Hazing in general... - Page 4

Tom Earp · #46 09-30-2003, 05:17 PM

Pardon my DA-Ness, but what is a SSHE school?

33girl · #47 09-30-2003, 05:33 PM

Tom - SSHE = Pennsylvania teachers colleges.

(Although they educate more than teachers nowadays, of course.)

Livvy8 · #48 09-30-2003, 05:33 PM

SSHE is the Pennsylvania State System of Higher Education (composed of 14 universities).

phisigduchesscv · #49 10-01-2003, 01:57 AM

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Originally posted by AggieSigmaNu361
Hmm,

i can't believe this thread is still active.

who moderates this board and what are they up to?

Um, i think i'ts pretty apparant what her motives are, seeing as how she hasn't come back to post on this thread.

I think DA has the best answer. No need to crucify trolls, just don't respond or get all huffy.

Kitso
KS 361

Kitso, I don't think any of us can really question her motives. If you notice in her first post here PinkShip talked about filling out her bid card the morning she posted. She was actually posting very actively in the Rush forum on and up to bid day. Since then we haven't heard from her and I am just hoping that she wasn't disappointed with her bid results but has been out celebrating with her new sisters and has just forgotten to post. Or even worse I hope she isn't disappointed by the responses she has received to this thread asking about the possibility of hazing and her fear about it.

Unfortunately, especially with the advent of the two MTV shows and all the various news stories lately, hazing has been brought to the forefront of a lot of peoples attention. It has also created some fears for pnm that they may have never experienced before.

I just hate to see how cynical everyone seems to have gotten on greekchat lately. When I first started posting this was such a friendly place and now some of the friendliest people even seem to be getting cynical. I hope the trend reverses soon or we may not see to many new members on here in the not too distant future.

PinkShipChick07 · #50 10-01-2003, 11:35 AM

Hello Everyone, I'm sorry that I haven't been around for the past few days to see what was being said about me. Maybe it's a good thing. PhiMu, I'm sorry that my post rubbed you the wrong way. All I wanted to know was experiences that everyone else had gone through during initiation that may be considered hazing. I also needed to know what to do if I was going to be hazed. I HAD looked at all the websites I could find and I KNEW that hazing was not tolerated, but that still didn't tell me anything. Like I said before, I had heard rumors around school about hazing occuring during initiations and I was worried about it. Excuse me for worrying about my own safety! That's besides the point...while I was reading, someone stated that sorority hazing differs from fraternity hazing because the girls' is more mental than physical. I totally agree. I'm PROUD to say that I am currently pledging with 5 other girls to Phi Sigma Sigma. We're on our third day of pledging and there is so much stress already. If this is considered hazing, it's definately mental. I don't feel threatened or in any danger, but I think it's very overwhelming. Sorry if I offended anyone with my post, but I wasn't looking for personal information about anyone. It was just a general curiousity but I don't need anyone's help now. I'm pledging and I'm proud. Whatever happens in the next few weeks, I'll deal with between our pledge class. Luckily, I now know where to go if I start feeling uncomfortable and I won't hesitate to do so. PhiMu, I hate that you think so poorly of me after reading one post of mine. I was extremely nervous and I agree that it made me sound stupid. Fortunately, I'm NOT. I am a year behind everyone else in school because I skipped a grade in junior high and I still am able to hold up a 3.9 GPA (which I'm very proud of!) I hate to sound so blunt, but I'm not stupid and I'm sorry you don't like me.

#51 10-01-2003, 12:02 PM

Congratulations on finding your home! Try to remember that the stress you're enduring now will lead you to a lifetime of sisterhood.

I'm glad you've educated yourself on what is and what is not acceptable, and I hope that you have the strength to report it if something unfortunate should occurr.

