Most Important Words of Advice

[FSUZeta]

Sounds like she will be well prepared!

[MaryPoppins]

Bump

[adpiucf]

I won't reiterate all the great advice that has already been given, but add this to the list:

Keep your phone by your side following the days' events (and in the early morning before they begin) just in case there are last-minute schedule changes. And if you have any schedule conflicts alert Panhellenic immediately so you can be excused and not cut from recruitment!

Wear sunscreen and stay hydrated. It is HOT out there if you're going through recruitment in the fall.

Be nice to everyone, have fun, and try to find a few things to like about each chapter each day.

[KSUViolet06]

^^^^Doth my eyes deceive me?

[adpiucf]

I was feeling nostalgic today, so I decided to pop my head in and say hi!

[KSUViolet06]

What have you been up to? Law school?

[adpiucf]

lawyering

And hijacking threads, apparently!

[FSUZeta]

WELCOME!!!!
We have missed you. Please stay!

[Cheerio]

Just a bump...

[PearlGirl13]

I wasn't sure where to put this, so I'm putting it here.

I received an email today from the daughter of a friend that was a "group email" asking for "a rec or a letter". It wasn't addressed to anyone specifically and said something like "I know some of you are in sororities and if you are and you'd be interested in writing me a rec or a letter, just let me know". She attached a not very well written resume

This is NOT how you ask someone to write you a recommendation. For anything. Ever.

I could go on and on, but there is so much advice about the importance of recommendations for some schools (large SEC school for this young lady) that I think that this PNM got focused on getting it done without considering the importance of good manners.

[ComradesTrue]

^^^ Wow.

I agree with you. I do think that sometimes they are just checking off their to-do list and forget the details in the process, not to mention good manners.

PNMs: Virtually every organization has a section on their rec that includes something about the PNMs character/personality/presentation/maturity/insert non-resume adjective here. Remember that how you interact with your rec writers is already putting forth your first impression with those writers. While I don't think there are many women who would write "she sucks at introductions," a PNM who exhibits appropriate manners and appreciation when soliciting recs will likely get some gushing in that same section.

To add to the thread, our APH's update for 2014 sadly has to include "do not send selfies." Never in a million years would I have guessed that we would have to add that to our instructions. Unbelievable what we were getting.

[FSUZeta]

Oh my!!! Our society has gotten so casual, and the niceties often fall by the wayside. i believe in many instances the "children" are not taught proper manners, and don't realize that manners and etiquette are important tools for networking and in the business world. sigh!

PNMs: You can go the the library or a book store and find etiquette books. You can also find etiquette information online. If you weren't taught to write thank you's, or how to set a table, or how to write a written request for a recommendation-not just for rush, but for scholarship applications, graduate school applications, job applications, etc., it behooves you to educate yourself.

[Sunny3]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Can you imagine what that would lead to?

My RC was very helpful too. Most probably are.

But if the people posting here are accurately reporting what they were told, there are a bunch of campuses not following NPC guidelines and/or a significant number of RCs who give people wrong advice about how bid matching works, the consequences of ISP (is it Intentional Single Preference or Single Intentional Preference SIP for "suiciding" these days?) or the conditions under which you're eligible for COB or snap bids.

Fortunately, I think a relatively small percentage of PNMs are ever affected negatively. But you would have no way of knowing if you were one of them until after you listed a chapter you didn't want on your bid card because you'd been told that maximizing your options gave you a better shot at your top group. Ugh.

I am confused. My daughter was told exactly that-to maximize her options and to list both chapters on her bid card even though she really did not like one of the chapters. Are you saying that she would have had a better chance of getting the chapter she wanted if she only had listed it?

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by Sunny3

I am confused. My daughter was told exactly that-to maximize her options and to list both chapters on her bid card even though she really did not like one of the chapters. Are you saying that she would have had a better chance of getting the chapter she wanted if she only had listed it?

No. If your daughter had only listed one she would not have received a bid at all.

[carnation]

TTT!