First signs of a bad first date

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

if you don't kiss me by the 3rd date or at least cop a feel, we are th'ough.

That's fine. I was only using you for the expensive dinners anyway!

[SydneyK]

To go from this (particularly the bolded)

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

"Well, right now I'm working at Taco Bell, but I'm in school studying philosophy blah blah..."

Philosophy? Really?

to this

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

doesn't have or take an interest in my hobbies. I mean, I know my interests and hobbies are a little out there, but still...

is hypocritical, don'tcha think? So, he has to like (read: appreciate the fact that you like) black holes but you don't have to like (again, read: appreciate the fact that he likes) philosophy (or whatever subject is meaningful to him)?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

To go from this (particularly the bolded)


to this


is hypocritical, don'tcha think? So, he has to like (read: appreciate the fact that you like) black holes but you don't have to like (again, read: appreciate the fact that he likes) philosophy (or whatever subject is meaningful to him)?

And fast food as a college job is no biggie in my opinion. If he has no plans past that philosophy degree then we have issues. If he has plans for grad school, law school, or a career then that's not a red flag.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

YES! I had a guy that I liked hurt my feelings doing this. He told me that I was acting White and the activities that I liked were those that "White people liked to do." The fool then told me that he would refer to me as "Crystal" from that point forward. I told him to enjoy his hobbies/interests alone. That's so rude. Ugh.

Wow, that guy deserves to be alone.

I've dated guys who would lie to me about their interest in my interests/hobbies, too. I dunno, it's just that a lot of guys that I would go out with would tell me what they thought I wanted to hear, just so I would keep dating them. They would act like they really were interested in my hobbies, when they really weren't. And they didn't have to be, but I just think that if I'm showing or taking some interest in what he enjoys, he should do the same for me, even if it's just a little, and the last thing is please don't tell me what he thinks I want to hear.

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

*If he consumes too many alcoholic beverages
*If he stares at another woman (or man) while with me.
*If we're at dinner and he starts complaining about the prices on the menu.
*If he says he doesn't have any friends, or only has female friends OR he believes that men and women can't be friends
*If he tells sexual jokes or talks about sex at all.
*This may be weird BUT, if he refers to me as sexy instead of saying you look nice/cute/beautiful.
*If he's cheap...expecially with himself!
*If he tries to kiss me.
*If he has a wet mouth.

lol
What do you mean by wet mouth? That's hilarious. What is that?

eta: and I totally agree about the alcohol. I don't like a lot of swearing, either.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

if you don't kiss me by the 3rd date or at least cop a feel, we are th'ough.

[UofISigKap]

In addition to being on his Blackberry the entire time, his friend being rude after visiting the table to meet me (and then blowing me off), and making me feel like an alcoholic when I order one (1!!, and not even like some gigantic German stein or something, but a regular sized one)) beer, I knew it would be a bad first date when he left to use the restroom and said to me, "Please still be here when I get back." Why oh why didn't I leave then...

[agzg]

For me, "no goes" would be acting too forward (one guy tried to kiss me about 15 minutes in), talking about having children (with me) on the first date, talking shit about job, ex girlfriend, traffic, anything really.

Spending too much time looking at other people. Answering the phone within the first 15 minutes.

Not sharing plans ahead of time or asking what type of things I would like to do on a date.

Taking me to a seafood restaurant after not sharing plans ahead of time or asking what type of things I would like to do on a date. If he had, he would have known that I was allergic to shellfish and would be petrified to even try ANYTHING at the restaurant for fear that it was prepared in the same pan as the fried shrimp 5 minutes before.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

or if the job before the Taco Hell one is pretty consistent with the current job, like Burger Slinger, Scrubway, etc. Basically he's not going anywhere, or really doesn't want to go anywhere.

Not referring to businesses by their actual name. This really bugs me a lot, especially when it's in a diminutive tone.

I'm not looking for a professional history on a first date. If I ask what you do, I expect to hear about your CURRENT job. This is a DATE, not an interview!

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

That's fine. I was only using you for the expensive dinners anyway!

golddigger.

LOL

[sky&sea]

I once dated a guy whose nickname back home was "Satan" ... That should have been a red flag right there. So basically, take heed of any questionable nicknames.

[ASUADPi]

Both of these happened to me on a first date.

