My rush at UNT

[thetygerlily]

Wow, it sounds like half of your experiences were fabulous! That's great! Good luck waking up at 7am (if you can even get to sleep!!) and good luck with your invites! :-D

[Buttonz]

Good luck tomorrow! Seems like you had a really good day

[FSUZeta]

your observation that you felt the conversation was prepared at cheesecake could be right. your hostess may have been on the sorority side of recruitment for the first time this year, and does not feel sure about herself.she might have been using the "cheat sheet"-the list of prepared questions to use when you can't think of anything to talk about. the fact that it was also the last party of the day might have contributed to the stilted conversation too. remember that while you were getting ready for your first party, the sorority girs had been up for hours decorating, setting up and practiciing for the arrival of the first pnm's.

best wishes that you have a wonderful day today.

[myersm]

Well, I just got my invitations back.

I'm a little disappointed; I only have two houses to go today: cheesecake and cupcake. I was really hoping to go back to snickers, because I had a really great time. THat's ok though, I'm excited about going to the two that I have today and learning more.

I heard so many girls get excited because they were invited back to 4+. I just need to realize that I'm lucky for getting invited somewhere.

If anyone reads this this monring, what are some good things to talk about with the sisters on the philantrophy day? (other than just the philantrophy)

[ASUADPi]

I'm so excited that you kept an open mind and were like "I'll give them another chance". I love "hearing" a PNM say that!!!


You could ask what types of fundraisers they do for their philanthropy? (Like if they have an annual fundraiser that they do every year). You might also ask what the philanthropy means to that particular sister. (I say this b/c we have a sister from Delta Epsilon, where there were 2 chapters AOPi and us. Her daughter had been really sick at one point and she had to stay at an RMH, so when she rushed she felt a connection to ADPi b/c of RMH). Now, this is not to say that every sister has a "connection" with the philanthropy but they might.

Its only 5:30 in the morning here in AZ so I'm not quite awake yet.

[LionTamer]

Just remember: all it takes is one. I got cut a lot, too, but as long as one good fit continues to invite you back, that's all that matters.

One comment on sounding "canned" -- the last party of the night is often painful for both sisters and PNMs It's really hard to keep focused and energetic through all the girls and all the parties. Glad you're cutting them some slack.

You probably know this already, but you'll want to think back on service projects or fundraisers you participated in during high school, and communicate how much you enjoyed them. Our sorority was very aggressive about our school's Dance Marathon, and we wanted to be sure PNMs would approach fundraising with enthusiasm rather than dread.

Also, if you bring any unique skills to the table -- art talent, calligraphy, webmastering, running meetings, organizational skills, experience with databases, athletic skills, anything -- don't hide your light under a bushel! It's not bragging to let them know you're excited about Anchor Splash because you swam/coached swimming, or excited about helping with party planning because you ran the Junior Prom. Sometimes it's like pulling teeth to get actives to agree to handle some of these jobs, so the thought that someone might actually volunteer to run a formal or keep the website up-to-date can make a PNM look very appealing!

[PenguinTrax]

I would ask the sister(s) with whom you are paired if the chapters philanthroopy project have any special meaning or memories for them?

What other charitable projects does the chapter support in the community, outside of their official philanthropy?

[skerbow]

I think the other ladies have given you some great advice about what to talk about. I'm very proud of you for keeping an open mind about these two that asked you back. I know from personal experience at UNT that even if you don't get asked back, don't drop out! I have had more women become sisters out of those that didn't get asked back during my tenure than I can count on one hand. And those were some of the best women in the chapter!

Another thing you can ask, is what their first semester in the sorority was like? What was the pledge period like for them individually? What events do they enjoy the most in the sorority? What other community service does the chapter do besides their philanthropy. I know there are several on UNT that do more than just their national philanthropy.

You can also ask about sister sororities and campus involvement. Think more on a personal level with these girls than just chapter-wide. Each one of these girls joined their respective sororities for a reason and each one had things that touched them. Ask about these. Don't be too deep, you'll have time for that later, but show interest.

I remember the best advice i was given, If you can walk into a house and know beyond doubt that you can call it home, then you are in the right place.

