Rush - What to NOT do or say

[beccaminister]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ok, this is not true. Quota is set by thr number of girls who attend preference. So whether women drop out of rush or not, it doesn't "screw someone out of a bid."

Yes...the number of girls who attend pref. But if you attend pref without intending to take a bid, aren't you screwing someone out of a bid?

[beccaminister]

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

I would say don't wear white pants period, before or after Labor Day.

Seriously. I don't want to know what brand undies you wear, and so many white pants/dresses/skirts are not lined. I don't care if you're wearing "nude" undies - chances are we can probably still see them.

Bra straps aren't cool, either. Cover up and wear appropriate foundation garments, people!

A slip is a seriously underrated garment.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by beccaminister

Yes...the number of girls who attend pref. But if you attend pref without intending to take a bid, aren't you screwing someone out of a bid?

Well, you do change the bid list, so you *could* affect whether someone else gets a bid or not. It's not likely.

[jwright25]

Originally Posted by beccaminister

Yes...the number of girls who attend pref. But if you attend pref without intending to take a bid, aren't you screwing someone out of a bid?

Maybe a long time ago, but not any more. At most schools, women who maximize their options after Preference are placed. There are exceptions - such as Indiana where Quota is based on the number of open beds in the chapter house.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by beccaminister

Yes...the number of girls who attend pref. But if you attend pref without intending to take a bid, aren't you screwing someone out of a bid?

No, they can always get an open bid or snap bid.

In my experience, the "I'm just rushing to meet people" people don't go the whole way through pref, however YMMV.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

In my experience, the "I'm just rushing to meet people" people don't go the whole way through pref, however YMMV.

Yeah, those girls generally withdrew after day one, when they realized that recruitment is designed for girls to join a sorority, and they knew they didn't want to do that.

[sherryanne]

I'm going through COB this week and I'm really nervous. I know the actives will ask me why I am interested in joining a chapter (and I do have my reasons) but is it better to not mention about formal recruitment if I have gone through it (I was released early)? I'm not sure if rushing a second time is looked down upon.

I read the previous posts and saw the no-no on namedropping, but what about mentioning an active in general? For example, if my good friend Susie Smith was in ABC, could I mention (at ABC's recruitment event) how Susie told me about her personal Greek experience which convinced me to consider the recruitment events?

Thanks again for this thread!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by sherryanne

I'm going through COB this week and I'm really nervous. I know the actives will ask me why I am interested in joining a chapter (and I do have my reasons) but is it better to not mention about formal recruitment if I have gone through it (I was released early)? I'm not sure if rushing a second time is looked down upon.

I read the previous posts and saw the no-no on namedropping, but what about mentioning an active in general? For example, if my good friend Susie Smith was in ABC, could I mention (at ABC's recruitment event) how Susie told me about her personal Greek experience which convinced me to consider the recruitment events?

Thanks again for this thread!

**If your school has a smallish recruitment, they may already know that. I know that we always happened to know who girls were from recruitment, because there were only like 150 PNMs total.

**If someone asked you how you decided to check out ABC, it's okay to say "Well Suzie was in my class (or whatever) and she told me about..." but I wouldn't go on and on.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by sherryanne

I read the previous posts and saw the no-no on namedropping, but what about mentioning an active in general? For example, if my good friend Susie Smith was in ABC, could I mention (at ABC's recruitment event) how Susie told me about her personal Greek experience which convinced me to consider the recruitment events?

Thanks again for this thread!

Umm, if Susie's at the party, I'd think she would come over and say hi to you at some point. If she is a truly close friend of yours, I'd think she's already aware you're rushing and will be looking for you. If you only know her from class or facebook or something, don't act like she's your BFF or drop names - let her take the lead.

Do not mention being dropped from formal recruitment. Either your school's system is small enough that the sorority members will know, and if it's large enough that they don't, it's in your best interests to not bring it up. If a member does question you about it, don't say "I was cut" - say "things didn't work out."

[LadyDread2010]

I would be open and honest about myself,not be phony. Being fake takes too much energy.

