Is it just me...

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by carnation
Contrary to popular opinion, we don't have totally free speech in this country. If we did, child porno would be in our faces every day and libel and slander would be rampant. We do need some limits.

I just wanted to temporarily interrupt this thread to give props to Carnation about her point.
Back to the sex discussion.

[PKTSU01]

Originally posted by UMgirl
ok, I happen to think of sex as a private issue and have nothing against people who want to talk about ti openly, I just choose not too. Its like leaving something to the imagination.
anywho, my question is...how come alot of people who are so open about sex and whatever, get pissed when other people start discussing their business and act like the had their privacy volated? im not saying anyone on the board does this, but i know alot of people who do. Examples: a friend of mine has told are other close friends that her and her bf, have done it in the deans office, in a elevator, grandmothers jacuzzi (whihc I just think is not cute, cuz its grandma's ya know), and etc. I had heard about it from them, and then when i asked her about it she got mad or embarassed about it and acted like she had to get off the phone. I dont get it. Or Im sure we have all know guys or girls who run off at the mouth about their little escapades and what they do to whomever, but get pissed when they start hearing stuff about them going around about them and have people talking about them. If your going to get mad...WHY SAY IT? Can someone answer that?

To answer your question, i think it might be because certain personal things are fine for people to mention themselves, but those things may not necessarily be fair game for someone elses general chitchat. I agree with you when you say ya get irked when they get pissed about you talking about something they already put out in the open but hey, people are just like that sometimes I guess.

[Thrillhouse]

Originally posted by UMgirl
ok, I happen to think of sex as a private issue and have nothing against people who want to talk about ti openly, I just choose not too. Its like leaving something to the imagination.
anywho, my question is...how come alot of people who are so open about sex and whatever, get pissed when other people start discussing their business and act like the had their privacy volated? im not saying anyone on the board does this, but i know alot of people who do. Examples: a friend of mine has told are other close friends that her and her bf, have done it in the deans office, in a elevator, grandmothers jacuzzi (whihc I just think is not cute, cuz its grandma's ya know), and etc. I had heard about it from them, and then when i asked her about it she got mad or embarassed about it and acted like she had to get off the phone. I dont get it. Or Im sure we have all know guys or girls who run off at the mouth about their little escapades and what they do to whomever, but get pissed when they start hearing stuff about them going around about them and have people talking about them. If your going to get mad...WHY SAY IT? Can someone answer that?

maybe its just me.....but if someone tells me about something personal like that, I don't repeat it to anyone including the person who told me about it. Than again what do I know

PKTSU and EX greek, thanks for your answers and believe me im with you I dont post peoples personals (unless its a group of friends and everyone includinf the person who did whatever is talking about it). First, I dont care to know it and second its not my business anywho

[dzrose93]

Originally posted by PKTSU01
Alright, can we pretty much let go af all the bickering and state that its cool for everyone to have varying opinions on this topic?

I have already stated, several times, that it's cool for everyone to have varying opinions concerning when and how sex is discussed.

To anyone who took anything I said personally, it wasn't really intended towards any ONE person, it was a general statement, my opinion, which I'm going to give regardless of who has a problem with it.

I fully realize that you weren't intending your comments toward any ONE person, PKT. You were intending them toward EVERYONE on GC (carnation, RedHotChiO, greeklawgirl, etc.) who has voiced concerns with sex being discussed in such detail on GreekChat. That statement, therefore, included me and I don't really know how you can expect me, or anyone else, to NOT take it personally when we are called "hypocrites" "prudes" and "immature" and our opinions are labeled as "b.s."

But if I'm going to be lectured about it, in a rather nasty tone mad I add, i'm going to fire back and be an a$$hole, which is not how I want to come across

If you consider giving realistic examples and pointing out valid facts which support my opinion as a "lecture" and interpret sarcasm as a "nasty tone", then I'm sorry. But -- to use your own words -- "it was a general statement, my opinion, which I'm going to give regardless of who has a problem with it."

(I'll tell you some people who wouldn't have a problem with my statement, though -- the National Executive Board Members of every GLO that is represented on this board.)

[James]

Oh my,

I love the internet, it so easy to just hit reply and fire off something to fit the mood of the moment, act now and repent later.

I don't know if anyone else does this, but if I get a provocative email (or see a post) and my blood starts to heat so to speak, I will generally wait a day or two before replying. Or if I write one at the moment anyway, I will usually save it as a draft and then probably never send it I have a whole section of drafts that if I reviewed them all would probbaly give me a coronary from remmebered pain at others people's stupidity.

UMgirl, I agree with ExGreek and PKTSUO1 on the issue of relating other people's stories. Some people talk about almost anything to certain people, but not others. They compartmentalize their lives.

I won't repeat a story someone else tells me even if they don't invoke a confidence. Although I will repeat altered stories about some people if no one knows them, no names are mentioned, and there will be no connection.

However, everyone should be prepared to have anything they tell anyone, even their bestest friend, shared with people they wouldn't want to hear it. A real secret is told to NO ONE.

DZRose, tell us what you really think dear, don't hold back so much . . .

Also, I'd like to think that a lot of National Officers are sufficiently worldly, and mature, that the ones that would like to express themselves in a forumn would feel free to do so.

I especialy say this because people really don't change very much as they age . . . so people that express themselves publicly now will do so later in life. And this is the same population that our National Officers come from.