Remember that these girls may become your sisters. Good luck! And, i'm rooting for cupcake.

[myersm]

Today has been so emotional. This monring I found out that I was only invited back to two houses. I was disappointed for not seeing one sorority that I really enjoyed yesterday not on my list. And, yet, I was excited that my first choice was also on the list.

The first house I visited was cheesecake. My opnion is completely diffrent than last night. It, like I said, was the last house that I visited yesterday, so I guess my judgement was a little clouded due to dehydration and exhaustion. Well today, I loved talking to these women, and they were so excited to see me again. I talked to the same girls as yesterday, but today on a much more personal level and they were so excited and dedicated to their philantrophy. I never knew that they were so passionate for it, and I absoultly love that and the types of activities they do for it. I really enjoyed being here and felt comfortable today. If invited back, I can't wait to see if it is even more like home or not.

Second house was cupcakes, and I was a little upset. I did not get to talk to many people. The person I was paired up with left me alone for a while, and I could not join the girls that were sitting next to me's conversation. Once a sister sat with me, she joined a diffrent conversation and I didn't talk to her until the hour was almost over. However, she was really great to talk to, and I really enjoyed the quick conversation we had. I hope the lack of communicating with sisters doesn't hurt me. I really wanted to know more about them because yesterday I felt like I was home, and I adore their philanthropy also. I really wish I could have talked to someone on a more personal one-on-one level with these girls. I'm also aware that their rotaiton may have been off, and I somehow got looked over for awhile, however, I am still a little upset that I didn't get to know them as much today. If invited back, I will forget what happened today, and enjoy meeting new women in their chapter.

Making a ranking decision was completly difficult since with both chapters my opinions were drastic from yesterday. I talked with my rho gamma and feel confident that I will be able to see tomorrow which one is right for me. Also, since I only had to rank two, I have a beter chance (I think and was told) that I will actually visit both of these houses again since I didn't have to rank four diffrent ones. THe execs were telling us that UNT has really good stats for getting girls bids and to prefs, so I'm hoping I do get the invite back from both of them.

Also, today was a little stressful, because even though you aren't suppose to talk about it, many girls (of whom I think most were freshman) were asked back to more than four houses and had to make decisions this morning. I wasn't upset that I only had two, but annoyed that they were making such a big deal about it. However, after talking to numerous girls that are sophomores, they were cut heavily too. Many only went to two houses also, and they were not all their top choices. This kind of upsets all of us, but understand that each sorority is looking for girls in certain classifcations, and the majority of the slots go to freshman. Eh, at least I am still really excited about pref night tomorrow and looking foward to seeing if either of these two houses could be perfect for me. I have no idea what to expect during pref! Can't wait to find out!

I'd also like to thank everyone that answered my post so early in the morning. Your support and advice was wonderful and helped me throughout the day.

[AOII_LB93]

I'm sure someone else will chime in on this one, but the fact that you were left alone does not reflect poorly on you at ALL! I might get jumped on for this one, but it seems like bad planning on the sorority's part. It was a golden rule during recruitment at my house, especially this far into recruitment, that PNMs are not to be left alone or left out of conversations. Sorry you experienced that.

Bonus though...you enjoyed Cheesecake! Yay...best wishes for a great pref.

[mmcat]

sweetie, you are still in the game with two strong possibilities.
your attitude has been terrific and i applaud your open mind. let's hope tomorrow brings nothing but sweet things. fingers crossed for you.

[skerbow]

You are being awesome!! I applaud your open mindedness. UNT does have a great ratio for placing women, so hang in there. Please let us know when you find out tomorrow if you get asked back to both..

OH did you decide on a scarf or not???

[pinkyphimu]

i am glad that you had a better time at cheesecake today. of course, i am on a diet and all of these threads with food topics are killing me

best of luck tomorrow!!

[FSUZeta]

i hope that you get to visit with both chapters today!! good thoughts going your way!!

[myersm]

Well, I had my phone off last night, and I just checked it.

I received no invitations to pref night.

Everyone, thank you for your support and thoughts throughout this process.

I guess I just wasn't cut out to be in a sorority. I really don't understand why I was so cut.. but that's life.


Again, thank you.