Wedding Invitation Etiquette Question - Page 4

AEPhiSierra · #46 11-17-2005, 10:51 AM

ok maybe i am insensitive but couldn't they park their dogs somewhere during the wedding, at the hotel or a get a dog babysitter just for during the wedding. A lot of blind people don't have dogs and have to get by, couldn't they get by without them for a couple of hours when they have their family there to assist them?

PinkRose1098 · #47 11-18-2005, 01:51 AM

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I've read that the latest it's considered polite to get a thank you card out is one month after the honeymoon.

And I got yelled at (but not to my face) for not having my thank you notes done one week after we got back from our honeymoon by his godmother. One week! I think I was still tring to figure out what box my shoes were in after moving all my stuff 9 hours from home But we got it worked out and needless to say I now have other issues with that woman.

wrigley · #48 11-18-2005, 11:01 AM

On the doggie dilemma, most places of worship have more than one entrance besides the front entrance, where your sister as a bride go through and down the aisle.

Bring the blind couple ahead of time with the dogs through a side entrance. Arrange with the place of worship that the dogs are put in a classroom or an office with 2 teens or middle school kids from his side of the family to sit with the dogs through the ceremony. Besides kids are usually bored at these functions. Designate 2 relatives from his side to be responsible for escorting the blind couple down the aisle and back without the dogs and back to the place where the dogs are being held.

Perhaps the same arrangements can be made at the reception hall. And giving the relatives who helped out a special mention in the wedding speech by either you or hubby will help save face with his family.

adpiucf · #49 11-18-2005, 11:25 AM

The groom should handle this if it is his side of the family that is being unreasonable. Maybe go to dinner with the objecting parties, or write an open letter to the family expressing how much they want everyone there, and clarifying the situation.

If it is going to be such an issue, the heck with the wedding. Elope!

And if his family is going to be so ugly and the fiance won't stand up to them, does this girl really want to become part of such a family.

You may think the open letter idea is silly, but if tastefully done, spelling out the situation may diffuse the tension.

BetteDavisEyes · #50 11-22-2005, 12:41 PM

Oh Jeez. I got the invitations & looked them over & I was sooo happy. I gave them to my coordinator yesterday & they were all mailed this morning. I'm looking at them again this morning when I realized that the word CALIFORNIA is mispelled. I couldn't believe it. I was not the only person to look them over. I just can't believe we all overlooked that. It's too late to do anything about it right? Cripes. I guess it doesn't really matter but the wedding is in 3 weeks & I'm already under a lot of strain. Something this small is threatening to make me cry right now.

adpiucf · #51 11-22-2005, 01:31 PM

BetteDavisEyes,

I'm so sorry! I imagine you're under a lot of stress and the typo is just one more thing to upset you.

There are two ways to approach this. 1) Ignore it. 2) Make fun of it and point it out to your guests by sending a postcard to the invite list along the lines of ... "One of these things is not like the other... Can you find the clue on our wedding invitation... Send in your guesses by DATE and receive a prize at the rehearsal dinner/cocktail hour... etc...) Then give anyone who responds some little gift like a candy bag or bottle of wine.

It'll be ok and remember, you're going to be a lovely bride!

BetteDavisEyes · #52 11-22-2005, 01:35 PM

Yeah. I know it was small but it made me cry and cry. I think I'm over it now...I hope.

Peaches-n-Cream · #53 11-22-2005, 02:12 PM

Thanks for all the feedback, advice, and suggestions. I just wanted to add that the groom has been wonderfully supportive of my sister and explained the situation to his family. My sister had suggested that the couple put their dogs in a nearby kennel and bring a friend or an aide to assist them, but the couple declined. Five people didn't show because of the dog situation which is unfortunate. I think it just comes under the heading of not being able to please all of the people all of the time.

My sister and her husband were married on Saturday. It was the most beautiful wedding I have ever attended. About 125 guests attended and had a wonderful time.

Here I am as the maid of honor.

Peaches-n-Cream · #54 11-22-2005, 02:16 PM

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Yeah. I know it was small but it made me cry and cry. I think I'm over it now...I hope.

It's a typo. Your family and friends will understand. You'll all have a big laugh over it. Enjoy this special time!

ZTAMich · #55 11-22-2005, 08:34 PM

Cream you make a beautiful MoH!!

Peaches-n-Cream · #56 11-22-2005, 11:25 PM

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Cream you make a beautiful MoH!!

Oh thank you! You're so sweet.

honeychile · #57 11-22-2005, 11:44 PM

Peaches N Cream, you look lovely - absolutely glowing!

As for seeing eye dogs, may I just add my two cents? If someone WANTS to get along, they can find a way, every time. Sure, they may be more used to the dogs, but canes and loved ones work, too. I would seriously bring this point up at some later date, as it will be an issue in the future.

As for the wedding invitation typo, I'd casually find out if the printer has ever refunded or given a discount for similar mistakes - and then ask for one. Sure, you proofread them, but I would assume that someone knows how to spell his or her own STATE!

AOX81 · #58 11-23-2005, 06:31 PM

If my family knew what I did for my wedding they would shoot me!! I had two sets of invitations made up...one for my family stating it was an "adult only" wedding and reception and one for his family with out the restrictions. My side of the family had a major baby boom and I didn't want all those brats running around!!

AOX81 · #59 11-23-2005, 06:33 PM

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Here I am as the maid of honor.

Is that seafoam green? I wore a similar dress for my friends wedding a couple years ago.

BetteDavisEyes · #60 11-25-2005, 12:29 PM

This is irritating beyond belief. No one has RSVP'd the way they are supposed to. Since I saw the bulk of both our families yesterday, everyone assumed that it's o.k. to tell me that they will or will not come. That's 70 people just telling me. How the hell am I supposed to remember that. Would it kill them to check off the little box? Apparently yes.