Frat Life is not what it's cracked up to be

[APhiAlien1996]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

HAYLE, as much beat down as my father had OLD SCHOOL in 1958... And let's not talk about Bricks in Bags that had to be carried...

HAYLE, one of my dad's friends named "Bang Bang" wanted to be XYZ fraternity, got pissy drunk... So, XYZ fraternity said, if he catches the bird in the room, he can pledge... All night, he couldn't catch the bird. But, when XYZ opened the door, Bang Bang ran out, got a broom and killed the bird... XYZ said he couldn't pledge...

HAYLE, I know MoFo's that got whooped if they didn't bring food.

Is that the kinna experience you want, cuz I know some hazemasters where, when you gave up all of that for your letters, you don't regret them...

Now, leave if you want to, folks don't care. But, I know for a fact the Alphas ended their old method of intake to the "new" one to eliminate death defying hazing.

Folks cannot afford $2000+ high dues anymore.

Hu? What are you talking about?

[mulattogyrl]

I'm sorry this is your experience. This wasn't/isn't my experience at all.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

It's a marriage -- you MAKE it work.

Thank you!

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by APhiAlien1996

What I'm about to say, I'm sure many of you wanted to say but didn't. Speaking from my experience as an Alpha man, other greeks can add on to this as well. Here in Atlanta, you have many big wigs of corporations that have key positions at their jobs. When I try to network with these bruhs, it's the same old same old story. 1) Exchange numbers, call the the bruh, he never answers/and or don't call back. 2) Give 'em your resume, never hear back from them, or they give you that "my hands are tied" crap. 3) Email bruhs, never get a reply. 4) I've been stranded on the side of the road, flashers on, hood up, and another Alpha will see the tags/para. on your car and keep rolling. Ain't that some garbage? Oh, and let's not forget, bruhs see you somewhere and both of you got on Alpha gear, they don't even speak. So what I'm really saying is that Alphas be acting shady to one another and yes, I am airing out some dirty laundry. Then active brothers want to know why other brothers don't become financial or participate in events.

So I ask, why is this happening bruhs? Can anyone in other orgs. relate and has this happened to you as well? I thought fraternity/sorority life was about helping one another.

Have you ever considered that it may be *your* approach to your frat brothers that may be a turn off. I mean, if you are standing there like, 'I'm an Alpha, you're an Alpha, so gimme a job dammit', then yeah, your brothers will not be bothered because they probabaly feel as if they are being used. No one wants to feel used for any reason under any circumstance.

You also need to think about what your expectations were when you joined? Did you expect Alpha to be the answeres to all of your life questions / issues?

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

You also need to think about what your expectations were when you joined? Did you expect Alpha to be the answers to all of your life questions / issues?

Alpha was the answer to all of my life's questions. Unfortunately, the answer was "No."

ba dum bum

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

Have you ever considered that it may be *your* approach to your frat brothers that may be a turn off.

But seriously folks, this is an excellent point. I am not at all likely to help out a brother who feels entitled. (There goes that word again!)

Early in 06, a group of Alpha Authors got together to help each other promote our work.

Later in 06, after Centennial, we expanded that vision into the Alpha Renaissance. Now we have a yahoo group of 200 brothers who are in all aspects of the arts: literature, comedy, acting, producing, modeling, sculpting, para designers, all that.

We saw a need where Alpha as an institution wasn't necessarily invested in our particular career paths, so we found each other and made a way.

It's funny how the fraternity itself inspired us to reach out to each other, and now we not only help each other, but we are finding ways to help Alpha, but with an artistic slant.

[Maestro1]

Originally Posted by APhiAlien1996

What I'm about to say, I'm sure many of you wanted to say but didn't. Speaking from my experience as an Alpha man, other greeks can add on to this as well. Here in Atlanta, you have many big wigs of corporations that have key positions at their jobs. When I try to network with these bruhs, it's the same old same old story. 1) Exchange numbers, call the the bruh, he never answers/and or don't call back. 2) Give 'em your resume, never hear back from them, or they give you that "my hands are tied" crap. 3) Email bruhs, never get a reply. 4) I've been stranded on the side of the road, flashers on, hood up, and another Alpha will see the tags/para. on your car and keep rolling. Ain't that some garbage? Oh, and let's not forget, bruhs see you somewhere and both of you got on Alpha gear, they don't even speak. So what I'm really saying is that Alphas be acting shady to one another and yes, I am airing out some dirty laundry. Then active brothers want to know why other brothers don't become financial or participate in events.

So I ask, why is this happening bruhs? Can anyone in other orgs. relate and has this happened to you as well? I thought fraternity/sorority life was about helping one another.

I guess I'll go back to your original post "brother" and ask you is THIS how you define brotherhood?

Is it about getting APhiAlien a job at a big corporation? You obviously went to someone's college. I would hope you have a degree in something! So why should a brother be hooking you up, instead of you SELLING what you have to offer? You had to sell the brothers in Atlanta that you were Alpha material didn't you? "Excuses are tools of the incompetent!"

You exchange numbers to network! Did you exchange numbers and invite brothers to participate in some service project you were heading up, or was it just to shoot the breeze about how someone could hook up APhiAlien? When you NETWORK, you link things together. What skill or trait do you possess that would make someone want to be LINKED to you other than Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity?

E-mail bruhs and never get a reply! I don't respond to e-mails from people who claim to be bruhs, unless I know them to be bruhs! Heck, I don't respond to most e-mails from aspirants regardless of how well I know them. E-mail is an impersonal and overused means of communication, try face to face interaction or using your resources in the chapter!

Stranded on the side of the road. Can you say AAA instead of APhiA?

Your gripe is all about what YOU didn't get, or what YOU feel entitled to receive as a result of membership.

[APhiAlien1996]

Originally Posted by Maestro1

I guess I'll go back to your original post "brother" and ask you is THIS how you define brotherhood?

Is it about getting APhiAlien a job at a big corporation? You obviously went to someone's college. I would hope you have a degree in something! So why should a brother be hooking you up, instead of you SELLING what you have to offer? You had to sell the brothers in Atlanta that you were Alpha material didn't you? "Excuses are tools of the incompetent!"

You exchange numbers to network! Did you exchange numbers and invite brothers to participate in some service project you were heading up, or was it just to shoot the breeze about how someone could hook up APhiAlien? When you NETWORK, you link things together. What skill or trait do you possess that would make someone want to be LINKED to you other than Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity?

E-mail bruhs and never get a reply! I don't respond to e-mails from people who claim to be bruhs, unless I know them to be bruhs! Heck, I don't respond to most e-mails from aspirants regardless of how well I know them. E-mail is an impersonal and overused means of communication, try face to face interaction or using your resources in the chapter!

Stranded on the side of the road. Can you say AAA instead of APhiA?

Your gripe is all about what YOU didn't get, or what YOU feel entitled to receive as a result of membership.

Man chill!! You sound just like one of the shady bruhs that I mentioned in the post! Matter of fact, what grad. chapter do you belong to, or are you not financial?

[ladygreek]

Is anybody else starting to think that this dude is not really an Alpha?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Is anybody else starting to think that this dude is not really an Alpha?

He's hated on my posts, too... I am beginning think he SKATED...

[1908Revelations]

The belly aching is just too much....I'm sure he is glad for the 'anonymity' of the internet