What happened? - Page 3

uk2011 · #31 08-22-2008, 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by DMBabyZTA

Tippiechick, well said!! I mean it, I agree with you! Well said sista

It really sounds to me that you went into recruitment with the wrong attitude and such. We do know more than you think. For goodness sakes we are trained for lack of a better phrase "weed through the bad apples". We can see straight through a girl who is putting on a front.

And what many pmn do not realize is it's a two way street. It's not hard to tell from both sides where the pmn fits.

You actually made my point, in a way. I would much rather someone not give me any false hope of getting asked back if she has any idea at all that I won't fit in there. I know sometimes it is hard to tell.

Although I'd love to hear how I went into Recruitment with a bad attitude. I ended up in a place I'm happy. Yes, I got cut from two houses I was surprised about, but I don't know of anyone who didn't get cut from houses they were surprised about.

I guess I've learned my lesson here...next time I want to disagree with someone, I'll keep my mouth shut. Funny thing is, I wasn't even disagreeing...

Tippiechick · #32 08-23-2008, 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by uk2011

You actually made my point, in a way. I would much rather someone not give me any false hope of getting asked back if she has any idea at all that I won't fit in there. I know sometimes it is hard to tell.

Although I'd love to hear how I went into Recruitment with a bad attitude. I ended up in a place I'm happy. Yes, I got cut from two houses I was surprised about, but I don't know of anyone who didn't get cut from houses they were surprised about.

I guess I've learned my lesson here...next time I want to disagree with someone, I'll keep my mouth shut. Funny thing is, I wasn't even disagreeing...

1) Those girls were probably not trying to give you false hope. Get over it. They actually probably liked you.

2) RIF! She was addressing the OP.

3) Disagreeing is perfectly fine and encouraged. But, be aware, that people on here aren't going to let comments go if they don't agree with them.

uk2011 · #33 08-23-2008, 12:04 AM

So can we please call a truce? You all think I'm a bitch, I think the girls I met were fake. You all know more about sororities than me (though this is something I never disputed). We all disagree on a lot of things. I wish we didn't have to resort to name-calling, but whatever. I'm still sorry everyone thinks I am so wrong to get the impression that a girl in a sorority was anything less than perfect, and I am so sorry that you all thought I was being "angry" and "negative."

Good luck to the original poster.

AlphaXi_Husky · #34 08-23-2008, 12:04 AM

I think there may be some confusion with the OP's post and uk2011's posts (if I'm reading correctly). From what I can tell uk2011 did go in with a pretty good attitude, while the OP obviously did not.

I understand what you're saying, uk2011, but please wait and see what it's like on the other side. You're right, you can have an opinion and you are the only one who met those girls, but you also only have half of the perspective having been on one side of Recruitment.

uk2011 · #35 08-23-2008, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Tippiechick

1) Those girls were probably not trying to give you false hope. Get over it. They actually probably liked you.

Geeze. I didn't SAY they were "trying" to. I wasn't trying to start an argument with you over that, too!! I was simply saying that the girls probably DO know best if a PNM is going to fit in, and if they have any idea that they won't, then maybe it would be better to not ever even bring up the possibility of another invite. That's the only thing I was trying to say. Merely a comment. I wasn't disagreeing with you at all.

Dionysus · #36 08-23-2008, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by uk2011

So can we please call a truce? You all think I'm a bitch, I think the girls I met were fake. You all know more about sororities than me (though this is something I never disputed). We all disagree on a lot of things. I wish we didn't have to resort to name-calling, but whatever. I'm still sorry everyone thinks I am so wrong to get the impression that a girl in a sorority was anything less than perfect, and I am so sorry that you all thought I was being "angry" and "negative."

Good luck to the original poster.

Eh, "sorority" and "fake" are synonymous with each other, period. Have fun in your bottom tier sorority, and have a nice day.

uk2011 · #37 08-23-2008, 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by AlphaXi_Husky

I think there may be some confusion with the OP's post and uk2011's posts (if I'm reading correctly). From what I can tell uk2011 did go in with a pretty good attitude, while the OP obviously did not.

I understand what you're saying, uk2011, but please wait and see what it's like on the other side. You're right, you can have an opinion and you are the only one who met those girls, but you also only have half of the perspective having been on one side of Recruitment.

