Rush - What to NOT do or say - Page 34

brokengymnast75 · #**496** 02-20-2009, 03:07 AM

I have a quick question:

I rushed in the fall, but a lot of people kept asking me which ones I liked. I tell them that I was pretty open, and felt 5 out of the 8 houses seem to fit me. Of course, the follow up question they ask is which ones I liked. So I name them, but I say that those qualities in the 5 houses that I liked seem to fit my personal style well, while the other ones, though still nice, did not.

So I hope that is the proper answer.

The next part is though, is that some sorority women trash one of the houses and say how desperate they are. I agree to that, before I even think (this happened specifically today). Will that hurt my chances in rushing next fall?

Xidelt · #**497** 02-20-2009, 03:29 AM

If you are hoping to rush again, I wouldn't talk crap about any of the groups on your campus. I would also be vague about which ones you like or dislike the most. You never know where you will end up next year.

brokengymnast75 · #**498** 02-20-2009, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Xidelt

If you are hoping to rush again, I wouldn't talk crap about any of the groups on your campus. I would also be vague about which ones you like or dislike the most. You never know where you will end up next year.

Okay thanks, I will try to be more vague.

agzg · #**499** 02-20-2009, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

I have a quick question:

I rushed in the fall, but a lot of people kept asking me which ones I liked. I tell them that I was pretty open, and felt 5 out of the 8 houses seem to fit me. Of course, the follow up question they ask is which ones I liked. So I name them, but I say that those qualities in the 5 houses that I liked seem to fit my personal style well, while the other ones, though still nice, did not.

So I hope that is the proper answer.

The next part is though, is that some sorority women trash one of the houses and say how desperate they are. I agree to that, before I even think (this happened specifically today). Will that hurt my chances in rushing next fall?

Actives should not be asking you any of these questions OR trashing other houses in front of potential new members. ALL you have to say is that you're keeping your options open and you've met some great sorority women. DON'T TAKE THE BAIT!

brokengymnast75 · #**500** 02-20-2009, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

Actives should not be asking you any of these questions OR trashing other houses in front of potential new members. ALL you have to say is that you're keeping your options open and you've met some great sorority women. DON'T TAKE THE BAIT!

Thanks, that is great to know. I won't take the bait!

phisiglindsey · #**501** 02-20-2009, 05:56 PM

If we ever trashed another organization in front of PNM, I'm sure we'd get into some serious trouble. That's not classy to be trashing other groups. It's just petty.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #**502** 02-20-2009, 06:31 PM

Agreed, but then we went to the same college, so that sort of makes sense.

KSUViolet06 · #**503** 02-20-2009, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by brokengymnast75

I have a quick question:

I rushed in the fall, but a lot of people kept asking me which ones I liked. I tell them that I was pretty open, and felt 5 out of the 8 houses seem to fit me. Of course, the follow up question they ask is which ones I liked. So I name them, but I say that those qualities in the 5 houses that I liked seem to fit my personal style well, while the other ones, though still nice, did not.

So I hope that is the proper answer.

The next part is though, is that some sorority women trash one of the houses and say how desperate they are. I agree to that, before I even think (this happened specifically today). Will that hurt my chances in rushing next fall?

*NEVER talk about other chapters during recruitment. They REALLY shouldn't be asking you that in the first place to be honest. It puts PNMs in an unfair position.

If anyone asks who you like, say something like "oh well everyone I met has been really nice."

Alot of times, if a girl mentions certain houses when asked that, a sorority may say "oh, well she said she likes XYZ and ABC, so let's just cut her now because she didn't mention us." You don't want that.

*If a sorority member is trashtalking other chapters, don't play into it.

They shouldn't be saying those kinds of things anyway.

Also you never know if they're the type of person who will take that info and hold it against you (like, "oh I mentioned XYZ and she said they were SO desperate. What a bitch!"). It also just generally isn't good to bash chapters as a PNM because you never know who will pass that info on and affect you in a bad way.

ZTA72 · #**504** 02-20-2009, 09:03 PM

^^^
Great advice. Really great advice for all of life. You NEVER know who knows who and saying bad things always comes back on the person who says it. You know that *karma* thing.

alphasamm2007 · #**505** 04-28-2009, 02:13 PM

Never Ignore the question, even if you think it shouldnt have been asked in the 1st place

One of my good friends got turned off by the other sorority on our campus because one girl did not answer a question she was really curious about. the question was "What makes your sorority better than the other one"
The girl replied we arent better we are just different and left it at that, not giving her reasons or examples of how they were different.

If you dont feel comfortable answering questions you should at least find someway to answer it even if it means finding another sister to do so.

LucyKKG · #**506** 04-30-2009, 02:47 AM

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Originally Posted by alphasamm2007

Never Ignore the question, even if you think it shouldnt have been asked in the 1st place

One of my good friends got turned off by the other sorority on our campus because one girl did not answer a question she was really curious about. the question was "What makes your sorority better than the other one"
The girl replied we arent better we are just different and left it at that, not giving her reasons or examples of how they were different.

If you dont feel comfortable answering questions you should at least find someway to answer it even if it means finding another sister to do so.

I can see how it seemed like the sister dodged the question, but that's kind of a recruitment no-no (on the PNMs part, I mean). The sister was probably trying to be Panhellenic and not bash the other group. I agree that she could have talked about different activities they do, but I'm sure a question like that would leave me taken aback as well.

BaltoAlphaPsi · #**507** 05-01-2009, 12:10 AM

That almost sounded like an interview question.... "why should we hire you and not someone else" It wasn't a bad question, but i think it would be hard to answer. I agree, you should say why you're events are different.

"So, what makes XYZ better than the other sororities"
"Well, we're always looking for fresh ideas, last year we did our first male beauty pageant for our philanthropy, and it was amazing. We love having the campus involved"

nichole13 · #**508** 05-01-2009, 12:50 AM

Seriously, this info actually helps a lot. I'm going to be a freshmen next year. Any advice on how long we should wait / look into a sorority before we rush / pledge?

KSUViolet06 · #**509** 05-01-2009, 12:54 AM

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Originally Posted by nichole13

Seriously, this info actually helps a lot. I'm going to be a freshmen next year. Any advice on how long we should wait / look into a sorority before we rush / pledge?

Depends on the type of sorority and your school.

If you're talking about Panhellenic sororities, I suggest doing so freshman year. However, depending on where you go to school, waiting until sophomore year is no big deal.

But there ARE some schools with highly competitive recruitments at which it is highly difficult for non-freshmen to get bids.

Leopards5113 · #**510** 05-03-2009, 01:49 AM

im a freshman now and im transferring to a new school in the fall. this school doesnt hold sorority rush until the fall of sophomore year so i havent missed anything which is great! but i was just wondering, should i not mention that im a transfer? also i rushed at my old school and dropped after the first round. im guessing i shouldnt mention that? if they asked if i rushed should i just say no? thanks!