I understand that you're hurt and offended - I probably would be too. Just try to remember that one person does not always represent the mindset of an entire sorority.

pirepresent · #52 10-01-2003, 12:07 PM

a) Pink, congrats on your bid and welcome to our sisterhood!! I followed your rush thread from start to finish, and I've been waiting to hear where you went!!! I personally am very proud to have you as a member, and I know the other sisters on the boards will be too! stop by and say hi!

and b) I wish I had seen this hazing thread before. All i'm going to say is that if you (and by "you" i mean GC'ers who are initiated into GLO's) dont want curious people to ask what they percieve as an important questions, don't offer your advice ever again!! To me, these boards come off as a place where people can talk about all kinds of greek issues, ask questions and get impartial answers. Her question was by no means inappropriate, as many people have already noted. We all want to be helpful to new members - at least, most of us want to be helpful, I thought.

PinkShipChick07 · #53 10-01-2003, 12:28 PM

Thank you so much! I honestly didn't mean to offend anyone and I didn't know I was crossing boundries when I asked for advice. I appreciate all the backup I got when I wasn't able to answer myself. I totally agree that you shouldn't offer advice and get all pissed off if someone totally NEW (like me) asks a question they don't know the answer to. Thanks again!

DZHBrown · #54 10-01-2003, 12:35 PM

PinkShip - Congrats on Phi Sigma Sigma!!
HotDamn - When you make such rude and ignorant posts, maybe you should post under an anonymous name? You give Phi Mu a bad name when you act like that (and I know they are great women).

GeekyPenguin · #55 10-01-2003, 12:37 PM

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Originally posted by DZHBrown
HotDamn - When you make such rude and ignorant posts, maybe you should post under an anonymous name? You give Phi Mu a bad name when you act like that (and I know they are great women).

Oh, because you've never ever once posted something remotely rude or ignorant.

HotDamn was not the only one who thought that this looked trollish.

PinkShip, congratulations on Phi Sigma Sigma, and if ever something happens that shouldn't, now you know who to contact and call.

greeklawgirl · #56 10-01-2003, 12:38 PM

I agree that things have gone way too far, and HotDamn should have been more circumspect in giving her opinion. That having been said, PinkShipChick07 is also WAY out of line by saying, "Thank God I'm not a Phi Mu, especially if all your sisters are as bitchy as you are." I understand you're hurt, but that response was totally inappropriate.

IMO, the two of you are both partly responsible and you both should apologize for the sake of keeping the peace around here. Just my 19.04 and you are free to disregard it.

kddani · #57 10-01-2003, 12:45 PM

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Originally posted by greeklawgirl
I agree that things have gone way too far, and HotDamn should have been more circumspect in giving her opinion. That having been said, PinkShipChick07 is also WAY out of line by saying, "Thank God I'm not a Phi Mu, especially if all your sisters are as bitchy as you are." I understand you're hurt, but that response was totally inappropriate.

I agree. PinkShip isn't totally innocent here either, and it's certainly no fair to attack HotDamn and be totally accepting of comments like that.

#58 10-01-2003, 12:54 PM

HotDamn,

The national website, even though in theory it's supposed to, doesn't represent each individual chapter. Why else are individual chapters hazing their new members? Of course, when the hazing chapters are exposed, hopefully something is done to prohibit this activity in the future. Maybe a reality check would do some good.

In a perfect world, hazing would not exist and there would be a clearer definition of what hazing actually incorporates. One person can see something as hazing but the next could see it as a bonding situation.

OK that's my two cents!

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #59 10-01-2003, 12:55 PM

I think she pretty much cleared up ANY confusion about her quality as a sorority member all by herself.....

Thanks PinkShip!

PinkShipChick07 · #60 10-01-2003, 12:55 PM

Okay...I can see how that was out of line. I'm sorry. This is to anyone that I offended, and I'm sure there's plenty. HotDamn, I apologize for saying what I did. I was out of line by saying you were a bitch. I recognize that you have been doing this longer than I have, but please give me some credit. You made me out to sound like I was dumber than a sack of diapers, and I'm not. Of course, that's no excuse and I'm sorry. I was very nervous and excited and confused all in one, but I hope that if I ever have any questions in the future, nobody jumps on my back like you did. Thanks everyone, and again, I'm sorry if I ever offended anyone. I didn't mean what I said-I was just taking out my anger.