What are you superficial about?

[kddani]

People with very poor grammar and that don't bother to have a grasp on the English language (we're talking native speakers here, not ESL).

People who write online stuff like "How R U doin 2nite QT?".... it's like reading hieroglyphics. I'm not talking things like LMAO, CTFU, etc. but people who write sentences and all of their thoughts like that.

I'm an education snob I guess. Or at least for people to act like they have the education they do.

[lovelyivy84]

Umm, I think that for some of you guys your pet peeve is people in general, lol!

[Tippiechick]

Winter white is on off white. It is hard to describe except to say that if you find a "white" sweater on sale in the winter and it does not look "pure" white, it's most likely winter white.

Smiley-- FL is different all together. One of my sisters and best friends was from Plantation, FL. She said it was perfectly acceptable in FL to wear white since it is so warm there.

As for the acne thing, I believe what she was trying to say was that there are people who don't keep themselves clean. There are most certainly a few basic things that people can do to at least aid in their acne problem: washing, using creams, etc. I will admit that it is quite disgusting to see someone who has a problem with nasty whiteheads all over their body and that won't even squeeze them. Yes, some people have problems with acne beyond simply hygenic concerns. But, most people could benefit by cleaning a bit better.

I think it's comparable to the teeth issue. Some people have bad teeth genetically. Some people have bad teeth b/c of hygenic issues. If you are willing to say something about someone's teeth, then I don't think anything should be said to someone who says the same thing about an acne problem.

This IS a thread about superficiality. Yes, some people might be offended by things said here. But, I don't think it's fair to talk about something YOU find in poor taste and to blast someone who talks about something THEY find in poor taste.

Lighten up Pire

[Dionysus]

There's already a thread about white clothing, bump it to continue the discussion there.

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...ht=white+labor

Thanks for listening.

[Tippiechick]

QUOTE-geesh you style police need an update-- that rule is from like 1952-- nowadays of COURSE you can wear white after labor day!!! have you any clue on how hot a pair of tall leather white boots can look with an awesome pair of jeans?? and fitted white leather jackets are great too. PLEASE PLEASE people drop the no-white after labor day... white is an awesome shade!! plus, snow is white, sooo..... lol-END QUOTE


Where I live, people would honestly laugh at anyone who wore white after Labor Day. Just because things are that way where you live, don't assume they are that way everywhere. I am fully aware that there are differences of style and ettiquette in different parts of the country. These days, YOU might be able to wear your white boots or pants and feel no social retribution. But, it's not that way everywhere. Plus, I think it's just tacky. And, I am not from 1952. I am 25. So, it's not just a generational thing.

[Rudey]

You don't have money, are stupid, no personality, don't look gorgeous, wear bad clothing or think Coach is high end, etc.

-Rudey
--Oh and I hate snobby people too.

[Tippiechick]

Dionysus,

This thread was about superificiality. During the discussion, the topic of white was brought up. Would you have rather I edited my thoughts and posted all of them but the white clothes comment here? Perhaps I should do a search every time I reply to a thread to see if any of the things I mention happen to fall under another thread as well as the one I am posting under

[pirepresent]

Teeth, to me, are along the same lines... I dont think it's fair to be mean to people for things they can't help. I just didn't want to start on that whole other issue. And I'm sensitive about acne because my old roommate is one of my best friends, and I had to watch her cry allll the time because of people making similar comments to that one - they were treating her badly because of her skin, and she couldn't help it!

I see what you're saying about whiteheads and teeth, etc etc. It's gross and unpleasant to look at. But at the same time, I just think it's mean to call people out on it, when there's nothing they can do about it. When they grow out of it or get it fixed someday, that kind of treatment from other people affects many people for their entire lives. I dont know, that's just me. Maybe I am too naive/optimistic about people's capacity for being nice to other people. Or maybe I do need to lighten up, and just degrade every single person about their genetic flaws. Since this is a thread about superficiality, that makes it okay, right?

[lovelyivy84]

I dont think she meant you and your post in particular, just that after DeltaSigStan's post the thread definitely started to take a turn. If people want to continue discussing the white after labor day issue then it would be polite to take it there.

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by Tippiechick
Dionysus,

This thread was about superificiality. During the discussion, the topic of white was brought up. Would you have rather I edited my thoughts and posted all of them but the white clothes comment here? Perhaps I should do a search every time I reply to a thread to see if any of the things I mention happen to fall under another thread as well as the one I am posting under

No, not at all. I have no problem with anyone saying that white after labor day is inappropiate. I just think it's unnecessary to have another DEBATE on this subject, when there's another thread on it.

[KillarneyRose]

My pet peeve is men who don't take off their hats indoors. There is nothing inherantly offensive about that, I suppose, but I was always taught that gentlemen remove their hats indoors.

