Turning whores into house-wives

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

Better watch out Craig....my OWN father was a man whore back in the day. Guess what happened?

He got FIVE very wild daughters...

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

my point about having a kid with a woman you're not in love with is, things can get VERY tangled VERY quickly.

If you're married, usually a couple is willing to work together a little more -- same with a boyfriend/girlfriend who have a kid. There's a relationship at stake outside the parenting.

You want to be able to focus on raising the kid, NOT on a bitter custody battle with a woman you barely know.


Cosign on a surrogate mother or adoption.

[Rudey]

Is this thread beyond a joke? There are two things I can think of right now that would end my good life at my age:

1) Losing all my limbs and living in a potato sack
2) Having a kid

-Rudey

[sugar and spice]

This entire thread makes me wanna throw up, by the way. Thanks, guys.

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Children give me nightmares.

Also, I don't know what I believe about whether or not someone can change their ways, ie become a one woman man after being with a million women at the same time. My thing is, why would I even be attracted, much less want to have CHILDREN with someone who had a past like that? Yuck! I'd like to stay STD free thankyouverymuch. (And yes I realize that promiscuous (sp?) women and men don't ALL have STD's but their chances are clearly much higher)

[ms_gwyn]

Originally posted by FAB*SpiceySpice
Children give me nightmares.

not so much nightmares....its that I just don't want any....

oh well......

and I will stop right there, since this is a public forum.

[aephi alum]

I don't know what I believe as to whether a promiscuous person (of either sex) could settle down with a single long-term partner. I'd say it's unlikely... it would have to be the right people at the right time.

I myself would be very wary of entering into a possible long-term monogamous relationship with a man known for his promiscuity. All that means is that I'm not the right woman to settle down with a man who's had 100+ partners.

I agree that it's a bad idea to get married simply to have a child. Marriage is about more than children.

Slight hijack: HotDamnImAPhiMu's post back on page 1 drives home an important lesson. If you're engaging in promiscuous sex, or even not-so-promiscuous sex, USE A CONDOM. A man never knows if a woman is lying about being on the pill. The pill has a certain failure rate. Plus, the pill and most other BC methods offer no protection against sexually transmitted diseases.

[KillarneyRose]

Originally posted by cashmoney
I understand you believe that, but have you actually seen it happen?

I have, yes. Mr. KR and I are friends with a couple, both of whom were beyond whorish before they got married. I mean, she would have one "date" leaving through the back dore while date #2 was ringing the front doorbell. And, 10 years after the fact, his bachelor party is still legendary.

You'd never know that now, however. He's a lobbyist in D.C. and coaches his kids' sports teams she's a soccer mom complete with Range Rover. And they seem really settled down and content.

Sometimes you just need to get stuff out of your system

[KillarneyRose]

Originally posted by Rudey
I didn't know if it was L or El. Like El Ron Hubbard makes him sound like he's a Spanish heart throb.

-Rudey

I was like that with that quarterback John Elway. Before I saw his name in written form, I could never figure out if he was named "John Elway", "Johnell Way" or "John L. Way".

[James]

A certain small percentage of relationships stay in the kind of love that we think of as infautation.

You can usually tell because they act like adolescents around each other, a lot of affectionate playful touching and generally can make watchers a little nauseous.

Personally, I think thats what a true romance is and would think it appropriate to leave someone that you no longer felt like that towards.

What I am not sure of is whether that type of couple has an uncommon bond or just incredible social skills.

Originally posted by cashmoney
I don't believe that married people keep that magical "in love" feeling very long. Most married people tell me that feeling goes away and that the reason why they stay married is because they're committed and not because they're "in love."

[Rudey]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose
I was like that with that quarterback John Elway. Before I saw his name in written form, I could never figure out if he was named "John Elway", "Johnell Way" or "John L. Way".

Yeah John El Way was a Latino heart throb.

Speaking of Latinos, I watch Telemundo even though I don't understand much of what's going on because every girl is half naked...even on the kid's shows.

-Rudey
--Thought I would share.

[madmax]

Originally posted by honeychile
I've known two former prostitutes who were able to escape their pimps, change their entire life around, and are both respectable wives. I'm sure it happens all the time - just like any other marriage, as long as two people are willing to do their best to make it work, it will.

Do their husbands know they were hookers?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
I dated a Marine who came back from Iraq and went a little crazy when he got home. A lot of drinking, a couple one night stands, a lot of wild nights out with his buddies.

Two months after he'd been back, he met me. Things were great, we fell in love, he didn't feel the drive to do crazy stuff anymore. Five months after we'd started dating, one of those one night stands called him.

She'd lied about being on the pill, she said, and was 7 months pregnant with his child. A DNA test after the child was born proved the Marine was the father, and it's been a nightmare for the poor guy ever since.

This girl. Has done nothing. But screw him over. I'm not with the guy anymore, but I talk to him every once in awhile, and it's always something different -- the mom filed for some crazy custody situation. Is threatening to sue him because he didn't pay any prenatal costs. Is threatening to move out of state. Wants the dad to date her. Says she's being thrown out of her place. Says she needs money to buy baby formula. Lots of lying, lots of heartache. She even tries to keep the guy from seeing his son, whenever she starts seeing a new guy.

This girl's still doing cocaine and working as a waitress and living off her parents. The guy's life has fallen apart -- he lost a great relationship with a great girl (haha, that'd be me), a *ton* of money on DNA tests, court costs, lawyer's fees, and child support -- and now he's 23, tied to a woman he hates for the next 18 years, and stuck in DC because if he moves anywhere else -- even as a career move! -- that ends his relationship with his kid.



What I'm trying to say is, please don't have a baby with a woman you're not in love with. It's guarenteed heartache. And the baby is pretty screwed -- that's not the home life a child deserves. No matter how together Daddy is, Mommy is a mess, and Mommy's set on making relations between Daddy and son a mess.

DAYUM HotDamnImAPhiMu!!! Did we date similar lusers???

Cash, honey,

Tell you wannabe Tiki Barber friend that his idea is just plain dumb. He is just asking for more than he bargained for and if he marries just for kids and it still does not make him a decent father...

Why doesn't he just go out and invest like Michael Jackson did and not marry the woman who had his child but have legal rights on her womb and subsequent birth of his child--i.e. surrogate mother? He just has fun as the sperm donor? Hayle, if the chick was bisexual, then he'd be hooked up for life without responsibility...

But bringing children into the world is an ADULT responsibility... We have too many "children" having babies that do NOT take responsibility for their actions--just look at the kiddie courts in your Sunshine State? Drama for your baby's mama...

If your friends want to marry, then hayle, have a mail ordered bridal service, give her US citizenship and send her off on her way after however long the US Immigration with Homeland Security says you have to be married... At least do the nation a service by making more Americans...

And there are many blonde-headed Eastern European chicks begging to be brides... That's a joke everyone...

But really, y'all need to slow your roll with the RBI's of chicks... That is a quick way to get a bullet in your head or food poisoning... Y'all gonna hook up with one of those Voodoo chicks that buries your underwear out in the front lawn where y'all cain't leave the house...