PNM's: Beware of Thefacebook

[tunatartare]

This past recruitment, we had a girl go through who seemed nice but kind of shy. She was sweet but we didn't think she liked us very much or was interested in us and we were going to cut her. She became facebook friends with one of my sister's roommates, and would im her and send her messages on facebook about recruitment saying things like "oh I like KLP so much they're such sweet girls" and all that stuff. We never responded to that, but we decided to invite her for pref since she seemed so eager. The wierdest thing from all of this was that she didn't even end up pledging us.

[ilovemyglo]

I am by no means picking on you ADqtPiMel

But even having "Location: having a sit sit and a pink drink at the bar" can be crass in some places during rush.
I know of girls in sororities being brought up for membership for drinking in public in letters. It isn't a big deal in some places but in others it is. And that is no worse or better than what some people write on the internet.

Any of my scandalous stuff that I post I do without my greek affiliation. And believe me in the past (my younger days--- ah SIGH---) I was chastised by IHQ and other AGD members for some of my postings.

It can and does reflect on your org.

[ADqtPiMel]

Originally posted by ilovemyglo
I am by no means picking on you ADqtPiMel

Ever notice that when someone adds a statement like that, they actually are picking on you?

I'm sorry my location offends your delicate sensibilities so much. I really don't think having a sit sit and a pink drink for someone who's over 21 is a dreadfully bad representation of my sorority.

Now if my location was something like: "at the bar getting schwasted," or something like that....I could understand. But please.

[tunatartare]

Originally posted by ilovemyglo
I am by no means picking on you ADqtPiMel

But even having "Location: having a sit sit and a pink drink at the bar" can be crass in some places during rush.
I know of girls in sororities being brought up for membership for drinking in public in letters. It isn't a big deal in some places but in others it is. And that is no worse or better than what some people write on the internet.

Any of my scandalous stuff that I post I do without my greek affiliation. And believe me in the past (my younger days--- ah SIGH---) I was chastised by IHQ and other AGD members for some of my postings.

It can and does reflect on your org.

1. How is that crass?
2. How is that drinking in public in her letters?

[33girl]

Originally posted by KLPDaisy
2. How is that drinking in public in her letters?

Theoretically, her screen name contains her GLO so that would be an online version of "wearing your letters."

[honeychile]

<---- does not pretend that she knows much about facebook.com, other than what she's read on GreekChat.

Is your facebook info deleted by your senior year, or upon graduation? If it isn't, please consider that employers could possibly use any information, too.

As someone who interviews applicants, I think I'd be more upset with poor spelling & grammar, or one of the silly photos that has been described - but I could be wrong. It certainly wouldn't be the first time!

[tunatartare]

Originally posted by 33girl
Theoretically, her screen name contains her GLO so that would be an online version of "wearing your letters."

So then how is this any different than any of the drunk threads that we have on GC where people who all have letters in their sns or signatures post in while drunk or talk about what they did while drunk?

[33girl]

Originally posted by KLPDaisy
So then how is this any different than any of the drunk threads that we have on GC where people who all have letters in their sns or signatures post in while drunk or talk about what they did while drunk?

I don't agree, just offering a possible explanation.

[tunatartare]

Oh ok.

[AChiOAlumna]

Originally posted by KLPDaisy
You beat me to posting it. Great minds think alike.

I was also going to say something...I think the GLOs and non-GLOs alike need to take great care as to what they are posting on Facebook...Being an alum, I personally don't have access, but I've heard what gets posted. PNMs are watching us as closely as we're watching them...

Furthermore, what type of women/men do you want to attract to your organization? Your posts can have a large impact on that as well...

Good luck to everyone this Fall!!

[ilovemyglo]

That was just the first example I saw so I used it-
Someone else in here was right, it is no worse, (albeit probably not as bad) as writing about getting drunk in a thread.

But no one on the internet knows you are over 21, no one on the internet knows that you don't basically "Live" in a bar and no one on the internet knows just whether or not you are being sarcastic.

It does reflect on your org. We have had this debate since I joined GC back in, what, 1999, or something. When you post on the internet, and you have your greek letters, you are representing your organization.

I don't care whether or not some members here really do basically live in a bar, that is their choice, but I am also not a PNM looking at sororities. There are many places you can go, particularly in the south or at any competitive rush school, where just having that listed as your location would get your brought up on membership eligibility. Is it fair? Not to me, but each chapter and each location is different. No I was not picking on you, I was using an example. If you look up my username you can probably find some of my old posts and find PLENTY of examples (note: I don't use my sig when I post anything controversial). Yours was just the first example I saw.

It doesn't offend me at all, I don't get easily offended, however some PNMs (and sisters of yours at other locations) just may.

I don't recall calling your location crass or offensive (I said in SOME places it MAYBE called crass). But if you want to get all huffed up for nothing, go for it.

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by ADqtPiMel
I can't imagine Facebook drinking groups causing anyone at my school to not get a bid.

And I do come from a school with a large and very competetitive rush.

Ditto here (although replace "large and very competitive" with "fairly big and moderately competitive"). Obviously I can't speak for all the sororities, but I would be very surprised if belonging to a drinking group had any affect whatsoever on your ability to get a bid. (Drug-related groups, however, could be a different story.)


Speaking of how we represent our organizations on here, I don't think I'll surprise anyone by saying that, as standards vary wildly from school to school and org to org, we should just keep our eyes out for own sisters and leave other people's alone, mmmkay? For example, at my school, alcohol and shacking were absolutely acceptable, thus alluding to them on the facebook would be par for the course with sorority girls. At other schools, not so much. My personal opinion is that as a PNM, you should err on the side of caution and not join groups like "I'm the ABC University's Version of Paris Hilton!" Once you've been a member of the system for a while, you know what's acceptable and what's not, and you can adjust your profile accordingly.

[tunatartare]

Depending on the school I feel that joining party groups, not necessarily the "look at me, I'm a slut" group might actually help you. People do join sororities for the social and party aspect of it, and while every sorority wants the girl who has a 4.0, does lots of community service, the whole nine yards, how much is she really going to fit in with your chapter if she never goes out with anyone from it? When I was rushing, in one group's room I was asked by the girl who was showing me around "where do you usually go to party?" and this being before I had my fake yet, my friends and I didn't go out much and I told her that. I had a feeling that me being cut from that group had something to do with that.

[Buttonz]

Originally posted by KLPDaisy
Depending on the school I feel that joining party groups, not necessarily the "look at me, I'm a slut" group might actually help you. People do join sororities for the social and party aspect of it, and while every sorority wants the girl who has a 4.0, does lots of community service, the whole nine yards, how much is she really going to fit in with your chapter if she never goes out with anyone from it? When I was rushing, in one group's room I was asked by the girl who was showing me around "where do you usually go to party?" and this being before I had my fake yet, my friends and I didn't go out much and I told her that. I had a feeling that me being cut from that group had something to do with that.

I got to agree with Daisy (what a suprise). My first semster as an active we had a NM who had (has) the highest GPA, on honor roll, double major, does community service etc. But she is always so busy with all that she will go out and party when she has to be somewhere (example: Halloween Night),a nd she isn't around a lot, even as a NM she wasn't around because of everything else she does. I felt bad that she didn't gel with us as much as two of her other pledge sisters did. I'm just happy her little was understand when she couldn't be around. (Yes Daisy it's who you are thinking it is).

Sometimes showing that you like to go out, party, and have a good time isn't always a bad thing.

[Little_0ne]

Thanks for reassuring me guys.