Thank you, and I promise, I understand there are two sides. Although after this whole drama, I'm starting to wonder if I can handle this sort of thing on a day to day basis.

I really had no intention of starting a major argument over a handful of girls I felt like were misleading. I only meant to say that you never know what happens when the doors are closed, and just because you thought they really liked you, doesn't mean you'll get asked back.

uk2011 · #38 08-23-2008, 12:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Dionysus

Eh, "sorority" and "fake" are synonymous with each other, period. Have fun in your bottom tier sorority, and have a nice day.

Thanks so much. I'd love an explanation for your hostile tone.

I'm really sorry you think my sorority is "bottom tier," but at least I'm happy there.

violetpretty · #39 08-23-2008, 12:11 AM

Also, even if an active "doesn't think you have a shot" she's not going to be rude (well, most of the time). As a chapter, you want PNMs to leave your house with a pleasant taste in their mouths at the very least. Like I said, you'll see once you recruit for your chapter. It is normal to have the feelings you had, but we were offering another take on the "fakeness" you felt based on the fact that we've had more experience in this area than you.

Tippiechick · #40 08-23-2008, 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by uk2011

I only meant to say that you never know what happens when the doors are closed, and just because you thought they really liked you, doesn't mean you'll get asked back.

Agreed. And, don't feel special, name calling is a source of entertainment for me. I do it constantly, without discrimination.

We're not trying to be bitches. We just know how it is on the other side.

DMBabyZTA · #41 08-23-2008, 12:14 AM

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Originally Posted by uk2011

Geeze. I didn't SAY they were "trying" to. I wasn't trying to start an argument with you over that, too!! I was simply saying that the girls probably DO know best if a PNM is going to fit in, and if they have any idea that they won't, then maybe it would be better to not ever even bring up the possibility of another invite. That's the only thing I was trying to say. Merely a comment. I wasn't disagreeing with you at all.

I was posting about the OP. Sorry for the confusion and sorry I cannot type tonight. Apologies guys. It's PNM duhhh. wow anywho. These are two different stories with two totally different scenarios. The op and yours uk2011. Bottom line and this should be the basis of it all. We cannot tell you what went wrong. We were not sitting in the room, conducting recruitment with the people you rushed. Sorry, there's the truth, black and white. If you don't like it, don't go into rush thinking you'll end up in house, you'll be very disappointed. I cannot say it enough and i feel like it's been said more times than i can count. Go into rush with an open mind, give everyone a chance... blah blah. I thought it would be more common sense, but apparently that's far from the truth.
You win some, you lose some. IT'S LIFE!

uk2011 · #42 08-23-2008, 12:16 AM

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Originally Posted by violetpretty

Also, even if an active "doesn't think you have a shot" she's not going to be rude (well, most of the time). As a chapter, you want PNMs to leave your house with a pleasant taste in their mouths at the very least. Like I said, you'll see once you recruit for your chapter. It is normal to have the feelings you had, but we were offering another take based on the fact that we've had more experience than you.

Oh, I realize that. And let me repeat that I am not trying to disagree with you. This was my experience. Did any of you have a perfect Recruitment experience when you went through?

uk2011 · #43 08-23-2008, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Agreed. And, don't feel special, name calling is a source of entertainment for me. I do it constantly, without discrimination.

We're not trying to be bitches.

Seriously?

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Originally Posted by Tippiechick

We just know how it is on the other side.

I'm not trying to say what it's like from the other side. Not at all. I'm still not even sure what you took such offense to.

DMBabyZTA · #44 08-23-2008, 12:22 AM

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Originally Posted by uk2011

Oh, I realize that. And let me repeat that I am not trying to disagree with you. This was my experience. Did any of you have a perfect Recruitment experience when you went through?

Yes! I did actually. I loved everything about it. I feel sorry for the people who didn't get their top choice. But I suicided. I didn't really care what people thought about my letters. I was proud to wear them from day one and still am.

Tippiechick · #45 08-23-2008, 12:30 AM

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Originally Posted by uk2011

Seriously?

I'm not trying to say what it's like from the other side. Not at all. I'm still not even sure what you took such offense to.

Seriously? Yes. Seriously.

I wasn't offended. (It takes a lot more to offend me...) I was trying to get you to see that the girls probably meant what they said. I think ALL of us have meant that and lost one of our "Rush crushes". I hope they didn't think me fake because they were not voted through.