1. Not only talking about your ex, but saying that your ex 1. cheated on you and 2. was a druggie. And then you go on to tell me that you don't like wearing condoms and that you had unprotected sex quite often with above mentioned girlfriend.

Yeah, don't think so!

2. Not talking. I had a guy who couldn't carry on a simple conversation. It was like pulling teeth to get him to answer a simple question. It was the most uncomfortable dinner date in my life. I was nice and gave him a second date (thought maybe he would losen up). That didn't happen. I had to make a dash to the bathroom and convince my friend to call me back with an emergency so I could bow out early. (yeah, I know I'm mean, but I didn't want to tell this guy in a public place, "I'm going home, this date sucks".

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Both of these happened to me on a first date.

1. Not only talking about your ex, but saying that your ex 1. cheated on you and 2. was a druggie. And then you go on to tell me that you don't like wearing condoms and that you had unprotected sex quite often with above mentioned girlfriend.

Yeah, don't think so!

Oh. Hell. No.

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

To go from this (particularly the bolded)

to this

is hypocritical, don'tcha think? So, he has to like (read: appreciate the fact that you like) black holes but you don't have to like (again, read: appreciate the fact that he likes) philosophy (or whatever subject is meaningful to him)?

Originally Posted by Drolefille

And fast food as a college job is no biggie in my opinion. If he has no plans past that philosophy degree then we have issues. If he has plans for grad school, law school, or a career then that's not a red flag.

it's just so funny that cheerfulgreek said that- because i clearly remember in the unemployment thread that she felt that people that were unemployed should try to get a job any damn where. because hearing that you should take a job at "scrubway" and "burger slinger" is sooo encouraging.

it's also hard to not take offense to the philosophy quote because one of my very close friends majored in philosophy in college and is doing quite well.

but, this must be another example of cg saying snotty shit then trying to pretend that she's the nicest person here on gc and is rising above us all by ignoring us calling her out. *done*

[DrPhil]

LOL. Leave cheerfulgreek alone. This thread is all about the subjective "signs of a bad date." I could critique what a lot of people typed if I felt like it.

Plus, we already know how she feels about certain things. LOL.

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I had a convo with a friend about the usefulness of an actual philosophy major/degree the other day. I said that philosophy is a component of many schools of thoughts/majors/degrees/fields/careers and I feel like philosophy should be the beginning of a discussion and not the end [philosophy---->philosophy]. I have philosophical discussions all the time but I did not know whether literally being a philosopher had great utility. That was my simplistic way of thinking (I was tie-red) and what I said can be and has been said for a number of fields, though. I would never be disrespectful toward someone with a bachelor's or graduate degree in philosophy. It is awesome in its own right and has utility. Like I said, philosophy's a component of many schools of thought and fields of expertise---even *gasp* some of the things that cheerfulgreek chooses to be interested in.
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[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

LOL. Leave cheerfulgreek alone. This thread is all about the subjective "signs of a bad date." I could critique what a lot of people typed if I felt like it.

Plus, we already know how she feels about certain things. LOL.

her invisibility cloak is up so it doesn't matter. i'm not bothering her if there won't be a response. LOL

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I had a convo with a friend about the usefulness of an actual philosophy major/degree the other day. I said that philosophy is a component of many schools of thoughts/majors/degrees/fields/careers and I feel like philosophy should be the beginning of a discussion and not the end [philosophy---->philosophy]. I have philosophical discussions all the time but I did not know whether literally being a philosopher had great utility. That was my simplistic way of thinking (I was tie-red) and what I said can be and has been said for a number of fields, though. I would never be disrespectful toward someone with a bachelor's or graduate degree in philosophy. It is awesome in its own right and has utility. Like I said, philosophy's a component of many schools of thought and fields of expertise---even *gasp* some of the things that cheerfulgreek chooses to be interested in.
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i think philosophy is an awesome field and def agree that it touches on many of the things cg would be interested in. philosophy seems to be on the "opposite end" of the spectrum of many things, like business- but sometimes its the perfect fit.

[KSUViolet06]

Discussion of kids on the first date.

I like kids. I just don't think discussing how many kids you want when you don't even know my last name is weird.

Same with marriage. If you tell me on the first date that one of your goals is to get married within a year (true story), there will not be a second.