What would you do if your daughter....

[abaici]

Originally posted by prayerfull
See that's what I'm talking 'bout. HC when we got to the MLK march on Monday my little soror-to-be was with me talking 'bout "Mommy, we need to hurry and find our other sawrahs so we can line up and march." Mind you, she slanged it out and said "sawrahs" and not "sorors".

I'm *DEAD* at "our" sawrahs. LOL

[MsFoxyLoxy77]

...My family is full of XYZ...at one point I thought they were the only sorority...I can remember thinking I want to grow up and be like my aunts because they dress well, they always held their heads up high they seem to know everything and everyone, always smiled, my aunts are such classy ladies (this is the 13 year old me). Well my favorite aunt took me to this "junior XYZ" club meeting. I was like am I missing something, these ladies (the members) are nothing like my aunts at all. The girls in the meeting were shall we say a little unladylike and were talking about how they were gooing to grow up and be in XYZ and I was like if y'all are in it i'm out I was so disappointed (that was of course a hasty decision) I revisited the meetings two more times and that was that...fast forward 3 years and I began to look up other sororities...that's when I knew AKA is the right way...and I don't feel any conflict I feel that many of the attributes I was raised to value in life like being well spoken, carrying yourself well, being an example for others to follow, being a leader not a follower, and self confidence contributed to me wanting to be in AKA...I can't help it if my aunts in XYZs raised an AKA......

As far as my daughter (when I have one) I won't lie there is only one way and I'm confident she'll see what I saw...if the imposssible happened and she chose another way...she'd have some Explaining to do...it would be 21 questions in my house and NO I'm not paying

[firecracker08]

My sister is 18 and getting ready to go off to college. If she wanted to be something other than an AKA, I would be supportive. Everyone has to do what makes them comfortable. If she can live with her choice, then more power to her. But I can pray that she pursues interest in my sorority and she becomes a member of my sorority.

Babyperson Skee is too cute. And her pinky is STRAIGHT! Go head gurl...

I was at a NPHC picnic and there was a lil one with a my mommy is an AKA t shirt on. Honey child was doing the ivy and all of that. She was like 4 so she got a pass. Any children older than that need to be stopped.

[PrettyGirl03]

I have a sister whom I tried to promote AKA to, but knowing her personality and the way she identifies herself (her mother is Hispanic; our father is black), I now feel AKA isn't the best option for her, and she should pursue a multi-cultural organization.

I don't want to be a parent that pushes my choices of what organization to join on her kids. I hope they would come to that decision on their own...just like I did. Thankfully, my mother isn't in a sorority, so I didn't have that heavy weight to join something while growing up.

[skisweeet]

PrettyGirl03 ...I think you are correct. I know a guy who says if his son pledges anything but...he won't pay for it. I love being an AKA, there is absolutely nothing else that could ever EVER be for me, & although I became an AKA years and years after I wanted to become one...(because I was a child when I first decided)....if my family had forced me to be something else that would have been horrible.... I don't have anything against other groups, but God gives everyone characteristics that make them unique, and the characteristics God gave me, fit with AKA. If I have a daughter, I will support whatever gifts God gives her, and if that makes her a Happy Delta then I will support my child in that, as well as other positive things she might want to do. But I hope that she would want to be an AKA. One thing is, I would not push it. I would show her by example what being a lady is. For me that is living without drama. For her, that might be what an AKA represents. But at the same time, all of us are not identical. Each chapter is different too. So she has to find where she fits, and where she is ultimately happy and able to make a positive difference with the gifts God gave her.