How do you tell them nicely...

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by PhoenixAzul
And then guys bitch and moan when a woman says "i'm getting fat!".

No, saying that doesnt bother us. Because if you keep telling yourself that you'll end up doing something about it. What we bitch and moan about is when you say it ALL THE FUCKING TIME!!!!!!!



-take a lesson, ladies. Dont say you're getting fat more than twice a day.

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Originally posted by Corsulian
"say, do you hear that?"
"what?"
"sounds like someone here is getting fatter...and I think it's you"

HAHAHA...I love it.

In all honesty though, I wouldn't have the first clue how to tell my boyfriend that I think he's getting fat. I solve this problem by simply not having a boyfriend.

As for girls developing eating disorders and distorted images of their bodies and such, honestly I think the criticism from other GIRLS is a bazillion times worse than coming from your boyfriend. Girls, especially in jr high/high school/early college, can be just flat out mean for no reason (I know this b/c I totally was...oops ). I don't think that your significant other telling you that you might think about losing some weight (and doing it nicely of course) is going to hurt you as much as one of your girlfriend's giving you the once over before you go out together and asks if you're "seriously planning to wear that?".

I don't know what I am trying to say, but if your significant other needs to lose weight (health problems, etc.) I would put worrying about hurting their feelings aside and tell them straight up that they have a problem.

[Lady Pi Phi]

There's a difference between telling someone they are fat and need to lose weight because their weight has gotten out of control and they are putting 20, 40, or more pounds on. Yes, there is the person's health at stake and saying something (but saying it tactfully) is not a problem. Telling your SO that they are fat and need to lose weight because they put on 5 pounds over the holidays is not right.

[LeslieAGD]

Originally posted by AGDee
I wouldn't tell them that they need to lose weight. I would do things like... go to healthier restaurants with them, cook dinners that are healthier, stop having junk food around the house, say "I want to get in better shape and I'm going to start exercising, I think it will be a lot more tolerable, or even fun, if you'll exercise with me". Focus on a healthier lifestyle for the two of you rather than on her losing weight.

Ditto

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Originally posted by lauren1874
But even though I've gained a few pounds since he moved in and I complain about it CONSTANTLY (though I never complain without taking action), he tells me he can't see it and he doesn't know what I'm so concerned about.

That seems like a reasonable reaction re: 8 pounds.