a serious question

[texas*princess]

Originally posted by Little E
Try to stick it out longer if you can.
Because it sounds like NPHC is not an option for you if you quit, I'd look at either locals, multi-cultural or NPC orgs if you still want to be greek. National groups will be your best bet for after college interaction.
Good Luck

I agree Little E. There are also professional fraternities or special interest GLOs that you might also want to look into.

Without knowing the details of why you want to depledge, I don't think anyone here should be saying "that's too short" or "that's disrespectful".. b/c none of us know what they are going through that makes them feel that way.

[SAIAlum]

Originally posted by texas*princess
I agree Little E. There are also professional fraternities or special interest GLOs that you might also want to look into.

This seems like a good place to put this...
I don't know your situation so I'm not commenting on that. But, please, if you want to join a special-interest or professional GLO, make sure you are doing it because you agree with the ideals/aims of those organizations. I am a little tired of this advice that if rush or whatever doesn't work out, just try a different type of GLO!

All I'm saying is, please don't join just so you have some kind of letters, join because you actually want to be a part of THAT group. I'm not trying to tell anybody not to join SAI or APO or whatever, but we aren't just "fallback" organizations.

[navane]

Originally posted by SAIAlum
This seems like a good place to put this...
I don't know your situation so I'm not commenting on that. But, please, if you want to join a special-interest or professional GLO, make sure you are doing it because you agree with the ideals/aims of those organizations. I am a little tired of this advice that if rush or whatever doesn't work out, just try a different type of GLO!

All I'm saying is, please don't join just so you have some kind of letters, join because you actually want to be a part of THAT group. I'm not trying to tell anybody not to join SAI or APO or whatever, but we aren't just "fallback" organizations.

Yeah, that's right up there with "You can always do AI".


.....Kelly

[erica812]

I TOTALLY agree that SAI, APO, and other special interest orgs are not "fallbacks," but some people investigate Greek Life because they are looking for camaraderie, community involvement, and a long tradition. Suggesting these "alternatives" may catch the interest of potentially wonderful members who will find a perfect fit in our "type" of GLO. If I had not had an "unsuccessful" Rush experience as a freshman, I probably would not had the time to even look into APO that Spring. I am REALLY glad that things turned out as they did.

Erica

[texas*princess]

Originally posted by SAIAlum
This seems like a good place to put this...
I don't know your situation so I'm not commenting on that. But, please, if you want to join a special-interest or professional GLO, make sure you are doing it because you agree with the ideals/aims of those organizations. I am a little tired of this advice that if rush or whatever doesn't work out, just try a different type of GLO!

All I'm saying is, please don't join just so you have some kind of letters, join because you actually want to be a part of THAT group. I'm not trying to tell anybody not to join SAI or APO or whatever, but we aren't just "fallback" organizations.

Yes, I totally agree. Being a part of a professional group, I have seen people who come through wanting just letters or wanting to be part just to put the professional/special interest group on their resume or whatever.. and just like NPC rush, those are the ones that do not get bids

I also agree w/ erica812, in saying that suggesting these alternatives, may catch the interest in potential members b/c they also offer camaraderie, community involvement, and things of that nature. It doesn't even have to be limited to service/special interest/professional GLOs. If they find they like math, I would suggest looking for a math club or something like that. It might be another way to get involved on campus that they did not know previously existed aside from the "mainstream" GLOs.

[bluethunder]

Originally posted by gillman
I was four days into the pledging process with one specific African-american sorority. I thought I like these girls at first but while in the process I noticed that these were girls that I did not want to call sisters.

oh, then...
that's different. i thought you had already PLEDGED as in "crossed"...as in ALREADY A MEMBER.
that changes everything...

[adpiucf]

Unless you were being hazed in those 4 days, there is no way you have given enough time to getting to know all of the members and giving the organization or yourself a true chance to get acclimated.

If you are so quick to drop an activity, then Greek Life is probably not the right outlet for you-- you might enjoy 1-2 activities on campus that are not as time-consuming or exclusive.

[ladygreek]

Actually, I find the original post suspect.

[Virtuous Woman]

What makes you think that the other organization's pledge process would be different? I know of a girl who was pledging Alpha Phi Omega and felt like some of what was required of her was too "extreme" and then decided to "pledge" a BGLO sorority only to find that the same things were expected of her (i.e. humility, commitment, etc.)

[_Opi_]

Originally posted by gillman
I pledged a sorority that I thought was going to be the bomb and it wasnt. On the fourth day I decided that I was going to drop. Is it to late to join another sorority?

What do you mean they were the bomb? what was so "the bomb" about them? You need to ask yourself this question. Did you do research and come to that conclusion? Or are you basing it on your perception of the girls on your campus?

I was four days into the pledging process with one specific African-american sorority. I thought I like these girls at first but while in the process I noticed that these were girls that I did not want to call sisters.

You need to figure out all the viable reasons why you don't like these girls anymore. Is it just that chapter, or the organization in general?

I would take the advice of what most people said on this thread. You need to take a time out and figure out why you want to join a sorority to begin with, and do research.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by ladygreek
Actually, I find the original post suspect.

I find it suspect, too... Hmmmm??? Something more sinister is afoot...

Hey, revoke your membership. But I doubt you will be able to every join another NPHC sorority with all the greeks on your campus not knowing it...

Just by your post, you sound like a T-shirt wearer in everybody's organization... A greek-groupie... Whatever's hype in the season...

Oh well... "de-pledge" if you want to... But, your name will be marked bigtime.

ETA: In the NPHC, we do not touch each other's potentials or interests... Once they have commenced with their membership intake processes, we refrain from trying to lure them away. Forever... Once an interest in one organization, always an interest. Interest RARELY switch traits. If they do, they will get blacklisted and blackballed. That is how it is done now every since the pledging moratorium was lifted in 1990...

It is unwise to broadcast your interest to a NPHC organization without seriously considering how it will change your life...

[starang21]

Originally posted by ladygreek
Actually, I find the original post suspect.

indeed.

4 days......interesting.

[ThaBrickHouse]

Originally posted by texas*princess
I agree Little E. There are also professional fraternities or special interest GLOs that you might also want to look into.

Without knowing the details of why you want to depledge, I don't think anyone here should be saying "that's too short" or "that's disrespectful".. b/c none of us know what they are going through that makes them feel that way.

Black Greeks don't de-pledge.

[starang21]

Originally posted by ThaBrickHouse
Black Greeks don't de-pledge.

[skajeff]

Bringing up race, sad.