Lack of Ethnic Diversity in Bama's sororities worry future rushee - Page 4

DrPhil · #1 01-15-2009, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by BabyViolet

I had a chance to be in several sororities of the divine nine.

ORLY?

libramunoz · #2 01-16-2009, 02:21 PM

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But when it came down to it, it was who you connect with the most and not who's skin color you match the most. just the other day a lady was hassling my sorority sister and I about why we didn't join a "Black" sorority. Honestly it really angered me. That's the most ignorant thing. I can't stand when people say things like that. I'm happy with the sorority I'm with. I had several invites to others and I chose the one I chose for a reason. (I shopped around before I made a decision lol.) FUD

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I'm glad that you are happy with your sorority and you should be. However your comments regarding the Diving 9 are offensive to me in many of the things that you stated.
In regards to the Divine 9, why would you say that it "mattered as to who you 'connect' (connected?) with the most and now 'who's' (whose?) skin color you 'match' (matched?) the most." What does skin color have to do with the Divine 9 in this matter? What makes you think that you WOULD have been selected to begin with? What makes you THINK that you HAVE/HAD what it takes to be a member?
This is what makes me mad as far as you saying that you "had several invites..." and it makes me see why you AREN'T a member of one of the Divine 9.

Senusret I · #3 01-15-2009, 11:44 PM

She wanted to feel special and recruited and chosen.

Senusret I · #4 01-16-2009, 02:24 PM

What libramunoz is trying to say is that we're happy with your choice, too.

KSUViolet06 · #5 01-16-2009, 02:31 PM

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What libramunoz is trying to say is that we're happy with your choice, too.

Do I need to send you to the corner again? LOL.

#6 01-16-2009, 02:40 PM

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Do I need to send you to the corner again? LOL.

Jocelyn, your mom's a DST, right? I remember reading that somewhere here years ago but I can't remember if it's true or if I'm just making that up, lol.

Senusret I · #7 01-16-2009, 02:41 PM

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Jocelyn, your mom's a DST, right? I remember reading that somewhere here years ago but I can't remember if it's true or if I'm just making that up, lol.

I thought it was AKA.

LOL.... as my mom would say "That's how lies get out!!!!" lol

KSUViolet06 · #8 01-16-2009, 02:45 PM

KSUVioletMom= DST

DrPhil · #9 01-16-2009, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by BabyViolet

like I said I had the choice of joining either type of sorority.

Because you were attending their "stuff?" Get outta here.

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I don't understand what's so offensive because people say all the time I can't imagine being in a NPC sorority.

Which means it doesn't register on their radar. It does not mean that it registered on their radar and they COULD'VE been a member but chose a nonNPC sorority.

We have had a NPC-NPHC retro recruitment story on here and it didn't take the tone of "they wanted me...I could've done it...but I rose above the pressures to conform and did my own thing."

Just take this as a valuable lesson.

Senusret I · #10 01-16-2009, 02:37 PM

LOL! No, not this time!

I just think this is one of those situations where your sister isn't really articulating what she means the way she wants it conveyed, and there's no way for an NPHC member to really address it in a way that won't somehow belittle her.

In my opinion, not everyone is cut out for an NPHC kind of selection process and it's completely okay to be seeking something different in your sisterhood.

Or, to put it another way, you sorta have to buy into the NPHC selection process before you start looking around to see which one is the best fit. If you haven't bought into it, it won't work out favorably.

DrPhil · #11 01-16-2009, 03:41 PM

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LOL! No, not this time!

I just think this is one of those situations where your sister isn't really articulating what she means the way she wants it conveyed, and there's no way for an NPHC member to really address it in a way that won't somehow belittle her.

In my opinion, not everyone is cut out for an NPHC kind of selection process and it's completely okay to be seeking something different in your sisterhood.

Or, to put it another way, you sorta have to buy into the NPHC selection process before you start looking around to see which one is the best fit. If you haven't bought into it, it won't work out favorably.

I was hoping she simply meant that there were NPHC sororities on her campus. Not that she had been courted by these sororities.

I feel about her comments the way I do about NPHCers who choose to explain why they chose their organization. Since NPHC doesn't have "recruitment," speak on why you chose your organization without mentioning the other organizations.

KSUViolet06 · #12 01-16-2009, 04:03 PM

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I feel about her comments the way I do about NPHCers who choose to explain why they chose their organization. Since NPHC doesn't have "recruitment," speak on why you chose your organization without mentioning the other organizations.

I was trying to put my finger on what it was about her comments that annoyed me, but I think this was it.

libramunoz · #13 01-16-2009, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

LOL! No, not this time!

I just think this is one of those situations where your sister isn't really articulating what she means the way she wants it conveyed, and there's no way for an NPHC member to really address it in a way that won't somehow belittle her.

In my opinion, not everyone is cut out for an NPHC kind of selection process and it's completely okay to be seeking something different in your sisterhood.

Or, to put it another way, you sorta have to buy into the NPHC selection process before you start looking around to see which one is the best fit. If you haven't bought into it, it won't work out favorably.

Essentially I am saying that I am happy for her with her choice. However, since the Divine 9 isn't something that she knows about other than what she saw or the friends that she knew, it's very hard for her to be able to be specific about talking about one of these organizations if she doesn't know what they are about.
I think what she wanted to say was something else, and yes, Senni, you're correct, she didn't convey it very well. I know that she wanted to pass along her story, it just became convoluted in what she was specifically saying and in what she said, for me, it was offensive.
I know that you weren't trying to be offensive, but more is said in how you say than it can be in what you say. It's like if you and I were sitting down and having a convo, your body lang would say one thing to me and my body lang would say one thing to you. Sometimes it's easy to be saying "I like RTG" and actually be conveying "I hate you" in the same way.

BabyViolet · #14 01-16-2009, 03:03 PM

One more thing.... I wasn't cut from any selection process etc. I just stopped attending the "stuff" and decided to go another route. First I was just looking around in the NPC option and then I ended up actually joining. People are trying to make it into something that it is not. Something like I didn't "deserve" one so I settled for another. It was nothing like that at all.

DrPhil · #15 01-16-2009, 03:42 PM

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One more thing.... I wasn't cut from any selection process etc. I just stopped attending the "stuff" and decided to go another route. First I was just looking around in the NPC option and then I ended up actually joining. People are trying to make it into something that it is not. Something like I didn't "deserve" one so I settled for another. It was nothing like that at all.

Well, you certainly should've discussed why you chose your NPC sorority without mentioning the NPHC sororities. The fact that you chose not to speaks volumes.