NotSoRetro's Deferred Recruitment at a Private School

[aggieadpi_01]

Ok, so who is Miami!? I am really impatient today!

[AOII Angel]

I love your story. I think you got more out of your membership in Miami than many women get out of membership in their #1 favorite chapters. You get out of it what you put into it! Thanks for telling your story. Did Lauren ever ask you about cutting Miami during recruitment?

[NotSoRetro]

You know she never did, because I think she knew why I did it. It's not something I ever really talked about with any of my sisters after recruitment.

Interestingly enough, the next year after I went through they began to implement RFM and those late cuts (like what I experienced) were pushed to the first and second nights. I think if I had gone through later, I may not have had the opportunity to release Miami or get so caught up in a chapter's status.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by NotSoRetro

You know she never did, because I think she knew why I did it. It's not something I ever really talked about with any of my sisters after recruitment.

Interestingly enough, the next year after I went through they began to implement RFM and those late cuts (like what I experienced) were pushed to the first and second nights. I think if I had gone through later, I may not have had the opportunity to release Miami or get so caught up in a chapter's status.

I'm sure your 18 year old self would have been able to handle that better as well. I think RFM is a kind way to release women. You don't get them in the situation you found yourself in. I guess Lauren figured that confronting you would have been counter productive. I bet she was a good Big Sis.

[KSUViolet06]

I really enjoyed your story and I hope that PNMs read this and see just how important it is to keep an open mind.

Note to PNMs reading:

Keep an open mind, because you just never know. The place you say you "couldn't see yourself" could end up being the place with the friends that you will look back and wonder how you ever lived without.

[srmom]

great story thanks!

[AXi1257]

This is the kind of story every PNM needs to hear! Thanks so much for sharing. Every chapter has something to offer, the whole tier thing is pretty stupid in this day. I'd rather be me, than a cookie cutter version of someone else's perfect. I would love to know your affiliation because you have proven it was a wonderful journey that really hasn't ended... membership is for life (and that is a great thing). But, if you still choose to not reveal then I'll just have to live with that!

[groovypq]

Cosign to all who wish every PNM would read this kind of story. Every chapter has very positive things about it, regardless of rep or "ranking" or "tier" or whatever. Plus, your experience is what you make of it, and you obviously made yours great!

[Just interested]

I loved your story because in a sense it was my story. I just had a feeling. I, too, pledged a group I loved, but in a round about way. Congratulations to you and I wish you many years as an active, involved alumna. The sorority is what you make it and I cannot imagine myself without the dear friends and sisters I have through Kappa Delta from many walks of life and many chapters (some top tier and some that struggled) but we are all sisters. After 40 years, I am still so proud of my decision

[ZTA72]

wow, I did not see that coming. Great story and ending. I thought when you said you were NotSoRetro that you probably graduated last year or so. Me, I'm so retro, I'm vintage. Wait... that would be a great screen name. Anyway, thanks for telling your story.

[gee_ess]

Please tell us what group you belong to... since we have no idea what school you attended, I don't think it will be a problem.

[true_blue]

Originally Posted by AXi1257

I'd rather be me, than a cookie cutter version of someone else's perfect.

All I can say to that is AMEN!

I'm glad Miami is what you are even to this day!! Your insight and experiences are so very valuable to your org.

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

Please tell us what group you belong to... since we have no idea what school you attended, I don't think it will be a problem.

Actually, a lot of us could pick up the campus. I happen to have a friend who attended the school in the mid 80s and had a similar experience. So, I'm sure the OP is judicious in not posting it.