I have to wait for him to raise the money for a ring and to live on. I'm trying to be patient.

texas*princess · #59 04-01-2005, 12:30 PM

After re-reading (most of) this thread, it looks like most proposals happened after a couple of years, some in less than that amount of time but they had already been friends for a few years before that too.

While I know this sort of thing will "vary" depending on the people, what if a couple just met (like for the very first time) and then decided a couple of months later to get married? I know people will say it "just feels right" but how do you really know this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with (well, theoretically anyway, b/c there is such things as divorce) after knowing them for such a small amount of time?

I only ask b/c a friend of mine is in this very situation. She was with a guy for like all 4 years of college.. they had a REALLY bad breakup... she still kinda dated around, but would talk about this guy for YEARS after the breakup... (I'm talking like 3-4 YEARS after). Then she randomly meets a guy through a friend, and BAM! They're engaged.

I'm really happy for her b/c she genuinely seems happy, but for someone who agonized over that one breakup for years... and then randomly get engaged ... I don't know.. it just really seems weird.

The guy she's engaged to seems really nice... I've never met him in person or anything, but it really sounds like they are just in the lovey-dovey stage of the relationship, ya know?

I just can't help but wonder.. but I guess it's possible that the guy helped her turn her life around or something I don't know.

aephi alum · #60 04-01-2005, 02:18 PM

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Originally posted by texas*princess
While I know this sort of thing will "vary" depending on the people, what if a couple just met (like for the very first time) and then decided a couple of months later to get married? I know people will say it "just feels right" but how do you really know this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with (well, theoretically anyway, b/c there is such things as divorce) after knowing them for such a small amount of time?

My husband and I had been dating for about ten months when we got engaged. I kind of knew him before we started dating, but I knew him more as a friend-of-a-friend (actually, a friend of one of my sorority sisters). We never hung out, just the two of us, as friends, until we started dating.

We kind of just knew. We had so many of the same interests, hobbies, dreams for our futures, beliefs (religious, moral, philosophical, etc). He calls me a female version of himself.

Of course, once we got engaged, it took us over two years to actually get married... that pesky grad school thing

So, yes, I definitely believe it's possible to know that a particular person is the right person even if you've only known them a few months.