[tina93]

Hey, I am really lost and confussed. I want to attend rush this semester, but the paperwork that is requested, such as recommendations and community involvement proof, ....is all this info needed before rush , or will the rush meeting inform you of the paperwork that you will need to turn in and when??? what actually takes place at rush..I am so confussed and I dont want to ask the other lady's on campus about what is needed nor do i want to ask the ladys that I AM FRIENDS WITH, who are actually apart of the chapter. ...please help anyone.... I know that rush is in about 2 weeks, so if I need to have these documents before rush then i need to get them like yesterday. I have went to the website and it really does not explain when this paperwork is due...before rush, during rush, or after the rush????? help clear the clutter in my brain, PLEASE! ..........and do you think its okay for me to ask the member who is my fiiend....because she has know idea that Iam interested.

Originally Posted by tina93

Hey, I am really lost and confussed. I want to attend rush this semester, but the paperwork that is requested, such as recommendations and community involvement proof, ....is all this info needed before rush , or will the rush meeting inform you of the paperwork that you will need to turn in and when??? what actually takes place at rush..I am so confussed and I dont want to ask the other lady's on campus about what is needed nor do i want to ask the ladys that I AM FRIENDS WITH, who are actually apart of the chapter. ...please help anyone.... I know that rush is in about 2 weeks, so if I need to have these documents before rush then i need to get them like yesterday. I have went to the website and it really does not explain when this paperwork is due...before rush, during rush, or after the rush????? help clear the clutter in my brain, PLEASE! ..........and do you think its okay for me to ask the member who is my fiiend....because she has know idea that Iam interested.

First, it's C-O-N-F-U-S-E-D. One S.

Recommendations and resumes are generally reviewed well before rush, so that chapters have enough time to get to know the PNM on paper. Sending them in after recruitment's pointless. You don't send in a job application after you interview for a job.

The fact that you didn't even bother to let your friend know of your interest is like shooting yourself in the foot. Most normal people ask for help from people they know in real life first instead of asking strangers on a message board who may or may not be familiar with rush at your campus.

[als463]

Originally Posted by tina93

Hey, I am really lost and confussed. I want to attend rush this semester, but the paperwork that is requested, such as recommendations and community involvement proof, ....is all this info needed before rush , or will the rush meeting inform you of the paperwork that you will need to turn in and when??? what actually takes place at rush..I am so confussed and I dont want to ask the other lady's on campus about what is needed nor do i want to ask the ladys that I AM FRIENDS WITH, who are actually apart of the chapter. ...please help anyone.... I know that rush is in about 2 weeks, so if I need to have these documents before rush then i need to get them like yesterday. I have went to the website and it really does not explain when this paperwork is due...before rush, during rush, or after the rush????? help clear the clutter in my brain, PLEASE! ..........and do you think its okay for me to ask the member who is my fiiend....because she has know idea that Iam interested.

Another point of interest is that it is: I have gone (not, I have went). Little things like speaking proper grammar can make or break you when going through rush. I find it hard to believe you are this passionate about wanting to go Greek-yet, you wait until 2 weeks prior to rush in order to ask for help. The point that you should speak with people who are in the chapter that you may be friends with is very valid and you should have asked these questions weeks ago.

In this day and age where getting information about recruitment is at your fingertips-there is absolutely NO EXCUSE to be this confused. Call the office of Greek Life or check out the website. If you don't know the website, go to Google and type in STATE UNIVERSITY (obviously YOUR university) Greek Life-that should help you out! Good Luck!

[33girl]

I believe due to her mention of "community involvement proof" that the sorority that tina93 is interested in is an NPHC group.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by freshie4

Do rushers ever ask rushees about community service ideas? like if they had to come up with a way to get donations for their philantropy? If they don't is it a good idea to tell them if you have an ideas on that topic?

Please don't do this.

Usually, members of a sorority won't ask for your ideas as to how to contribute to their philanthropy, or for any other specific ideas concerning their chapter. If for some reason they do, give ideas, but without suggesting any major ones that might conflict with their current processes and procedures.

We had a PNM once who came to recruitment events, made it a point to tell the sisters that she had done research on the sorority, and then said that she had a ton of new ideas for the chapter. She mentioned philanthropies she'd like to do, and in some cases, she gave specific examples of how we'd help out.

When you're not even a part of Greek life, when you know little to nothing about how a chapter operates, and you've only met the members a few times, you don't start telling them how to run their organization.