I hate obvious handbag knockoffs. There, I said it! I see some woman my age getting out of a 1974 Pinto dragging 5 kids into the grocery store with her and paying with foodstamps she fished out of her "Louis Vuitton" or her "Gucci" bag. I know there's no way it's real (unless the Pinto and foodstamps are a result of a designer bag fetish gone awry?). It's like, "hey you, you with the knockoff LV! I had to go to college and start a career so that I could be in the position to meet and marry someone who eventually started making a lot of money so that I can afford the real version of that bag and I really resent you thinking you can skip all of my hard work and careful planning just by going to some street vendor in downtown Baltimore and plopping down $45 for that bag!"

OMG, I can't believe I just posted this on a public message board! Please don't flame; other than this, I am actually a very nice person

Edited to add the comment Mr. KR just made when he read my post over my shoulder: "I see you're trying to justify the ridiculous obsession you have with people's purses, again"

[Tippiechick]

Pire:
The thread was about being SUPERFICIAL... In other words: things that cause you to form an opinion about someone without knowing them.

I don't think the thread was intended to be mean. But, it is about being shallow. It's things we all COULD be more understanding about, but are listing because they bother us.

I don't think anyone is attacking anyone here.

I also understand your closeness to one of the issues. But, I think there are going to be some things on here that hit too close to home for everyone.

But, it's all SUPERFICIAL stuff. Hopefully, we all look past things to get to know the person.

[kddani]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose

I hate obvious handbag knockoffs.

OMG, I can't believe I just posted this on a public message board! Please don't flame; other than this, I am actually a very nice person

Edited to add the comment Mr. KR just made when he read my post over my shoulder: "I see you're trying to justify the ridiculous obsession you have with people's purses, again"

Haha, me too. Actually, i'm not just fan of buying something with logos ALL over them. I've just never been into the super obvious stuff, I'm more of an understated kinda gal. I do own a knock-off though... my mom bought it for me when she was on a cruise a few months ago. I love the size and shape of it, but i hate the fake Gucci logo. But hey, at least i'm not driving a Pinto
And Mr. KR is just jealous b/c he pretty much has to wear the same thing every day.

[pirepresent]

Fair enough

Thanks for your diplomacy.

I dont know, I just think it's easy for us to stand here and be like "oh go see a dentist, go see a dermatologist", when the majority of us had parents who were able to afford that. My teeth started out a little crooked - they're perfect now because my parents could afford to get me braces. Does that give me the right to say that EVERYONE should do that? No. I'm lucky. That doesn't make me better.

I guess my point is that maybe we should try to be a little sensitive to the readers out there who have these incurable problems. Can't we stick to the things like buying knock-off handbags? That one is funny, and it's a behavior that people can change. I think if you're going to judge people based on their appearance, judge on things you know for sure they are choosing for themselves. Like knock-off handbags, tatoos, and skanky clothes. Those are choices people actively make for themselves. You can't differentiate between people who are just too lazy to go see a dentist and people who can't afford it, or people who choose to keep their nasty whiteheads, and people who honestly have tried EVERYTHING and nothing helps.

Guess that's my superficial issue

ETA: Sorry to be so oversensitive. I just feel bad for the people who read this who may have these problems and get their feelings hurt.

[Taualumna]

Question: If one shouldn't wear white after Labour Day, then what should winter brides wear? What about debutante balls that occur in the winter? The Helicon Ball in Toronto is held in early February. Anyway, my list:

1. Girls and women who dress like they're in a hip hop video, especially if they're under 16.

2. Tattoos and multiple piercings (so I'm an old fashioned gal)

3. Too tight clothes on "larger" women

4. Whiney, Trista Rehn..err Sutter like voices.

5. Sandals with socks

6. That 70s Show hair on guys. Guys, you're not Ashton Kutcher! And even he looks like a dork!

7. 80s hair. I saw a girl on the street today, whom I guess is around 20-22. Her hairstyle looks a lot like the teenaged girl who babysat me in the mid 80s!!!

8. Sweatpants outside the gym and at home.

9. People who wear PJs to class. Geez, don't you have a pair of jeans lying around?

10. Overly done make-up.

11. Unwashed hair and face

12. Guys who don't shave

13. Clothes that don't match, are out of style and just plain yucky, especially if you can afford nicer clothes

14. People who aren't dressed appropriately for certain occasions. The New Year's Eve party I went had a semi-formal dress code. I saw a guy there in a button down shirt and khakis and no jacket. Dude, that isn't semi-formal but business casual!

15. Internet speak outside of chats and messageboards.

ETA:

16. Bad table manners. People who chew with their mouths open, who slurp their soup, etc. I understand that it's considered ok to slurp in some cultures, but it doesn't mean that you can do it in a restaurant that doesn't serve food from said culture.

17. People who keep their cells on at the movies and during meals. Ditto for those who scream into their cells.

18. People who bring their ill-mannered kids to places that they shouldn't really be going to.

19. Guys who don't know how to tie a tie. That's what casual society has done to people. How sad.

20. Very high heels.