Do Sisterfriends of OUR Sorority really want help?

[AKA2D '91]

DISCRETION, DISCRETION!

calling my soror
**Soror Wonderfulllllll08**

[reddnhott2020]

Hi Akatude, I emailed you did you get it?

[AKA2D '91]

I'm AKA2D '91

[Wonderful1908]

Originally posted by reddnhott2020:
Hello Sisterfriends and Greetings to the Premiere Pretty Ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated. I must say I greatly appreciate all information that has been bestowed upon me. I am very interested in this sorority, and if not for the advice given to me by members of this great organization, I would not have known which way way forward. I have been gently directed to sites of interest and importance, which is how I happened upon this site. There is one young lady at my school who helped me in a time of crisis. I was walking in to the building the night of the Spring Soiree and I got a run in my stockiings. No one had an extra pair anywhere, I was about to have a nervous breakdown, she took me to her room found me some stockings, and told me everything would be alright, she started talking to me about my nervousness and advised me to just be myself and what to pay attention to, she even took me back to the building and placed me back in line where I was so I would not have to stand at the end of a 200+ line.
I do not know what I would have done without her that night, and many others on many occasions since then. And I am counting on their knowledge in the days to come.


[This message has been edited by reddnhott2020 (edited June 11, 2001).]

Tsk..Tsk...Tsk....whatever happened to discretion? Thanks!!!

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by reddnhott2020:
I apologize. I did not know I could not speak about the events preceeding the informational. I was simply saying I greatly appreciated her help that night.
Thank you!

wtf?

[Wonderful1908]

Originally posted by reddnhott2020:
I apologize. I did not know I could not speak about the events preceeding the informational. I was simply saying I greatly appreciated her help that night.
Thank you!

I am POSITIVE my SORORS at your schools chapter told you NOT to discuss anything regarding the event you attended. Maybe I'm wrong......maybe I'm not.

[shida25]

I know that I do. I belong to some sisterfriend clubs on Yahoo and Collegeclub but it seems like it's a waste. All I see is lots of drama and all of that. I joined these clubs, thinking I could gain an insight on this wonderful sorority, but I suppose I'll try harder to find one. I hope I didn't offend anyone. Maybe someone will take me under their wing to guide me! I sure do try hard!

[MS.REVLON]

Originally posted by shida25:
I know that I do. I belong to some sisterfriend clubs on Yahoo and Collegeclub but it seems like it's a waste. All I see is lots of drama and all of that. I joined these clubs, thinking I could gain an insight on this wonderful sorority, but I suppose I'll try harder to find one. I hope I didn't offend anyone. Maybe someone will take me under their wing to guide me! I sure do try hard!

Shida25,
Why do you think that someone should take you under their wings to school you? You are the one that should be reaching out to learn.

[bellebeaua]

First, I would like to express my gratitude for Alpha Kappa Alpha having the foresight to see how beneficial such a site could be to all interested parties. In my thoughts, the extension is not taken for granted in any way, and I am grateful for the opportunity to interact with you all.
As for those who chose to mishandle the situation, unfortunately, there are unruley people in the world. As a result, one is given the pleasure of choosing whom they will and will not associate with. Although times have apparently changed refrencing ones access to sorrorital information, if one wants to be a member of any organization RESPECT is a key factor! One should not only respect the organization that they seek member into, but they should also, MUST also respect the members of the orginization of which they are interested in becoming a member of.
Alpha Kappa Alpha, Inc. is an outstanding organization of which SF's desire to gain admittance to. Expressing any form of disdain for what a present member has said, or advised is blatent disrespect! The bottom line is that times have changed a lot -- obviously. Rules of etiquet have more than eroded, they are almost non existent.
The last of my comment is to say that this is much more simple than most things are to comprehend, SFs that are out of order need to step back and reevaluate the situation. Recognize where you are in your quest for Alpha Kappa Alpha and respect those that are trying to help you get there! Most of all please remember to smile and say thank you; lots and lots of love to all of you!
-- Sorry for the long wind --

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Anything Worth Doing Is Worth Doing Well

[jali0004]

Bellebeaua mentioned the fact that the rules of ettiquet have changed regarding sorority information. I am a neo, and I came to this board as an interestee. The information offered by members, now my sorors, was greatly appreciated, BUT NOT EXPECTED!! I did my own outside research, and what I didn't find, I told myself that maybe as a sisterfriend, I wasn't supposed to know! I just don't understand...whatever information is obtained through this board is out of complete generosity by the members.

