Do you still attend formals?

[Lady Pi Phi]

My chapter invites alumnae to formal and I still attend.

Our formals are not strictly dinner and dancing. our formal also includes our chapter awards and there are alumnae awards so it's nice that the alum can be there to receive them.

I'm really surprised that alum are not allowed to attend formal. I had to pay for my formal ticket just like everyone else. I also had to RSVP. I don't see what the problem is. If you've paid and you've let the chapter know you will be attending good. You can come. If you decide to crash the party then you should be asked to leave alum or collegian.

[ADqtPiMel]

We invite alumnae to formal, but they must pay for themselves and for their date. If they show up without RSVPing (and therefore aren't on the list) they won't be allowed in. It has never been a problem.

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by LyonLuv
Yeah, Alumni are not allowed at any sort of formal/semi formal or meetings. They aren't allowed to drink with us either. It's a national rule that we've checked and rechecked over and over because we would really love if we could be "sister" like with them, ya know? They are allowed at recruitment. I think the reason for them not being able to participate in so much at the collegiate level is so #1 the chapter can grow with it's new members and #2 they will be more involved in offical alumni stuff. *shrugs*

As for the house thing, we don't have a house so i have no clue. maybe another Phi Mu could answer that?

Wow, your chapter needs to get the sticks out of their asses!

[33girl]

Originally posted by Dionysus
Wow, your chapter needs to get the sticks out of their asses!

T, I'm so glad we're brothers

Originally posted by Dionysus
Wow, your chapter needs to get the sticks out of their asses!

My thoughts exactly.

[CarolinaCutie]

Originally posted by Dionysus
Wow, your chapter needs to get the sticks out of their asses!

Ummm as I've clarified, it's a national policy. It's not like LyonLuv's chapter is purposefully alienating their alums.

Originally posted by CarolinaCutie
Ummm as I've clarified, it's a national policy. It's not like LyonLuv's chapter is purposefully alienating their alums.

I guess it's just hard to understand how a national could condone such a thing.

LA, you know I love you and I don't mean any disrespect to Phi Mu...and I can see your nationals' reasons why they have the policy they do.

Many of us put such a stress on sisterhood, and when we hear of alums that are prohibited from socializing with collegians, I'm guessing that we are quick to assume that they're being alienated -- especially since most of us are allowed to attend these events.

[AGDee]

It is important that alumnae who do attend need to realize that they share liability for things that go on at these events. I suspect that's why Phi Mu doesn't allow it at all. I think it's great when alumnae still want to attend functions, just so they all realize that if anything negative goes on, they need to take appropriate action. Whether they are advisors or not, they're likely to be seen as chaperones when attending things like formal.

I love being around collegians, but feel too old to go to formals anymore..lol.

Dee

[honeychile]

Originally posted by ADqtPiMel
We invite alumnae to formal, but they must pay for themselves and for their date. If they show up without RSVPing (and therefore aren't on the list) they won't be allowed in. It has never been a problem.

That's our chapter's policy, too.

[Little E]

We never had a problem with people not RSVPing for formal, though to be honest few alumnae ever came.

Is Phi Mu's policy based on liability insurance?

For our five year we had no problems, we had it at a hotel, found a bar sponsor so if we didn't hit the cash bar minimum, someone other than the chapter would pay the hotel. We had it where the alumnae were staying so that we didn't have to provide them transportation elsewhere and we had vans to shuttle the women. It went quite smoothly.

[Jill1228]

What she said. I have been invited but for the reasons stated below (and because I am usually working), I didn't go. (Yes Alumnae had to pay, which is cool).


I am pretty much like, thanks but no thanks. Have fun and most of all BE SAFE!

Originally posted by AGDee
I love being around collegians, but feel too old to go to formals anymore..lol.

Dee

[aephi alum]

My chapter does not invite alums to formals. I don't know if that's a national policy or not.

I wouldn't have gone anyway... I've moved away.

[CarolinaCutie]

Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine
I guess it's just hard to understand how a national could condone such a thing.

LA, you know I love you and I don't mean any disrespect to Phi Mu...and I can see your nationals' reasons why they have the policy they do.

Many of us put such a stress on sisterhood, and when we hear of alums that are prohibited from socializing with collegians, I'm guessing that we are quick to assume that they're being alienated -- especially since most of us are allowed to attend these events.

I can definitely understand your point of view. It's funny, before this question came along, I had never really questioned our policy. I can't even imagine alums at our formal. I do think the concept is sort of nice though.

[WesternAlumn]

I have been to formals as an alum. While it has been okay, I did not feel a connection with the current members. It felt like a cash grab (an attempt to spread out their costs). I have not attended one in the past couple of years and I think that is the way it should be for all alum.

It would be nice if my chapter had an event where they can meet and greet alum because I don't think a formal is the ideal event (as the girls are usually more concerned about their looks, their dates, etc).

[g41965]

No. I'm too old and don't think I'd enjoy.