update on my recruitment week so far... - Page 3

texas*princess · #31 09-19-2007, 08:11 AM

What if, in a make believe world, the OP does already have a bachelors degree, but fails to disclose that on the recruitment application?

Since there are only 2 NPCs that take post-grad members, and the likelihood of both being on her campus is probably not high, what were to happen if she got 'found out'?

AlphaFrog · #32 09-19-2007, 08:17 AM

I actually think that there are more than 2 that accept post-grad students. The two that are referenced are ones that specifically have it in their bylaws that they accept them. I don't think a majority of NPCs have rules either way.

I think it's sort of like the homosexual issue...there are a few groups that actually have it in their bylaws that they accept homosexuals, and others have no bylaws for or against it...it just is. Likewise, just because it's in their bylaws that they accept homosexuals, doesn't mean that in reality they will. The difference in this issue being that I doubt any NPCs have bylaws excluding homosexuals, whereas there are some NPCs that have bylaws excluding post-grads.

texas*princess · #33 09-19-2007, 08:18 AM

And regarding age, even if.. let's say you do look like you're in your mid-twenties, and let's pretend you don't already have a bachelor's degree, besides all of that, it is a much different experience when you're older in a sorority... especially if you are just a freshman.

There's this thing called a maturity level that will greatly differ (unless you happen to be an immature 30-yr old adult) from the 18-22 yr old girls.

I'm not saying all 18-22 yr olds are immature... just sayin' the difference between that group, and someone in their 30's is pretty different.

UWO_2007 · #34 09-19-2007, 08:40 AM

I am not an "immature 30 year old adult". I have my "home life" and my "school life". I work with young adults in that age range. For me to associate, communicate, and work with that age group allows me to better function and communicate with my line of work. It helps me to remember what I was going through at that age, what was going through my mind at that age. It easy to have a counselor tell you what to do because they read it in a book....but some people would prefer to have a counselor who is understanding and can relate to them on a greater level. I volunteer with many groups in that age range and I learn many things that I didn't when I was their age, it gives me a better sense of understanding. What I went through in my early 20's is different from what is happening today...

Beryana · #35 09-19-2007, 09:08 AM

My suggestion would be to be yourself with the three sororities and be open to those you weren't as comfortable with. You will actually never know the exact reason you were cut from the other two groups - it may be your age and it may not.

Good luck to you and keep us posted on the rest of your recruitment experience!!

Go Titans!

SthrnZeta · #36 09-19-2007, 09:10 AM

What about AI? I know that I would feel uncomfortable rushing as a 25 year old and much more comfortable with alums who were more likely to be my age. I'm not trying to discourage you from rushing, just saying how I'd feel. I mean, I rushed as a sophomore and my pledge class was full of upperclassmen, so I was lucky, but subsequent pledge classes were mostly freshman and the longer I stayed a collegiate, the older I felt next to them. We had some older sisters in our chapter and they eventually kinda formed their own little group so I know they felt a little different from us, some even acted like they didn't need to participate in everything. That's another story though. My point is, would AI be an option? You have an associates but not a BA so I'm not sure if it would be allowed in some groups...?

aopirose · #37 09-19-2007, 09:14 AM

Let’s not bring up AI because it is not a solution or an option for most people.

AlphaFrog · #38 09-19-2007, 09:20 AM

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What about AI? I know that I would feel uncomfortable rushing as a 25 year old and much more comfortable with alums who were more likely to be my age. I'm not trying to discourage you from rushing, just saying how I'd feel. I mean, I rushed as a sophomore and my pledge class was full of upperclassmen, so I was lucky, but subsequent pledge classes were mostly freshman and the longer I stayed a collegiate, the older I felt next to them. We had some older sisters in our chapter and they eventually kinda formed their own little group so I know they felt a little different from us, some even acted like they didn't need to participate in everything. That's another story though. My point is, would AI be an option? You have an associates but not a BA so I'm not sure if it would be allowed in some groups...?

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Originally Posted by aopirose

Let’s not bring up AI because it is not a solution or an option for most people.

Ditto...let's not go there...

BUT...I'm pretty sure that NPC rules prevent anyone who's eligible for undergrad rush to AI, anyway, so I think it's a moot point.

texas*princess · #39 09-19-2007, 09:21 AM

Everytime someone says "What about AI?" a baby kitten dies.

THINK OF THE KITTENS!!!!!

AlphaFrog · #40 09-19-2007, 09:24 AM

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baby kitten

As opposed to an adult kitten??

Just kidding.

texas*princess · #41 09-19-2007, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I know everyone is different, but I'm 24, and I couldn't imagine wanting to pledge with a group of 18 year olds. I'm in a different stage in my life. Even if I wasn't married and a mom, I don't have the same interests as I did when I was an undergrad.

I agree. It's a completely different stage in life even without a wedding ring and a baby seat in the car.

MysticCat · #42 09-19-2007, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

What about AI?

You'll understand after a little more time here.

AlphaFrog · #43 09-19-2007, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by MysticCat

You'll understand after a little more time here.

LOLZ!!

FloridaTish · #44 09-19-2007, 09:40 AM

God's Nightgown! As an AI initiated 2 years ago, I now begin to cringe everytime I see the "Maybe you should consider AI" or "You can Always AI" posts that pop up.

I was fortunate with my experience as an alumnae initiate. I didn't go searching for it (I actually didn't know AI even exsisted) and now from the persepective of having been initiated and my experience as an active Alum, I don't see it as a fall back plan for women who don't have a successful rush. The experiences are totally different...

Just my 2 cents from the AI perspective...

APhi Sailorgirl · #45 09-19-2007, 09:44 AM

Just a positive note to the OP, I came into my chapter through COB in the fall of my soph year. The class was made up of more upperclassman. We did have a NM who was re-entering college to pursue a Bachelor's. She like you had an Associate's, but after working for a year, decided to change career paths and go to college.

Now she was only 21-22, if I remember, so the age gap was not as large, but she did fit in well with our pledge class. It was different, but it wasn't necessarily a bad thing.

I conclude by saying that was a few years ago and our campus culture has changed dramatically, so today it probably won't occur, but at the time she was just another welcomed addition to the sisterhood.