How To Be A Gentleman

[mu_agd]

Originally posted by lifesaver
The other thing I am always doing is putting my hand on the small of a ladies back to guide her through a crowd.

can i just say that i LOVE when a guy does that!!!!

[DeltAlum]

Originally posted by lifesaver
The other thing I am always doing is putting my hand on the small of a ladies back to guide her through a crowd.

I used to do that, too. I thought (still think) it was helpful. Some women really object to it, though, and some have even charged sexual harassment for that kind of touching.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

I love it too.

[AKA_Monet]

Some of you guys are making me.... Well, let's just say... Moist...

My husband makes me walk on the side away from the street. He opens doors for me... I can't reach over and open the door for him in the car, 'cuz he's already opened it with the automatic opener... And he stands up, when I leave the table. I guess that's why I married him... Nothing like a Morehouse Man... And true Southern Gentlemanly qualities that are reared in the utmost of families... Hmmmm...

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by Optimist Prime
Sword fighting should be institionalized. And if some one dies from a duel, then oh well.

I can think of someone who needs to be institutionalized, and it isn't sword fighting.

[Starlet]

Originally posted by Hootie:

- be nice to people I introduce you to

Going along with this, it's always courteous of guys to introduce you if you're out together and you bump into some of his friends. In general, I can't stand it when people don't introduce you if you're with them and continue to talk to their friends, leaving you standing there like an idiot. That's just plain rude!

[MattUMASSD]

To do further research on this topis I bought "The Modern Gentleman" by Phineas Mollod and Jason Tesauro. This is more comprehensive than the other book. This book explores topics like Tipping, Skinny Dipping, Gate Crashing, Hosting, Bachelor Party, Best Manning, Flirtation, Dates, Exes and Ohs, and tons of other topics. Im almost done with part one and it seems veru interesting. Ive learned new things about hosting, and house guests, but a lot of the stuff I already knew thanks to my great parents.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

skinny dipping?

[MattUMASSD]

I know, its kinda scandolous.

" What better end to an evening of group revelry, romantic frolic, or solitary mishceif than a refreshing rinse and spin? Breastroke sans a slap in the face, the skinny-dip is the most laudable of swims. Here, group or dual dynamics are fortified by liberating nakedness and a tinge of naughtiness. Like a night at sleep-away camp, once a small ban has shared a bare splash, all bonds are reinforced. Besides, you've always wanted to see your pal's girlfriend naked anyway."

This is the intro to the skinny-dipping section.

[Optimist Prime]

Originally posted by DeltAlum
Uh, sure. Whatever you say.

I'm not crazy. Listen if some one yes "Lets fight with swords" and you say "okay" you have to assume that you might get hurt. You agree to the risk therefore you assume risk. I think there is legal precident for this.

[Optimist Prime]

Originally posted by valkyrie
I can think of someone who needs to be institutionalized, and it isn't sword fighting.

Yeah, but think of what would happen if they locked me away. I wouldn't be able to escort a lady. And there would one less gentleman. For example if a lady was assulted, and I was locked away, she'd be screwed. But if I was her escort, I would handle the situation as a gentleman. I might die, but at least Chivalry will live.

[Optimist Prime]

Originally posted by AlphaSigOU
I'd feel the same way, but unfortunately dueling is considered murder if someone dies as a result of it. In the military, the Uniform Code of Military Justice actually has a specific article prohibiting dueling.

The last time dueling was actively promoted as a way to settle questions of honor was during WW II in Hitler's Germany.

Here's a site on the history of dueling: http://www.isidore-of-seville.com/dueling/ . And another on the rules of dueling: http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/amex/duel/sf...ofdueling.html

That's really unfortuate. But of course, if you were in the army and you kill another member of the same army, that is fraticide.

I'm glad someone agrees with me.

Wait, let me get this straight, ladies and gentleman of greek chat.
If a lady is insulted you're all saying (except AlphaSigOU) that I should not defend the lady's honor?

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by Optimist Prime
Yeah, but think of what would happen if they locked me away. I wouldn't be able to escort a lady. And there would one less gentleman. For example if a lady was assulted, and I was locked away, she'd be screwed. But if I was her escort, I would handle the situation as a gentleman. I might die, but at least Chivalry will live.

Haha, I was only kidding, but personally, if I were assaulted my first response would be to try to kick the guy's ass, and my second response would be to press charges. I wouldn't want any guy trying to defend me or get into trouble himself, plus I think a woman is most likely to get assaulted when she is alone. I would dump a guy on the spot if he threatened to later go out and find a guy who bothered me and kick his ass.

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that I am probably the only woman on GC who does not like most of these things that are considered "gentlemanly" or whatever you'd call it. I'm all about courtesy, but I don't like traditional male/female roles. I'm just as likely to hold the door open for my boy as he is for me, and I like it that way.

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by Optimist Prime
If a lady is insulted you're all saying (except AlphaSigOU) that I should not defend the lady's honor?

It depends on the woman. I would not want a guy to try to "defend my honor" because first of all, I don't even know what "honor" in that instance really means. Second, if a guy verbally insulted me, I don't think that anyone on this green earth could give him a better tongue lashing than I could myself.

[MattUMASSD]

would you want a guy to defend you in general against a mugger or somone that wanted to do harm against you?