Another problem I have with the internet is that maybe we "talk too much"...The post from reddnhot2020 contained information that would not have been shared with thousands of people if not for the internet...(I don't mean to single you out, but your post is a prime example). This is where people begin to "think they know what we do". I have worked very hard to obtain my pearls, and I work hard to preserve the integrity of my sorority.

Maybe it would be best if internet groups like this, didn't give "information" so readily...what do more seasoned sorors think??

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"I am not yet the author of my life; I am still it's unenlightened protagonist"
---Unknown

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by jali0004:

Maybe it would be best if internet groups like this, didn't give "information" so readily...what do more seasoned sorors think??

ROTFLMAO@ this question.
Soror, where do you think comments like:

"NO COMMENT"
"AKA1908.COM"
"ask the Sorors on your campus/ in your area"

and the like came from? The simple fact that TMI (too much information) was being "given freely" to those who need to do their OWN leg work. You know, where NO ONE needs a Soror to take them under her wing. THIS AIN'T the Girl Scouts or the Boys/Girls club.

IMO, of course!

[OhSoPrettyNikki]

As a SF I must agree with the Ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Incorporated when they say that there is a lack of humility from SF's when seeking information about your sorority.

I look at it like this:
1. The internet has created a false sense of anonomity (sp?). Which has given SF's a lot of fake heart when addressing you ladies. I use the words false and fake because no matter what you may think if I need to know who is chatting, posting or e-mailing me I can and will find out. Secondly the fake heart is b/c if SF's had to approach a member face to face I doubt that they would be so bold.

2. This generation of interests are totally different from the previous. When you observe their lifestyles, habits, and attitudes the is a general lack of respect for elders and themselves. Of course this isn't true of all the "new" interest but this is a democracy and majority rules!

3. Lastly some SF's have been interest for quite some time and have experienced the lack of respect from members themselves. Yes, you may have something I want. And yes, I will do everything I have to to get where you are including being humble however, I am a woman first and I cannot and will not allow another to disrespect me in any fashion. Be it in person, on the telephone, or internet. For the most part, most members have been gracious enough to be kind to me however there are those that are down right rude and disrespectful. And I am not talking about a lil regulatin' here & there, I know the difference. Mostly this rudeness has not occured in GC message boards but in the GC chat room and the Sisterly Forum Chat room. But I won't re-hash the past any further.

I have been a interest since 1991, the internet was not available then and any contacts I had or made was by sticking my neck out and putting my little butt on the line. Sometimes I made mistakes but I was corrected and have since learned the value of humility. Now that I'm back in school I still practice it. Every now and then I may slip back , but I'm on a 12-step humility program and I'm not too proud to apologize. When I'm wrong I'm wrong.... although that has never happened!!! he he he

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"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful"

When da EAST is in da house....Oh my GOD!!!! DANGER!

[This message has been edited by OhSoPrettyNikki (edited June 12, 2001).]

[jali0004]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
ROTFLMAO@ this question.
Soror, where do you think comments like:

"NO COMMENT"
"AKA1908.COM"
"ask the Sorors on your campus/ in your area"

and the like came from? The simple fact that TMI (too much information) was being "given freely" to those who need to do their OWN leg work. You know, where NO ONE needs a Soror to take them under her wing. THIS AIN'T the Girl Scouts or the Boys/Girls club.

IMO, of course!

Soror, I don't think I understand what you're saying...or maybe I didn't phrase correctly what I wantd to say. Could you break it down for me??

Perhaps privately, over email??




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"I am not yet the author of my life; I am still it's unenlightened protagonist"
---Unknown

[AKA2D '91]

What I was saying was, many of us, here at GC have decided to use those phrase when SFs ask for "advice".

Many feel that they are just supposed to post and we are to GIVE THEM ALL THE INFORMATION. NOT!

So, that's why some of us use those phrases/comments.

Hope that helps!

[Audacity44]

Let's see I know that what most I am going to say has been said, but I felt like I had to say something. I do know for a fact that some sisterfriends use forums and help from ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha as a shoe into Alpha Kappa Alpha... I have had some of my SF's tell me oh well this AKA told me this secret or I am in this club so I know that I am going to make it.... I feel like the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha are only being sincere with their support and limited facts that can provide us with. It has gotten to a point, that some SF's are abusing this and making it hard for true, hard-working SF's to be taken seriously. I do my best as well to help other SF's... Maybe I should not do this myself, because now I am getting this negative feedback as to, "Oh she thinks she knows everything..." I do believe that We Sisterfriends do appreciate the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha and the information that they provide.